01 Watching "Happiness to Ten Thousands of Homes", I deeply feel that the fate of rural girls is really sad. It is really difficult for rural girls to get ahead and lead a life of their own. Let’s briefly analyze the three rural girls in the play: First: He Xingfu, the eldest sis

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Watching " Happiness Comes to Thousands of Homes ", I deeply feel that the fate of rural girls is really sad.

It is really difficult for rural girls to get ahead and live their own lives.

Let’s briefly analyze the three rural girls in the play:

First: He Xingfu, elder sister is like mother

He Xingfu, she sacrificed a lot in order to support her sister to go to college. She didn’t even finish junior high school.

The father passed away early, and the three of them, mother and daughter, depended on each other. In the countryside, if a family did not have a man, they would be looked down upon and life would be very difficult. He Xingfu is the eldest, and the eldest brother must know how to share the burden for his mother and help with farm work in the fields, so He Xingfu sacrificed his own opportunity to study and devoted himself to supporting his sister in college.

He Xingfu is so beautiful, she could have chosen a better family to marry; but in recent years, because she has to support her sister's education, it is relatively late by the time she talks about marriage. Finally, after her sister graduated from college, she was finally able to talk about marriage. But for a rural girl who hasn't studied for a few years, you don't have much choice in marriage.

He Xingfu has a very clear view of his identity: No matter how beautiful I am, I am not a rich lady. People have to accept their fate, so she chose an honest and responsible man. Even if he doesn't look right, as long as he is willing to live with her in a down-to-earth manner and is willing to treat her well, she will feel that he is worth it.

In fact, He Xingfu is considered to be well married: The old Wang family is an honest person. Although they are a small family, they will not treat her badly. My father-in-law is a bit stingy but sensible, and my mother-in-law is also a reasonable person. There is also a graduate student in Lao Wang's family, and there is also a college student in their family, so they are well matched.

For a rural girl with low education like He Xingfu: It is her destiny to find a good man, get married and have children. She has no choice. It is impossible for her to be a leftover girl like a city girl and pick and choose on marriage matters, let alone Never get married in your life.

Second: He Xingxing, it is difficult to get ahead after going to university.

He Xingxing is the pride of their old He family. He Xingxing provided her with education. She was also very successful. She was admitted to a key university in the provincial capital and studied law. .

Will rural girls get ahead after being admitted to college? No, but you have the qualifications to fight for yourself, and you have more control over your life.

He Xingxing was also under a lot of pressure. After going to college, she firstly knew that her native family was not good; secondly, she carried the hopes of her whole family, and she didn’t want to let them down, so she worked very hard for four years. The scores in professional courses are always first. But she didn't dare to go to graduate school because she was afraid that continuing to study would delay her sister's marriage.

She found a boyfriend in the city. She originally expected her boyfriend to help her at work, but who expected that she would encounter marriage trouble and her boyfriend disliked her and broke up with her. He Xingxing is desperate. She has been lost for many days because of her marriage. Can she change her destiny by going to college? No, you still have to survive in the city on your own, and you have to find a way to live a better life.

It is difficult for rural girls to struggle in the city. Without a background and no support, you can only move forward on your own.

Third: Wang Xiuyu, she also took out money for her brother’s marriage

Xiuyu really wanted to change her destiny by studying. Her parents had a patriarchal mentality and felt that it was useless for girls to study. Xiuyu would be better than He Xingfu. After all, Xiuyu was the youngest in the family, and her two brothers still doted on her. But Xiuyu did not go to college. Instead, she studied accounting and worked at Wanjia Group.

Wang Qinglai married He Xingfu. Money was needed for betrothal gifts and weddings, so Xiuyu also used the money she earned.

From the perspective of her parents, isn’t it normal for her brother to use some of your money for his wedding? Nothing to complain about.

’s parents also planned to let her take out the money when her second brother gets married.

Xiuyu was so angry that she wanted to run away from home, but fortunately her second brother had graduated from graduate school, so how could she be asked to pay?

Xiuyu is relatively lucky, but she is still deeply poisoned by the "preferring boys over girls" mentality. It is really difficult to live for herself.

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The TV series "Happiness to Ten Thousands of Homes" is very realistic. Because I am also from a rural area, I can particularly relate to it.

If a rural girl wants to change her destiny, the only way out is to study hard, go to a good university, work hard to move to a big city, and rely on her own ability to take root in a big city.

However, in today's society, it is too difficult for a person with no background and no support to get ahead, especially a rural girl.

Even if you have gone to college, it is still difficult.

I was born in 1990. When I was in elementary school, there were quite a few girls studying in the village. However, in junior high school, some boys and girls dropped out of school one after another, mostly girls. When I was in junior high school, the craze for part-time jobs was beginning. Some parents stopped letting their children study. They felt that it was useless for girls to study and they might as well go out to work early.

Zhu is my elementary school classmate. She studies well, is very smart, and writes very well. When she was admitted to junior high school, she entered the rural key school with excellent results. In the first year of junior high school, her results were still among the best, but she was She dropped out of school not long after her second year of junior high school. I remember very clearly that for a period of time, her academic performance dropped sharply. The reason was that her parents were arguing and did not want her to continue studying.

