Source: Hangzhou Daily
In mid-spring and April, the temperature has risen to 34 degrees. There is an old van parked under the shade of a tree next to Huifeng Plaza in Deqing, Zhejiang. Sitting in the passenger seat is an old lady with white hair and closed eyes. Her mouth is slightly open and her face is twitching from time to time, but her expression is stable.
Next to the van, Cao Gazi’s sesame seed stall usually opens at 1pm. Carrying flour, carrying seasonings, lighting the coal stove...the day's busy work and the hope of life are propped up in front of a small sesame cake stall.
The old man in the car stood up and opened his eyelids with difficulty, his eyes always looking in the direction of Cao Gazi, three meters away.
That is her son, a 50-year-old sesame seed uncle who brings his mother to the stall, a respectable and filial son who has taken care of his mother who has Parkinson's disease for 28 years.
"My mother can't live without me for a moment. Wherever I am, she is there."
"As long as I can devote my efforts to maintain the status quo of my mother, I will persevere. This is not necessary or not. It’s something that must be done. This is filial piety.”
html Over the past 328 years, Cao Jiaqi would answer this way when faced with many people’s questions or compliments.
Taking his mother with Parkinson’s disease to sell sesame seed cakes
Never leaving her 24 hours a day
“Wherever I am, my mother will be there.”
At 12 noon, Cao Jiaqi cooked a bowl of tomato and egg batter soup for his mother. After letting it cool for a long time, he brought it to his mother's bedside.
As soon as she took her first bite, 73-year-old Yu Fenying screamed in pain. Parkinson's disease caused her tongue to become hard and she could not express herself clearly. "She means don't eat." No one could understand the mother's words, only her son Cao Jiaqi. "I didn't understand it at first, but then I guessed and roughly understood what it meant."
Mother couldn't even take a bite of the batter that Cao Jiaqi carefully made. "She's like this when she's not in good condition. She doesn't want to eat. Parkinson's disease has many late-stage complications, and she often feels uncomfortable. " Yu Fenying refused to eat even after a few mouthfuls, and Cao Jiaqi put it down obediently. Bowl spoon.
After lunch, he started making and kneading dough, and went out in preparation for the mother and son's only source of livelihood-selling sesame cakes. Everything was ready, and a van borrowed from a relative’s house was loaded with all the equipment.
"Mom, we are leaving the stall." Cao Jiaqi lifted his mother from the bed, half-supported and half-carried her into the passenger seat, and fastened her seat belt. In the back seat of the car, he put bananas and apples. "My mother didn't have lunch today. She might be hungry later."
The weather was hot. Before going out, Cao Jiaqi specially prepared a small car fan for his mother. He placed it in front of the passenger seat and plugged it in. The cool breeze blew on Yu Fenying. He took out an old cardboard box, which was just big enough to cover the windshield and block the scorching sun. With some skillful operation, Cao Jiaqi created a cool world for the co-pilot's mother in a high temperature environment of 34 degrees.
Cao Jiaqi's sesame seed stall is quite famous in the small county, but the stall time is often not fixed. "In order to take care of my mother, I didn't do business for a year."
In 2020, Yu Fenying's condition worsened and she often had hallucinations. She always felt that someone around her was quarreling with her. She hit the bed hard, shouted, and repeatedly pressed the head of the bed. switch, one on and one off. This year, it became normal to send my mother to the hospital for emergency treatment in the middle of the night. In severe cases, she relied on psychotropic drugs to control her condition.
Since that year, Yu Fenying could not be separated from her side. On one side, he had to make money to support his family and treat illnesses, and on the other side, his mother needed 24-hour care. So Cao Jiaqi simply took her out of the stall. "Now I often 'fish for three days and dry the nets for two days'. Sometimes when half of the sales are made, she suddenly has a seizure and has to close the stall and go home."
The "mother-and-son bed" in the room has been there for 28 years.
In the middle of the night Get up and take care of your mother at any time
Every morning at 6 o'clock, Cao Jiaqi will wake up on time. "Mom, do you want to pee?" The first thing after getting up is to check her mother's status and diaper, then she goes into the kitchen and starts making a special breakfast for her.
A 10-square-meter room is the bedroom of mother and son, occupied by two "mother-child beds" . The mother's bed is by the window, with a medical guardrail installed on one side; Cao Jiaqi's simple wooden bed is on the right, and the two beds are only one step away Far away, there is a simple storage table made of two benches in the middle.
In order to make it easier to get up at any time in the middle of the night to help his mother go to the toilet, drink water, and wipe her saliva... html In 328, Cao Jiaqi and his mother slept in the same room every night from their youth until they knew their fate.
