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A truly happy marriage is a marriage hidden in the breath of fireworks, surrounded by a Three meals a day, enjoying the warm romance.
I was watching TV with my wife last weekend and happened to see Lu Yu interviewing Chow Yun-fat in an episode. In the
program, in order to show the audience Fa Ge's daily life, Lu Yu followed Fa Ge and his wife Chen Huilian to the vegetable market.
It can be seen that Chow Yun-fat and his wife usually like to visit the vegetable market. Every stall owner also knows them, and they call them "Fa Ge Fa Sao" very familiarly when they meet.
Because the couple are also regular customers in the market, many stall owners will give them much cheaper or even free meals.
This is why Fa Ge secretly broke the news to the camera: "She (Fa Sao) secretly cheats in the market every day."
After Fa Sao heard about it, she shouted that she was wronged.
The trip to the vegetable market was relaxing and enjoyable. The couple's intimate gestures made it easy to see the happiness and warmth between them.
Many people think that going to the vegetable market is just a trivial matter, but such a trivial matter can reveal how well the couple is doing.
Many times, you can tell whether a marriage is good or not just by going to the vegetable market.
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Men who are willing to go to the vegetable market are often more family-oriented and willing to share trivial housework.
Writer Ye Xuan wrote:
"Marriage is actually a trivial matter - and the reason why marriage originates from love but does not equal love is probably because no kind of love can withstand day-to-day life. ”
This is a bit pessimistic, but the truth is true. Marriage cannot be more trivial.
When you are in love, you can be romantic and watch the stars and the moon together.
After you get married, you have to think about trivial matters such as food, clothing, food, and counting money while sleeping.
Only couples who are willing to take on these trivial matters in life can truly stay in their marriage.
I have a friend who finally got married after she and her husband had been dating for ten years.
But after getting married, my friend’s life became harder than before.
After my friend gave birth to her child, she became a working woman again. The result of taking care of both career and family is that she is busy all day long.
I was cooking on Saturday and my family was short of soy sauce and garlic. My friend asked my husband to go to the vegetable market downstairs to buy some.
The husband was playing with his mobile phone and said in an impatient tone: "Why don't you go buy it yourself for such a small thing?"
My friend said that he was so angry that he laughed at that moment. Why couldn't he go and buy it for him for such a small thing? In the final analysis, he is still unwilling to take responsibility and puts all the trivial things on women.
In life, there are many men like this. They always feel that they are making money to support their families. They work hard and have great achievements. They disdain all the little things at home, and they are not willing to help the trash can when it is emptied.
Marriage is about an attitude. If you don’t even have this responsibility, then no matter how rich, motivated or handsome the other party is, the marriage will still be an unhappy marriage.
Only a man who can accompany you to buy, select, and wash vegetables without bothering him is a man who is truly patient and willing to bear the trivial matters of the family.
Such a marriage is a long-lasting marriage.
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The small matter of buying groceries reveals how much you care about your family.
once saw a post asking how many people know what their family members like to eat. Among the comments under
, some people were able to say it without hesitation, while others could only spread their hands and didn't care at all.
If you don’t know your family’s preferences, it may seem insignificant, but it can tell whether you care about your family.
As long as we pay attention, we can easily find out from the dining table whether our family members like to eat meat or vegetables, fish or shrimps, and whether the taste is light or spicy or salty.
A person who knows what his family likes is a person who cares about his family and loves his family. In the
program "Where Are We Going, Dad", among the dads who can't cook, Zhang Liang amazed people with his cooking skills.
In fact, not only does he have good cooking skills in the show, but he is also a man who can work in the kitchen and in the vegetable market in real life.
When he is free, Zhang Liang often takes his son to the vegetable market to buy vegetables and carefully prepares a sumptuous meal for his family.
As the chef of his family, he is very familiar with the tastes of his family.
It was precisely because he could remember the preferences of his wife and son that he was able to cook a "boiled beef" dish for his wife and a set of creative dishes "Orange Fruit Braised Tiange" in "The Star Chef Arrives" , and finally won the championship with an ordinary, simple but happy "drawn apple".
Zhang Liang's cooking skills stem from his understanding of his wife and children, and even more from his love for his wife and children.
Care and love can be implemented in every part of life.
We always use how busy and tired we are as an excuse to ignore our family members and the dinner table. We don’t even know our family members’ preferences, so that in the end, we ignore everything.
A marriage cannot be separated from the vegetable market after all.
If you can pick out dishes that satisfy your family in the vegetable market, you are undoubtedly a family-loving person; but if you go around the vegetable market and don’t even know what you should buy, even if you usually say that you love your family, No matter how much, it is just verbal love.
The word "love" in traditional Chinese means "heart" in the middle. If there is no caring heart for family members, then this love will have no support and support and become in vain.
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I once heard a beautiful saying: "To be in love is when two people are together and willing to waste time."
The person who accompanies you to the vegetable market is the person who is willing to waste time with you.
After many years of marriage, if the other person is still willing to accompany you shopping, walking, and going to the vegetable market as always, without shouting about tiredness or urging you to go back quickly, then such a marriage will definitely be a marriage that lasts until you grow old together.
An old couple downstairs is like this.
The couple have been married for decades, and now their children have families. They have moved out to live on their own, leaving them alone in the house.
Every morning, the old lady would hold her husband’s hand and ask him to accompany her to the vegetable market to buy the freshest vegetables of the day.
Her husband has never refused. He follows his wife every day, helping her carry her bags, handing her money, and listening to her bargaining with the vendors.
As long as the old lady stays in the vegetable market, her husband will stay with her in the vegetable market.
After buying groceries, the couple walked back slowly, and sometimes went to the park to sit for a while. The two of them lived this kind of life for half their lives, but they never felt tired of it.
A couple like this who is willing to accompany each other and waste time for each other is undoubtedly true love.
However, as the pace of life accelerates and work pressure increases, how many people are willing to spend time on small things like buying food and cooking?
A waste of time not only gave me confidence, but also openly rejected the other party.
But in fact, this is just an excuse. They did not waste time visiting the vegetable market, but wasted time watching TV and playing games.
After all, I still don’t want to waste time on you.
As everyone knows, being able to waste time with someone willingly is also a kind of romance.
Lin Qingxuan once said: "Romantic means wasting time eating slowly, wasting time drinking tea slowly, wasting time walking slowly, wasting time growing old slowly."
As long as there is love in the heart, holding hands is a kind of romance, carrying each other's bags is a kind of romance, even listening to the other person bargaining is also a unique kind of romance.
Couples who are not in harmony with each other, even if they go shopping once The market also feels like the days are like years.
A truly happy couple, even if they discuss whether to buy radishes or cabbage today around a stall, is an ordinary kind of happiness.
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A truly happy marriage is hidden in the smell of fireworks. Marriage revolves around three meals a day and enjoying warm romance.
The vegetable market is a mirror of married life.
You can see whether the other person is willing to take on the trivial matters of life with you and whether he is willing to do more. Pay attention to your family and realize that being with you is an important thing.
No matter where you go with someone you don't love, it will be torture for them.
Only people who love each other will be willing to accompany you everywhere. I go to each stall just to buy a handful of fresh and cheap vegetables, and listen to you chatting just to learn more about your preferences.
A good marriage has a magical charm that makes you go to the vegetable market and eat. Sleeping in these little things full of fireworks, slowly let go of your guard and surrender your sincerity.
Then in that moment, you will suddenly become enlightened and feel extremely happy.
● Soundtrack at the end of the article: Sun Shengxi - "A Little Less Day". Points" ●
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