Her arm could not twist her thigh. Zhu later dropped out of school and went to work. I have always felt sorry for her.

My academic performance is far inferior to hers, and I am not as smart as her, but I have relatively good parents. My parents are very supportive of me going to school. To use my mother's words, "As long as you have the ability, you can do whatever it takes to sell the iron." I will also help you read.” My parents never thought about letting me drop out of school to work. They always believed that "reading changes your destiny."

A few years ago, I was pulled into a primary school classmate group by a classmate, and I got in touch with Zhu again. She said that she worked for several years, and then she got engaged and married when she was 18 years old, and gave birth to two children early. She asked me where I was now, and I told her that I was living in Xiamen . She said she was so envious of me.

Especially in 2016, there was a period of time when I traveled half of China alone. She commented in my circle of friends: You have lived the life I want. I don’t have my own life. I got married too early and had children. Don't know what to do. It seems like this is the end of my life.

Zhu and I have the fate of two typical rural girls: I went to a 211 college, then worked hard in the city I like, fell in love with a top student who graduated from 985, and worked hard for several years. He made money using his talents, bought a house and settled in the city he liked, then got married and had children, and had a career he liked;

Zhu dropped out of junior high school to work, then got married and had children very early, and lived a life of caring for his husband and raising children.

I remember what Zhu said: No matter what, I cannot let my children repeat my fate. They must study. Even if they go to college, they may not be able to find a good job, but their vision and structure are different. I like reading very much, but I don’t have the opportunity to study. We have three children and I am the eldest, so I have to sacrifice myself.

In the countryside where I grew up, families with many children are quite common. Not all children in a family can read. Some parents think that it is enough for their children to study for a few years and be literate. Therefore, very few girls can go to junior high school, let alone high school. Most of the dropouts are girls, but there are also boys. Most of them do not want to study because they are not up to par.Girls are usually forced to drop out of school because of their parents' ideas of "the uselessness of reading" and "preferring boys over girls". They like reading very much, but they are forced to drop out and go out to work.

should be relatively better now.

What I am talking about is the countryside of the era when I grew up.

My parents are quite special. They believe that reading is useful and do not favor boys over girls. We have four children in our family. My brother did not go to school, but the three girls went to college. My second sister and I both went to 211 colleges. The eldest sister went to a junior college, upgraded to a bachelor's degree, and then took the postgraduate entrance examination. The process was very tortuous, but my parents still supported her in studying to improve her academic qualifications.

Parents are relatively able to handle things clearly, so in our family there is no such thing as squeezing our daughters to sacrifice them. After the three of us graduated from college and started working, our parents never let us become "Brother-supporting Demons". My parents are very competent and try their best to give every child the right to follow the path he wants to take. My brother didn't go to school mainly because he didn't want to. My parents also paid for him to go to a martial arts school and learn auto mechanics, and later sent him to the army to serve as a soldier.

How can a rural family support three college students?

The three of us sisters completed our studies through work-study studies, grants and scholarships, and the "green channel". After we graduated and started working one after another, our family's life gradually improved. But it was a bit difficult to find a job in the city at first, and it only lasted a year or two. Later, as our income increased, our lives gradually got better.

We are not looking for people from the city, but free love. We are looking for people who are self-reliant and self-reliant through studying like us. We are of the same family, and can endure hardships like us. We have the same heart and are capable. After working hard for three to five years, we have established a foothold in the city.

The fate of rural girls seems quite sad, but you have this way to go: No matter what situation you are in, please live hard and live well.

Girls in rural areas are very hard-working and hard-working. As long as they are determined to live a good life, they will generally not be far behind.

I am especially grateful to my parents. It is their enlightenment that allows me to have the life I have now.

Rural girls must read more. Don’t say that reading is useless. Only by reading more books can you enrich your spiritual world and know what you really want? You should live well for yourself and think more about yourself. If you don't have parents who can handle things clearly, then please make your own decision.

It depends on what kind of life you want to live. You also have the ability to change your own destiny.

What is your definition of your life?

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Although He Xingfu had no choice but to marry Wang Qinglai, a "wimp", He Xingfu was not afraid of trouble, she was very capable, and she had an upward spirit that allowed her to live well; although He Xingfu was difficult to work alone in a big city, But she can endure hardship. The poverty and hardship she faces are temporary. Don’t rely on men. You have to rely on yourself to gain a foothold in the city. Wang Xiuyu must make up her mind to do what she wants, and don’t let her parents become a stumbling block for her. .

You have to find a way out for yourself. It may be difficult, but you have to live hard and work hard.

Complaining about the injustice of your native family and your parents' favoritism is of no use at all. You have to constantly improve yourself. Only when you become excellent will you have more control over your life. Otherwise, you have to listen to your parents in everything. And when you read more books, you can choose for yourself, and your parents can't interfere with you.

Girls in rural areas should fly out to have a look. As long as you have the ability, you can choose the life you want to live.

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★Author: YIBAO; an original emotional author who writes warm emotional things in this world.