Parkinson's disease causes dysphagia . Yu Fenying has not eaten a grain of rice in three years. "Because the rice is relatively coarse, even though it is a very small grain, she cannot swallow it, so she can only eat some liquid food." Cao Jiaqi used a soymilk machine to make some soybean and sesame rice paste, and steamed three steamed dumplings and A free-range egg.
brought the sumptuous breakfast to his mother's bedside. He patiently put spoonfuls of rice cereal into her mouth. After a few sips, he broke the eggs into small pieces and continued feeding. Seeing that his mother had a good appetite, Cao Jiaqi Then he broke the meat buns into small pieces and put them in his mother's mouth.
"My mother hasn't eaten meat for many years because she can't eat it." The meat buns rolled a few times in Fenying's mouth and she couldn't continue to swallow them. Cao Jiaqi sighed and took out the buns. There were only a few mouthfuls of rice cereal left, so Cao Jiaqi put several pills he had prepared in advance on his mother's tongue and let her swallow them smoothly with the rice cereal.
"My mother is in good condition today and had a smooth breakfast." Cao Jiaqi looked very happy. After breakfast, he slowly helped his mother up from the bed, bent down and put on her shoes. put the mother's entire weight on his shoulders, and helped her to the bathroom to let her go to the toilet.
"In the early and middle stages of Parkinson's disease, my mother could still walk with a cane. Now that she has entered the advanced stage, her toes are bent inwards and cannot be straightened, and she is completely unable to walk."
"My wish is that my mother If my health gets better, I can live a few more years, but I can’t achieve it.”
“Before my mother got sick, I was only 22 years old and ignorant. After she got sick, I seemed to have grown up.”
28 years ago at noon one day. Cao Gazi's family was having lunch when the 45-year-old mother suddenly pointed to her shaking hands holding chopsticks and asked her son, "Why can't my hands stop shaking?" Soon, she was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. The family traveled to , Huzhou, , Hangzhou, Shanghai and other places to seek medical advice.
In the first 15 years, the condition could still be controlled with medication. After 15 years, the condition continued to worsen. In order to prolong her survival time as much as possible, Yu Fenying underwent multiple surgeries such as brain damage, brain pacemaker , and battery replacement. This also left Cao Jiaqi with more than 400,000 yuan in surgical fees and thousands of yuan per month. of medicine expenses.
"In the eyes of others, my mother is a burden, but everyone will grow old. As long as I have a son here, I will try my best to take care of her and make her life as comfortable as possible . In fact, she has no life now. The quality is good, as long as I can keep her alive, I will try my best to keep her alive," Cao Jiaqi said.
"You have taken care of your mother for so many years, do you have any wishes of your own?" the reporter asked in the quiet bedroom.
Cao Jiaqi fell into silence, and then said slowly: "My wish cannot be realized. I hope that my mother will get better and live a few more years, but it cannot be realized."
"Parkinson's disease is a disease that even doctors can't do anything about. Incurable disease. " A few years ago, he took his mother to the hospital for treatment. He was surprised to learn that the old doctor who diagnosed his mother more than 20 years ago had now become dementia, which made him very emotional.
According to medical statistics, most Parkinson's patients can live 10 to 20 years after diagnosis. Very few will survive 20 years later. Yu Fenying's survival to this day is inseparable from her son's careful care.
"I never thought about giving up, only when I was particularly helpless. But for my mother, I can only be strong, and my mother has to rely on me to support her."
I have been single for so many years
"No woman wants to enter my house"
Cao Gazi and his mother's home is in Shangbai Village, Wuyang Street, Deqing. An old house of more than 30 years was simply renovated last year, but the mottled and blackened exterior walls The original age of this farmhouse can be seen. “My relatives and friends persuaded me to renovate the house. The previous house was too dilapidated and no women wanted to enter my house. "
Cao Jiaqi, who is 50 years old, is still alone. In addition to the broken house, he also knows that his sick mother is a big obstacle to his marriage.
When Fenying rarely wakes up, she talks intermittently with vague words that only Cao Jiaqi can understand. The son said: "Find a companion, otherwise I will be gone and you will be all alone, what will you do..." No matter how hard it is, Cao Jiaqi has never shed tears, but every time he hears his mother say this, he wants to cry. As the saying goes, mother and son are connected. All mothers hope that their sons will have a family. "
But you can't ignore your mother in order to marry a wife. "Filial piety comes first, and you must fulfill your responsibilities. This is the most basic conscience. "Cao Jiaqi said firmly.
Over the years, Cao Jiaqi has been both a son and a daughter. He does everything from bathing, wiping, and haircuts. In addition to taking careful care every morning and evening, he also faces "emergency situations." When you are unconscious, you often have stools on your body. Because Parkinson's disease causes constipation, my mother only gets rid of it every four or five days. Her stools are extremely smelly, and only I can bear it. "
In front of the sesame cake stall every day, Cao Jiaqi not only has to do business, but also takes care of his mother. Some old people saw it and felt the same. They gave him a thumbs up and said: "Dutiful sons like you are really rare. ”
Everyone has been young, but most of us have not been old yet.
Text reporter Shen Xiaoyan Chen Wei Video reporter Zheng Chao Qiu Zekai
Correspondent Shen Huanhuan Photography Zhao Ning
