People's destiny seems to have been written in their previous life, and they just have to live according to it in this life.
So you can see all kinds of people in this world. Some of them are beggars, some are high-ranking officials, some are beautiful, some are ugly, some are shrewd, some are dull...
Since people cannot choose their own origin, It is also a great courage to be able to reconcile with one's own destiny or even break away from the shackles of one's origin.
He is such a person. Although he was born with the title of "the son of a great writer", he also has the harsh words of "illegitimate son", uneducated and unskilled, and his mother is a mistress.
While he endured the halo of being a "Queen of Celebrities", he was also stung by this halo that hurt his eyes and soul.
But he did not get depressed because of this. Instead, he spent his whole life to prove himself and prove that he was not just Lu Xun's son. First of all, he was himself, Zhou Haiying!
Zhou Haiying
Celebrity Queen, The Chosen Son
On September 27, 1929, outside the door of the obstetrics department of the hospital, an anxious-looking husband was pacing back and forth restlessly.
Suddenly the door of the delivery room opened, and a doctor came out and asked the anxious man: Your wife is having a difficult delivery. The situation is very dangerous. You can only save one adult and one child. You...?
keep it big! Stay safe! The man grabbed the doctor's hand and said without hesitation.
After a while, a burst of baby crying came from the delivery room. The doctor came out and said to the man, congratulations, both mother and child are safe.
This first-time father is from Shaoxing, Zhejiang, but has been working in Shanghai. Therefore, based on the idea that "home is where you have been blessed," he has a special affection for Shanghai.
So he discussed with his wife Xu Guangping that our child should be named Zhou Haiying. If he feels it is inappropriate in the future, he can change it himself.
The wife is a woman with a modern education, and she also very much agrees with her husband's idea.
In this way, in a certain alley in Shanghai, a boy named Zhou Haiying began to thrive day by day.
Although his father said at the time that if he felt that the name was inappropriate when he grew up, the name could be changed, but how should he change the family relationship between him and his father, the great writer Lu Xun, whose blood is thicker than water?
After becoming a celebrity, when he grew up, he didn't know whether he was the chosen one or whether he was burdened by fame. After all, the grudges of his parents were too involved, and what Zhou Haiying could do first was to live a good life for himself.
It was an accident that his parents fell in love.
The man who was forced to make a choice by the doctor outside the ward was Lu Xun, a great writer of the generation. At that time, his lover Xu Guangping was dying due to dystocia.
How could Lu Xun, who was very affectionate and affectionate towards his lover, ignore his lover's life? That's why he made such a firm decision to protect his life and never let anything happen to the person he loved.
In the end, everyone's wish came true, and everyone was happy. Her lover was still with her, and she gave birth to a cute fat boy named Zhou Haiying.
The appearance of Zhou Haiying was actually an unexpected surprise for Lu Xun and Xu Guangping.
Rather than saying that he is the fruit of the love between Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, it is better to say that he is the product of his parents' failure to use contraception, because at that moment, the arrival of a child was by no means a completely joyful thing.
In 1929, Xu Guangping, who was pregnant at the time, was not Lu Xun's wife. They lived together just because they fell in love. Lu Xun even had a real wife in his family - Zhu An.
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In such a complicated and entangled situation both internally and externally, these two lovers are also in a dilemma.
Ever since he learned that Xu Guangping was pregnant, Lu Xun had been trapped in self-doubt every day. Am I sorry for Zhu An by doing this?
The country is currently in turmoil. Do I have the ability to raise another new life?
But he turned around and looked at Xu Guangping, who was obviously pregnant. Seeing her gently stroking his belly with her hands from time to time, Lu Xun softened his heart.
Xu Guangping
Although Xu Guangping is willing to abort the child, as a medical student in Japan, he knows how much harm abortion can do to a woman, and he cannot bear the price his lover pays.
So after a period of continuous fighting between humans and gods, the couple decided to keep this child, and he was also the only child in Lu Xun's life.
So Zhou Haiying’s birth was in line with the popular saying that parents love each other, and it was just an accident.
The "Ruthless Man" who fled
The reason why Lu Xun was unwilling to keep the child was firstly because the country was in turmoil, and secondly, the main reason was that he and Xu Guangping, who was pregnant at the time, were not married yet and were only living together.
Some people say, why don't two people get married if they love each other?
Lu Xun really wanted to give Xu Guangping a status, but at that time he was still a married man in name. Once he decided to marry Xu Guangping, he would divorce his first wife Zhu An.
Lu Xun knew very well what divorcing his wife meant to Zhu An, so he was in trouble.
Now that things have reached such a difficult point, it is not because of the poison of feudal ethics, nor because of mother Lu Rui 's repeated insistence.
