Like Brigitte Lin , after the age of 40, she has two daughters, takes care of her eldest daughter, and manages various complex relationships in a large family. It is definitely not a smooth journey. But after crossing over from a more painful sea of love, what else can’t be let go?
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html In the early morning of July 8, Brigitte Lin was located in Fei'e Shan, Hong Kong, China There was a fire in her mansion, and she responded through a friend's message, "Everything is fine, thank you for your concern."
Some time ago, some netizens met the 67-year-old goddess Brigitte Lin and happily posted photos on social platforms.
Brigitte Lin in the photo does not look like the long flowing hair in the drama. She has neat short hair. She is wearing a black suit and a black tie. She looks heroic.
Brigitte Lin was once "the most beautiful woman in Southeast Asia", with long black hair and a pair of talking eyebrows. She was called "the first echelon on the ceiling of human appearance".
Whether he plays Dao Ma Dan or Dongfang Bubai, he is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
She can be said to be an influential and legendary actress in the Chinese film industry, and a real big star. After she retired from the industry, no female star has had such box office appeal.
In the past 30 years, there has been a lot of speculation about the marital status of Brigitte Lin and Xing Liyuan.
Some media said that their marriage had come to an end, and there were also many rumors that Xing Liyuan had an illegitimate child.
In order to break these rumors, Xing Liyuan gave Brigitte Lin a top-notch mansion in the mountains worth 1.1 billion on the day she turned 60. The decoration alone cost more than 600 million.
This mountain villa has three floors. The upper floor is a tennis court, the middle floor is a rooftop farm, and the bottom floor is a swimming pool. The scenery is pleasant, and it is no exaggeration to say it is a paradise.
As Asia’s top leader, Brigitte Lin, is she short of money?
As long as she is willing to appear, advertisers, film and television parties will probably line up to come to her.
But obviously, the significance of this house does not lie in the value of the property, but that it means that Brigitte Lin completely owns her own space. She does not need to socialize with other wealthy families, and she does not need to be busy making a comeback to make money to solve her husband's debt crisis. .
Brigitte Lin had already made an extremely important decision in her life when she decided to quit the industry at the age of 40.
No longer be the big star Brigitte Lin, but be the person Brigitte Lin.
This is what I admire most about Brigitte Lin.
Although she has been in the entertainment industry for decades, she still retains the best qualities in her heart.
These are the most penetrating wisdom of being a woman.
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The time goes back to 1994, when the big star Lin Qingxia actually married the rich man Xing Liyuan who had only been dating for half a year. The man is plain-looking and has been married once.
The media at the time complained that the beautiful woman was going to marry off and become a stepmother for someone else.
At that time, Brigitte Lin was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people for her role as the Invincible of the East and she was a popular goddess in Asia.
As soon as the news of the wedding came out, the media was in an uproar and countless fans were heartbroken.
Because everyone has always thought that the person who finally got married to Brigitte Lin must be Qin Han who has been with her for many years.
Qin Han, as a famous Qiong Yao boy, not only has an extraordinary family background, but also has a very handsome appearance, which is deeply loved by the audience.
Brigitte Lin and him met on the set of " Window ", and fell in love with each other because of the drama.
But at that time, Qin Han was already married and was about to be a father, but he couldn't control himself and was attracted to Brigitte Lin. While feeling ashamed of his wife, he approached Brigitte Lin.
For this reason, Brigitte Lin was stigmatized as a "mistress". For a time, because she could not bear the pressure of public opinion, she had to suspend filming and escape abroad to relax.
For 20 years, the two people separated and reunited, which is known to the world.
Lin Qingxia definitely loved Qin and Han Dynasties deeply.
At that time, Brigitte Lin exposed the bikini photos that Qin Han had taken of herself on "Tonight". She shyly and proudly said that these were taken by her boyfriend, Mr. Sun.
The host asked who had the surname Sun, Brigitte Lin said lovingly: Everyone knows it. (Qin Han’s real name is Sun)
A woman’s expression when she is in love cannot be hidden.
Several male guests complained: Qin and Han were not very good and lacked responsibility.
Brigitte Lin immediately stood up and said: He is the best man in the world. If I don't blame him, then other people have no right to blame him.
The innocent expression of a woman when she is in love can be seen at a glance.
is the best man in the world. He has given her the most tenderness and romance, but he has also given Brigitte Lin the most disappointment and the deepest hurt.
In 1992, Brigitte Lin, who was injured while filming, called Qin Han, her boyfriend of nearly 20 years, hoping that he could come and accompany her.
However, Qin Han only replied to her with five words: Who pays for the air tickets.
These five cold words made Brigitte Lin decide to give up this long-running love.
struggled with each other several times, but in the end they were treated coldly and they broke up.
So Brigitte Lin decided not to struggle in this relationship anymore and to be herself.
The following year, Brigitte Lin, who had just recovered from her emotional trauma, met Xing Liyuan at the celebration banquet of the crew of " New Dragon Inn ".
