Two days ago, Zhao Liying celebrated her 34th birthday. A set of photos of her celebrating her birthday were exposed online. She is still sweet, cute and full of energy. Many people say that Zhao Liying's condition is getting better and better after her divorce.

Two days ago, Zhao Liying celebrated her 34th birthday. A set of her birthday photos were exposed online on

. She is still sweet, cute and full of energy.

Many people say that Zhao Liying’s condition is getting better and better after her divorce.

In fact, only you know whether you are warm or cold.

After a flash marriage and divorce, the seemingly free and easy Zhao Liying also has many unspeakable things.

When Zhao Liying returned to " Chinese Restaurant 5", Ning Jing said that she did not expect that she would come back.

Zhao Liying said lightly:

"I am here to heal the wounds in my heart."

Later, the two also talked about the custody of their children.

Ning Jing, who has always been outspoken, asked:

"Why don't you take care of the children by yourself?"

Zhao Liying replied:

"His economic conditions are better than mine."

Just 9 words made the people present feel heartbroken.

Some media also said that it was Feng Shaofeng 's mother who fought for the custody of her child.

As for whether it was due to financial considerations or there was another hidden reason, it has become a fact that the children will follow Feng Shaofeng.

The media previously photographed Zhao Liying flying to Shanghai to visit her son after filming.

Some time ago, she even brought her 2-year-old son to the set.

As a single mother, she doesn’t dare to stop her career, and she doesn’t want to be absent from her children’s company.

I want to cherish every second of our time together.

The hard work and struggle can only be understood by experiencing it.

This is true for celebrity mothers who have sufficient financial strength, but ordinary mothers face more difficulties when they get divorced.

is especially about the belonging of children.

Divorce "does not want" children

Is this a selfish mother?

There is a question on the Internet:

"What do women who choose not to have children after divorce think?" The comment area under

is full of criticism and accusations.

Some people say that it is understandable, but cannot be forgiven.

Some people say that biological children can be abandoned, which is cruel and selfish.

potential meaning: not worthy of being a mother.

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In fact, no mother wants to give up her child, and no one loves her child more than her mother.

Every divorced mother who chooses not to have children makes the decision with the heartache of a knife.

I have a cousin who was introduced to her ex-husband by an elder in the family and got pregnant out of wedlock.

There is no wedding, no bride price, and life after marriage is not happy.

Her husband was inconsiderate of her and ignored her family affairs. Her mother-in-law also looked down upon her and thought she was a cheap daughter-in-law who was cheating on her.

For the sake of the child, my cousin swallowed all the grievances silently.

One day, she found out that her husband was cheating on her.

At first, my cousin wanted to make do with it, but later her husband often stayed away from home at night.

Unable to bear it, my cousin chose to divorce and voluntarily gave up the custody of the child.

It’s not that she doesn’t love her children, but she has more than enough ambition but not enough energy.

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After getting married, my cousin has been working full-time at home without any source of income.

After graduating from junior high school, her job could only be on the factory assembly line.

With her own abilities, it is difficult for her children to go to a better school.

My own parents are also in poor health and cannot help take care of the children.

The economy cannot support the child's life, and there is no helper. The reality is full of cruelty.

My ex-husband’s family is financially strong, the old man loves his grandson, and the children at least have a home.

Giving up custody rights is just the best choice at the moment.

And the heartbreaking and heart-wrenching moments of separation are all the torment of a midnight dream.

Letting go is a mother's love and fulfillment for her children within her ability.

Giving up custody rights does not mean giving up the love of the child.

It’s not that I don’t want

, but that I’m lucky to be able to get together and be separated when

gets divorced.

Other mothers have to face various conflicts over their children’s ownership.

A few days ago, a pregnant woman named Fan Caiyun posted on Weibo that her child had been "stolen".

It was her husband who took the child away.

After giving birth to the child, she and her husband had a quarrel.

Unexpectedly, in the afternoon, her husband took away the child while she was not paying attention. He also sent a threat on WeChat:

"If you don't pay back the bride price, you will never see your son."

The implication is that she wants both the bride price and the children. divorce.

At present, with the intervention of the Women's Federation, the child has returned to his mother.

But in real life, there are still many mothers who cannot meet their children. They are collectively called-

Purple Ribbon Mothers.

Their children were robbed and hidden by their biological fathers, and they endured the pain of separation from their children.

In some cases, the husband won custody rights, but the husband refused to enforce it and took the child away.

Some have no custody rights and have been deprived of visitation rights by their husbands and parents-in-law.