Lu Xun thought countless times that if he had insisted on persisting, there would be no if. The established fact is that far away in Peking , he also has a virtuous first wife, Zhu An, who works hard and takes care of his mother-in-law and brothers-in-law every day.
When Lu Xun thought of this sexless and loveless marriage, he actually felt a lot of pain in his heart. In this relationship, Lu Xun had become extremely passive.
What kind of woman is Zhu An?
She is the daughter-in-law chosen by Lu Xun's mother Lu Rui. She believes that a woman's lack of talent is a virtue.
It is such an inhumane "creed" that has imprisoned Zhu An's life and entangled Lu Xun's life.
Zhu An waited for Lu Xun for seven or eight years. Shaoxing There is a saying that "an adopted daughter is no more than twenty-six years old". At this time, Zhu An was already an old girl of nearly thirty years old and completely became the laughing stock of everyone.
In desperation, Lu Rui "cheated" Lu Xun back from Japan by pretending that he was critically ill, and forced him to marry Zhu An.
During the ceremony, Zhu An stuffed large balls of cotton into his shoes to pretend to have big feet, while Lu Xun wore fake long braids, one to please her husband and the other to cater to the neighbors.
Such a marriage may have been destined to be a tragedy from the beginning, and Zhu An also paid for it with his life.
She still remembered the words her father had been teaching her in her ears before she came out of the cabinet. Remember, you are a member of the Zhou family in life, and a ghost of the Zhou family in death.
It is such an inhumane "creed" that has imprisoned Zhu An's life and entangled Lu Xun's life.
The day after the wedding, Lu Xun moved to the study alone to sleep. A few days later, Lu Xun took his younger brother straight to Japan. This time, he never even looked back.
Blame your mother? Hate Zhu An? Or should I blame myself?
Lu Xun couldn't understand it for a while. At that time, he just wanted to escape, as far away as possible.
His wife Zhu An, who was watching him from behind, just stayed at home with her mother-in-law and guarded the house for the rest of her life.
In fact, Lu Xun didn't have any big objections to Zhu An. After all, Zhu An was also a lady from a famous family.
However, Lu Xun, who was influenced by the new educational trend, had realized the chronic diseases of feudal ethics. He had repeatedly persuaded Zhu An in his heart to let go of the foot binding. Zhu An said that he was already over his age and it would be useless to let go.
It’s okay not to give up foot binding. Lu Xun also persuaded Zhu An to study, but Zhu An just replied with three words, impossible!
She believes that it is her duty to clean up the housework every day and serve her mother-in-law and uncle, and that it is virtue for a woman to be untalented.
It can be seen that Lu Xun actually worked hard in this relationship. He may have tried to get along with this woman and make her change, but in the end Lu Xun discovered that they were really not from the same world.
Therefore, this marriage, which was originally in name only, became more and more terminal. Lu Xun used the inaction method of running away to resist the marriage that made him helpless.
Lover and confidant, ten years of companionship
Lu Xun's depressed marriage has always felt like a knot in his throat. It wasn't until he met a female student named Xu Guangping that he suddenly felt that he had finally fallen in love after living for so many years.
Xu Guangping was admitted to the Chinese Language Department of the National Beijing Women's Higher Normal School in 1922. He developed an admiration for Lu Xun after reading "A Brief History of Chinese Novels" told by Lu Xun.
Xu Guangping, an officer of the student union, bravely wrote a letter to Lu Xun in order to relieve the depression accumulated in the student movement, and Lu Xun also responded enthusiastically to her.
Over time, the two became close friends and confidants who walked side by side in literature, and often took care of each other in life.
Lu Xun was soon attracted by this enthusiastic and talented girl. What is rare is that this feeling is two-way. Xu Guangping on the other side also deeply admired and loved Lu Xun.
One night in October 1925, 27-year-old Xu Guangping held Lu Xun's hand affectionately. Lu Xun shook his hand back and looked at Xu Guangping affectionately and said, you have defeated!
After 20 years of sexless marriage, Lu Xun went south to Xu Guangping in 1926, and the two soon lived together.
Zhu An on the other side didn't know yet that Lu Xun's death meant that she had lost her husband forever, and the pain and sorrow of her lonely life in the future would never be able to find a place to put it.
Lu Xun left Beijing for Shanghai. From 1926 to Lu Xun's death in 1936, Xu Guangping stayed with Lu Xun.
Although Xu Guangping never received a status from Lu Xun in his life, they were still a loving couple.
This can be deeply understood from their collection of love letters " Letter from Two Places " . They call each other "you are my little hedgehog , and I am your little one" White elephant.
Looking at the photos, Lu Xun's image is very serious. It is difficult to imagine the inner activities of such a serious man when he wrote these boring words. It really fits that sentence, love makes people soft.