Many people speculate that Brigitte Lin and Xing Liyuan are together, one is motivated by sex, and the other is motivated by money.
The media and fans are not optimistic about this relationship, and there are very few supportive voices. The outside world is analyzing this relationship and betting on how soon they will break up.
But in fact, neither of them is as superficial as everyone thinks.
Brigitte Lin was obviously not a woman who only married for money, and Xing Liyuan was not considered a top rich man at that time.
Ms. Qiu Zhang, a well-known Taiwanese lawyer, once revealed in an article that Brigitte Lin said something like this: "A man says he loves you and won't marry you for 18 years, and another man is willing to marry you after 18 days of loving you. Love." Whether you love someone or not, you can see clearly. "
This principle is not only a summary of her first half of life, but also her wisdom as a woman.
A woman, when she is hurt by sweet words, will turn to appreciate men who are silent but give answers with practical actions.
If you have read Yishu novels, you can see the shadow of men like Xing Liyuan in the stories of countless beauties.
is good at listening, not interfering or controlling, silently appreciating and supporting. These qualities are always the quickest to impress beautiful women who have seen the world but are exhausted both physically and mentally.
One flew over and asked who would pay for the plane ticket, but the other flew over just to have a meal with her.
At that time, Brigitte Lin was at her most tired, having to film more than a dozen movies a year, and all she needed was such simple companionship.
Even a goddess, in that era, ultimately needed to prove to the outside world that I could have a happy marriage.
You must know that for men, career is definitely the icing on the cake, but for women, it constantly raises the threshold of marriage.
After all, everyone is looking forward to-who will the great beauty Brigitte Lin marry?
Lin Qingxia, who plays Qiong Yao drama background, is both fragile and romantic at heart. If she hadn't been entangled with Qin and Han for many years, it would be difficult for her to let go of her fantasies and enter a real marriage.
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Beauties like Brigitte Lin are still very popular even now.
Temperamentally androgynous , the stylist has a lot of room to play.
can play both a girl who I feel pity for, and also a chic and elegant chivalrous woman.
She is strong yet soft, soft yet strong. He can not only play the beautiful fairy sister, but also the delicate Jia Baoyu in The Red Mansion, and he can also play the undefeated Dongfang in The Swordsman.
Her beauty is unrivaled.
Someone once commented on Brigitte Lin: "Brigitte Brigitte's beauty is like traditional Chinese painting . There is a sense of wealth with large splashes of ink between her sword-shaped eyebrows and starry eyes."
It is no wonder that Jinsha mentioned her criteria for choosing a mate, saying that she hopes to find someone like Brigitte Lin: "The most stunning The pretty boy version of Jia Baoyu is played by my sister! I want to get married after watching it."
Yi Shu also wrote in "Brigitte Lin - Really Bad": "Brigitte Lin is cute, lively, young, beautiful, bold, temperamental, and full of potential. It’s just beautiful, it’s terrible.”
But Brigitte Lin doesn’t have a deep understanding of her own beauty. She always feels that she looks ordinary.
This is not because she is arrogant or arrogant, but because since she was a child, her mother Ma Lanying was afraid that she would get into trouble because of her beauty. She always called her ugly in front of her and said she was not as good-looking as her younger sister, which greatly affected her. confidence.
But this also perfectly fulfills a kind of temperament in her body, which is beautiful without knowing it, without any sense of artificiality.
Moreover, while she shed tears, she worked very hard to perform the role to the best.
Her friend Shi Nansheng wrote in Brigitte Lin's book that the life of a big star is extremely simple.
In addition to sleeping, I am filming. On days when work is not started, I go downstairs to have a cup of coffee, eat wonton noodles , and then continue to sleep, waiting for work to start.
originally wanted to quit, but because of starring in Tsui Hark 's martial arts film, he became famous far and wide.
was the busiest time, she didn't sleep in bed for 2 weeks in a row.
Such busyness gradually made Lin Qingxia lose herself and her happiness.
After young Brigitte Lin became famous, she had countless suitors, including business tycoons, peers in the industry, and industry elites.
In addition to her relationship with Qin Han, she also had several love affairs that ended in failure, and her personal relationships have always been very unhappy.
even had trouble sleeping at night because of relationship problems, and had to rely on sleeping pills to spend every night.
During those years in the entertainment industry, Brigitte Lin filmed more than 80 dramas in total, and there were no bad movies. Many of them became unsurpassed classic roles.
Brigitte Lin said: "I don't regret entering the entertainment industry, I just regret that I didn't know how to arrange it and lost too many happy times."
Even a great beauty suffered from having only work and no life when she was young. Occasionally I stop and wonder late at night, why are all the people I meet unkind?
The sufferings women in the world suffer are generally the same. Just because you are beautiful, you will not be able to have a hard-free life. How did
survive?
If you read Brigitte Lin's books, you will find that friends and besties are two extremely important pillars in her life.