The children were not missing or abducted, but they just couldn't see them.

On the Internet, they hugged each other for warmth, and everyone’s story was filled with sadness.

In order to see their children, some can only hide in the grass of the kindergarten and peek;

Some go to their ex-husband's residence just to take a look at the children from a distance;

Some mothers kneel down on the man's side in order to feed their children a mouthful of milk. At the doorstep;

...

This kind of forced separation sometimes lasts as long as 10 years.

When your child is no longer around, you can rely on the mark left by your child to express your thoughts.

A mother in Tianjin has not seen her child for 4 years.

At home, the shadow of her daughter is everywhere.

The baby products are neatly placed in the cabinet, and she can cry all night every time she sees them.

When walking on the road, when she hears other people's children calling "Mom", she can't help but turn around.

When she turned around, everyone looked like her daughter, but none of them were her.

In the vast world, there is no trace of the child.

This is an insurmountable pain for every mother.

The long journey and protracted tug-of-war for these mothers continues.

It is difficult to find children, it is difficult to take care of children, and it is difficult to litigate.

These mothers never give up and search all over the world for their children whenever they have time.

All their efforts are just to get a chance to reunite with their children.

Children are the reason for single mothers to be strong

After having children, many women will have many worries about divorce.

Once the decision is made to divorce, the children will also become the mother's strong armor.

Those who give up custody of their children work hard to make money in order to take their children back; those who are deprived of custody of their children do not give up the search so that their children can enjoy maternal love; single mothers who fight for custody at all costs also strive to become Children rely on.

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Li Shaoyun, a single mother in Hubei, is a taxi driver.

The child is 6 months old and lives with her in a taxi.

On one side is survival, on the other side is the burden of taking care of children.

is very hard work, as you can imagine.

But she didn't dare to stop, let alone rest.

From the moment she took her daughter to rent a car, she had no more choices in her life.

can only grit his teeth and save as much money as possible for his child's future.

Deep in her heart, she also felt guilty for her daughter.

Every time I pass the kindergarten, my daughter will lie down at the door and look around.

My daughter wants to go to school, but she doesn't have enough money to pay the tuition.

Fortunately, her daughter has always been her support along the way.

Once there was a traffic accident. He was fine, but he lost several years of savings.

In desperation, she stood with her daughter by the bridge and said:

"Yiyi, let's jump off the bridge."

The daughter said, "No."

"Then mommy jumps.""

"Mom didn't jump either..."

In this way, my daughter stayed with her through the most difficult time.

Sometimes when there were not many passengers and no money was made, Yiyi would comfort her mother.

Life is difficult, but the child There is strength when you are around.

Children are not only the weakness of single mothers, but also their strongest armor.

There is a saying in "Daughter's Choice":

Everyone is fighting for life, but single mothers are particularly brave. Because each of them has two lives, their own and their children’s. Even if they don’t care about their own, they must care about their children.

Raising children alone does not make single mothers vulnerable, but makes them stronger.

For the sake of their children, they have forged bravery and tenacity and never give in to life.

They are like warriors, just trying to carve out a world for their children.

Children are the only reason for single mothers to stay strong.

No one is better than mothers. I care more about my children.

I saw an interview on the streets of Shenzhen. The question was:

"If you get divorced, would you choose to have a house or have children?" ”

The answer from men is almost always to choose a house.

Some people say, the housing prices in Shenzhen are so expensive, why should I leave it to her?

Some people say that children can be born again, but it is difficult to buy another house.

Female answer , it’s the complete opposite.

“Of course I want to have children. If the house is gone, I can buy it again, but if the child is gone, I won’t come back. "

" The value of a house is not as important as the children. Children are priceless. "

" Children are the continuation of life, people are alive, and houses are dead. "

How to choose is a personal matter.

But it can also be seen from these interviews that women tend to value children more in marriage.

This is the instinct of maternal love, and it is out of pure love.

But when it comes to divorce, There are many practical considerations when it comes to the ownership of children.

Can anyone help take care of the child?

These are the dilemmas faced by women when they get divorced.

They choose themselves. Giving up custody is also because of love.

Whether you want a child or not, it has nothing to do with it.

Every child is bought by the mother. They know best the difficulty of giving up. They will also be in deep pain and suffering for the rest of their lives.

Because a mother can never stop missing her child.

The most important thing is that we should not kidnap any woman who has a child and suffers a divorce. It is an unimaginable blow to women.

They need care, respect, and understanding.

Like it. I hope every mother after divorce can live her own happiness.

Author: San. Three, source: