Source: Yidu (ID: iiiread)
Text: Wang Shishi
When I was surfing the Internet, I suddenly saw a very surprising news: Qiu Chen revealed that he had cancer .
Who is Qiu Chen?
Qiu Chen is a well-known female debater who has always been known for her clear thinking. In the show, she was either debating with great energy or joking with everyone, looking optimistic and cheerful.
But Qiu Chen, who seemed to be doing everything as usual on the show, was diagnosed with thyroid cancer plus lymph node metastasis as early as March this year.
36 years old, middle-aged, with a successful career, but suffering from cancer and facing death, what is it like?
I think it may be nervous and worried, or it may be fear, confusion, or even wanting to give up.
Qiu Chen originally had these feelings. But after she actually dealt with the God of Death, her thoughts changed:
"In fact, death is the most accurate education for life."
Why do you say that? Qiu Chen talked about his personal experience.
Before getting cancer, Qiu Chen had a very irregular lifestyle. Going to bed late, getting up late, and staying up all night were almost the norm.
Like many people, she firmly believes that inspiration only bursts out late at night, and work can only be completed late at night. She thinks that it is okay to go to bed late and get up late, since she is young and has a lot of time and energy.
Qiu Chen, who firmly believed that he had time and energy, was diagnosed with cancer.
Those careless attitudes towards health, prejudice and arrogance towards life suddenly become absurd and ridiculous in the face of death.
She didn't even have time to regret, she came face to face with death, and she would have to be with medicine and hospitals for the rest of her life.
After the operation, Qiu Chen did not need the doctor's pressure or the family's urging. He took the initiative to change his work and rest, insisted on exercising every day, and learned to go to bed early and get up early...
This is how a person grows after a real brush with death. and change.
We always overestimate the body's endurance, underestimate the fragility of life, think that youth is capital, stay up late is common, and death is far away from us...
But what is the reality?
The cigarettes you have smoked, the wine you have drank, the anger you have had, the nights you have stayed up, the cold you have endured in winter for beauty, and the laziness you have had in summer for pleasure, will all come back to your body sooner or later.
No one can escape the torture of time, and no one can laugh at the impermanence of the world. Before you realize it, the world is already secretly punishing those who don’t take good care of their bodies.
To be honest, Qiu Chen is quite lucky.
The thyroid cancer she suffered from is known as "the kindest cancer". As long as it is treated well, it is not life-threatening at all.
Some people are not so lucky, such as the recently deceased host Li Yong, such as returnee doctor Yu Juan.
Yu Juan graduated from a prestigious school, and later went to graduate school. After going abroad for further study, she became the youngest lecturer of at Fudan University.
Just when her love and career were both fruitful, fate and Yu Juan made a huge joke: At the age of 31, she was diagnosed with late-stage breast cancer.
What’s even more cruel is that when she was diagnosed, she only had one and a half years left.
This life has just begun, and he is being urged to leave in a hurry.
Yu Juan looked back on her short 31 years and suddenly realized that maybe she had been wrong all along.
She wrote this:
"I once threw myself at something that I didn't know if it was my goal in life. I have to say it was a stupid thing done by a fool. Only after I got sick did I realize that people should build their happiness on what can be We should not only look at short-term fame, wealth, power and love in terms of sustained and long-term life goals. Fame, wealth, power and love, none of them are effortless, but none of them can be taken away."
When a person spends too much time and energy on material, fame and wealth, the price is to miss the most cherished beauty in life:
"You will find that any overtime, too much pressure on yourself, buying a house or a car The demands are all just floating clouds. If you have time, spend time with your children, use the money to buy a car to buy a pair of shoes for your parents, don't go all out to buy a big house, stay with the people you love, and live in a small house with warmth. "
Before she died, Yu Juan wrote her feelings about life into a book called "This Life Is Not Completed".
"This Life Is Not Completed", in just five words, she expressed how many regrets and regrets she had. I have told you so many people’s truest feelings when the fast forward button is pressed in life.
We are accustomed to pursuing cars, houses, and money, thinking that these are the key to life’s existence. But one day, when we look back, we realize that people In this life, except for life and death, everything is actually trivial.
CCTV has previously exposed such an A4 paper of life:
If the average person is 75 years old, life is only a short 900 months. Draw a 30x30 table and an A4. Paper is enough.
If we fill out one grid every month, then our entire life will be displayed on this piece of paper.
If you are 20 years old this year, then the life you have completed is as follows:
If you finish college , your life will look like this:
Suppose you and your girlfriend/boyfriend have been in a relationship for 6 months , it will look like this on this piece of paper:
If You are a 30-year-old exhausted office worker . Your life is like this:
If you have just had a child, the days when you can get along with your child day and night before he goes to kindergarten is like this:
In Before your children go to college and leave home , you can probably get along for this long:
Assume our parents are fifty years old on average , their lives are like this:
If you see each other every day , can you accompany them? The time is like this:
If and you meet twice a month, the time you can spend with them is like this:
If you meet once a year, it will be like this:
How about? Does it feel shocking?
We always think that life is very long, but in fact, life after being quantified is not very long, not to mention the sudden attacks of diseases and accidents.
Buddha said that the biggest mistake in life is to think that you have time.
Qiu Chen is like this, Yu Juan is like this, and we ourselves are like this.
thinks that the years are long, and there is plenty of time to waste health and wanton behavior;
thinks that there are many tomorrows, there is no need to rush for many things, and there are many people who do not need to meet immediately;
thinks that the future is very long, and good clothes can be worn later, interesting places, etc. Go again, confess to the person you like later;
...
We waste time waiting, entangled with unimportant trivial matters, and argue with people we don't want to do... We often forget that life comes and goes, and there really is not that much time left.
Every day we are experiencing now is the youngest day in the rest of our lives, and it is a yesterday that will never come back.
The rest of your life is expensive, don’t waste it.
In China, we rarely discuss disease, aging and death, because they sound too "sad" and "unlucky".
Because of this, I especially like what Qiu Chen said at the end, "Death is the best teacher when it comes to living."
Because people can understand life better only after they understand death. Only after they understand the impermanence of the world can they cherish the rest of their lives for a long time.
If each of our lives is a book, then "death" is the only common ending in countless different scripts.
For everyone, what matters is not when the ending comes, but how we spend our time before the ending comes.
Death itself is meaningless, thinking about death is the meaning; life is also meaningless, and how to give meaning to life is the greatest meaning.
So how can we make life meaningful? The answer to
is just 4 words: live well.
Exercise, eat well, have a regular schedule, stay with your family, care about your friends, work hard, love everyone you want to love, and hug everyone you want to hug...
"Coco" said, "In your lifetime, , celebrating together the meaning of each other’s existence.”
Every day in this life is a grand festival.
hopes that each of us will refuse to stay up late, refuse to be angry, cherish what should be cherished, throw away what should be thrown away, and cherish every day now.
I only wish you: live up to yourself and live up to this life.
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