Text: Qu Ailing
(Picture source: Taiwan Knowledge Base "Qu Ailing's Magic Book of A-Cao Parenting")
Many parents are very taboo to others in discipline their children, and even conflicts between children often trigger disputes between parents, but I advocate not being afraid that others will discipline their children.
Once, I was doing an activity in , the 101 building, and saw a pair of parents chatting themselves and letting the children crawl around on the escalator. The child, who was about seven or eight years old, walked on the escalator in the opposite direction and played on the escalator. At that time, I was about to go on stage to host the event. As soon as I saw this scene, I walked directly to the escalator opposite, grabbed the younger brother, and said, "How can you stand here and play? This is very dangerous. You can't play like this, you will be injured." The younger brother looked at his parents, and his parents glared at me, "What do you care about my child!"
I walked to the parents and said, "I'm going to work later, but if I hear what happened to your child at work, I didn't come to stop it, I will be unable to get along with myself, so I must tell you. You are chatting here and don't pay attention to how your child plays there. This is very dangerous. Didn't you see the news? The child's hands and feet are pinched, or they fall and get injured after a while. If I go in and preside over something, I will be I feel that it is inappropriate for me not to do this in my life. Maybe you are a little unhappy and think I have done so many things, but I don’t want any accidents to happen. "
Just like our guards will cooperate with me "police and the public". When the child is not good, I will call the guard room and ask the guard: "Wait for a moment, if Maomao is not good, can he go to your guard room to stand for punishment?" The guard said, "Yes!" So the guard later had a tacit understanding with me. When I came to deliver things, I would deliberately say, "Maomao, are you good? There is a place over there that allows you to stand for punishment!" Maomao would quickly say, "I'm very good, I don't have to go down and stand for punishment."
Some parents said they were not good to their children and sent them to the police station. The children felt that their parents were just scaring them, but I directly called the intercom in the guard room, and the children heard it. I said to the guard, "Can they come down and stand up? Because he is a little unbearable at home." The guard not only said yes, but also said that he could come up and pick them up. They have never really been punished to stand there. Just hearing it, they are already very nervous. It is not the uncle of the doorman who is terrible. I said, "It is the people in the whole building who see you standing there. This is a shame. Everyone will know why you are punished to stand there." He will think, "I don't want to go down, I want to be more obedient."
Don't be afraid that others will discipline your child. Isn't it great if someone helps you to make your child's behavior better? Like my friend, if he says, "Maomao, you can't be like that." I will let him talk. I will also remind Maomao: "Be obedient, uncle is angry." I will say to my friends: "If you think Maomao's behavior is wrong, it doesn't matter if you scold him." Because I think that with so many adults staring at him together, it just happens to correct the child's bad behavior. This is a good thing for children.
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