Maybe even God would be jealous of such a couple. Lu Xun and Xu Guangping lived briefly for ten years and then died suddenly, leaving behind Xu Guangping and Zhou Haiying, who was only seven years old at the time.
Despite his high reputation, he insists that in his
Zhou Haiying's memory, the time he truly enjoyed his father's love was limited. After all, he was only seven years old when his father died.
However, Lu Xun loved Zhou Haiying very much during these seven years. He allowed and even liked Zhou Haiying to play with his beard and "ride a big horse" on him. Although he was financially strapped, he still bought a valuable gramophone for his son to listen to the sound.
In the face of love and family affection, this man who has always been cold-hearted and fighting with his pen turned out to be so gentle.
After Lu Xun passed away, Zhou Haiying grew up with not just these warm memories, but the words and criticisms of people around her.
His mother is the third child of a spoiled family, he is an illegitimate son with no status, and he has bad words with his stepmother Zhu An because of his father's inheritance...
When Zhou Haiying grew up, he did not inherit his father's mantle and engaged in literature. , but chose science, which he liked.
He thought to himself that he could not live his whole life with the label of Lu Xun's son, he had to be himself.
So in 1952, Zhou Haiying was successfully admitted to the Department of Physics of Peking University with his hard work. But others can even say with this diploma in black and white that Zhou Haiying entered Peking University because of Lu Xun.
When Zhou Haiying was in school, he went to observe a ballroom dance out of curiosity, and it was rumored that Lu Xun's surviving son was uneducated and incompetent.
These voices accompanied Zhou Haiying for almost half of his life. Later, he simply ignored them and worked hard. He wanted to use his own ability to get rid of the label of just "Lu Xun's son".
Therefore, in work and life, Zhou Haiying rarely takes the initiative to mention who his father is to others.
Zhou Haiying himself said that I don’t value fame and fortune that much, I just want to be an ordinary person through my own efforts.
Although the outside world has made a lot of rumors about the relationship between the three elders, after Lu Xun left, Zhu An and Lu Rui's living expenses have been sent by Xu Guangping's mother and son.
Zhu An once said that Guangping knows me very well and she knows what I need. My mother-in-law and I have been grateful to their mother and son for their care over the years.
Xu Guangping also wrote to Zhu An from time to time. Although Zhou Haiying had never met this aunt, he still respected her and sympathized with her tragic experience as a woman in the old society.
In 1949, Zhou Haiying took the initiative to donate all the relics of his parents to the country for research and recording.
Zhou Haiying's move made the world look at him with admiration. After all, he had suffered so much criticism from his surroundings, and now this move is really rare.
Although he did not inherit his father's career, he did inherit his parents' tenacious and hard-working spirit. With the reputation of being a descendant of celebrities, Ning relied on his own efforts to carve out his own world.
Chronic feudal diseases and tragic fate
The outside world has always criticized the fact that Lu Xun and his students were together, and later they had a son.
Is Lu Xun really a "thin lover"? Of course not
. In this "threesome" story, he is actually one of the "victims".
It is said that Lu Xun was divided between two women in his life. In fact, Lu Xun completely chose Xu Guangping's side, but because he could not divorce Zhu An, Xu Guangping could only live his whole life in namelessness and status.
On one side is Xu Guangping, the nameless lover who has been with him for ten years, and on the other side is his first wife Zhu An, who has been "widowed" all her life and finally died tragically. So who is wrong?
Lu Xun hated himself and his original inaction, his cowardice and foolish filial piety, and his failure to veto the decision made by his mother Lu Rui on the spot.
In fact, what he hates more is the cannibalistic ethics of feudal society, as well as the ancient norms and rhetoric that poison women.
It imprisons the freedom of men and women to pursue a better life and love, so it ultimately puts him in this unkind and unjust position.
The sad thing is that Zhu An did not realize until her death what caused her tragic fate, whether it was her husband's infidelity or the suffocating society at that time.
If she had listened to Lu Xun's advice and been willing to keep up with Lu Xun's pace little by little, maybe they could live happily together for a long time.
But the past will be the past, and it is futile to make assumptions now. You can say that Lu Xun failed her, but in the final analysis, it was the era that failed her.
Tragedies like this caused by feudal ethics are definitely not uncommon from ancient times to the present, and there must be thousands of "Zhu An" in history.
In this complicated love, no one is the real winner, or they are all "victims" in their own roles.
Because the person who gives love must be a perfect person, only then can he give a complete love to the other person without any reservation.
Maybe Xu Guangping is a little luckier than Zhu An. She has at least experienced the brilliance of love, but Zhu An can only watch the bleak years and die alone throughout his life.