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If you just watch the movies starring Brigitte Lin, you must think that she is an extremely strong, free and easy woman.
But in fact, Brigitte Lin loves to cry. She often talks on the phone to old friends and talks about her heart.
html When she was 119 years old and filming "Outside the Window", the director cut her hair and she kept crying home from the set.
hurt his eyes while filming "New Dragon Inn". He said that he cried over half of China. He cried from Dunhuang to the Yellow River, and then from the Yellow River to Hong Kong to seek medical treatment for his eyes.
During the filming of The Invincible, Tsui Hark turned his back and cried on the set. Tsui Hark felt extremely guilty and said: Qingxia, it’s my fault. But Brigitte Lin said: No, my life is bad.
Tsui Hark recalled the past of filming, and his only wish was: I just hope that she would not cry so long.
Therefore, in front of her friends, she has never had the burden of being an idol, and she has never regarded herself as a big star.
She went back to Shandong to visit relatives and passed by a grocery store. When she heard an old man say something in Shandong dialect, she immediately burst into tears because she thought of her father.
Her friends love her, pity her, and feel sorry for her, but they also know that such sensitivity and affection may be the reason for her talent as an actress.
It can be said that although her love luck is not very good, her luck in dating is extremely good.
She has the shrewd and capable Shi Nansheng to protect her in her career. Her friends in literature and art include Dong Qiao, Long Yingtai, Jiang Xun, Huang Zhan..., and her friends in the same industry include Teresa Teng, Leslie Cheung, Zhong Chuhong , Qiong Yao, Tsui Hark, Ang Lee ...
Everyone says that beautiful women have no real friendship.
But Ms. Lin is different. When she sees a beautiful woman, she turns on the praise mode and admires her from head to toe.
She admired Shi Nansheng and said that she was the most beautiful woman in the world.
She appreciates people of the same sex and is really willing to stay with them. She thinks they are all amazing.
In Brigitte Lin's life outside of being a star, the most photos of her life are travel photos with various friends.
Brigitte Lin and Teresa Teng are both alumni of Taiwan Girls' High School. Both of them became famous at a young age. They began to wander in the world of mortals when they were in their teens, but they have always cherished each other.
Teresa Teng likes to be quiet. The picture of the two of them together is completely different from the two of them on the stage. Each has its own quiet time.
That was a rare time for them to forget their celebrity status and fully enjoy and relax.
▲ In 1977, 23-year-old Brigitte Lin and 24-year-old Hu Yinmeng traveled to Italy together.
After retirement, Brigitte Lin said that she spent most of her life in writing and published several books in succession. .
After reading her works, Qiong Yao praised her: "Every article is beautiful! You have improved at an amazing speed and you are a writer!"
Brigitte Lin, who is over 60 years old, still maintains her enthusiasm for learning and often talks to students from the University of Hong Kong are together.
In addition to friends who travel together, pen pals who share reading and writing, Brigitte Lin also has Ma friends.
According to her, she got together with her poker friends whenever she had free time. She played cards for a whole day that day and was very "lucky".
She also created a painting of herself playing mahjong. It is very cute to connect the two hobbies of playing mahjong and painting.
She also posted on social media her dressing table with "no cosmetics visible". The table was full of books and there were no cosmetics at all.
With the outbreak of the epidemic, most residents of Hong Kong are staying at home to fight against the epidemic. Lin Qingxia took this opportunity to entertain her grandson at home and enjoy family happiness.
In the spacious mansion, she played table tennis, read and wrote during the day, and played mahjong with her granddaughter and grandson for entertainment at night.
She also wrote a handwritten letter "To the Frontline Anti-epidemic Heroes".
is also 60+. Brigitte Lin does not have the reverse growth of a girl's back, nor does she still have a slender waist.
She lives within her own age, her whole person exudes soft light, her eyes are clear, and she fully accepts her true self.
As for her marital status and whether her husband has any gossip, these may affect her mood occasionally, but they will no longer affect her living conditions.
After she came out of that entangled relationship, love or men were no longer the main theme of her life.
The only role she wants to play well from now on is herself.
Some people say that the most sad thing in the world is the gray hair of generals and the twilight of beauties.
But people will eventually grow old, and no one can change this fate.
Loved, hated, cried, and got angry. What
wants can be obtained with some effort. Some, no matter how hard you try, you may not be able to get them.
did not marry the person she loved most, but that was the beginning of her happiness.
Like Brigitte Lin, after the age of 40, she had to raise two daughters, take care of her eldest daughter, and deal with various complex relationships in a large family. It was definitely not a smooth journey.
But after passing through a more painful sea of love, what else can’t be let go?
Take others lightly and take yourself seriously.
This is the wisdom that women should have after the age of 40.
After you have seen the world and all living beings, what you have to return to in the end is to see yourself.
As much as you can do, don’t force yourself if you can’t do it.
For the rest, try your best to live a happier life.
