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In the eyes of most people, two people get married just to form a common family and live together. It also means that in the days to come, we will all live under the same roof and sleep in the same bed.
But some people don’t think so.
In order to maintain themselves in the marriage and take a breather, they chose "separated marriage", that is, living separately after marriage, and the two people live their own lives without interfering with each other.
Yui Aragaki and Gen Hoshino have been living apart since their marriage.
Chen Zhirong and Lu Hongxuan, who live in Kaohsiung City, Taiwan, are one of them.
When they got married, they did not buy a house or run a business. After they got married, they lived in their parents' homes. Even if they started a business together, they would go their separate ways after get off work.
Some people wonder about this: If you don’t buy a house when you get married and live separately after marriage, what’s the point of getting married?
But in the eyes of the parties involved, this is the "unique preservative" for their long-term marriage.
Before the age of 37, Chen Zhirong, like most people, lived a life of two points and one line.
He was originally a driver for a logistics company. He was on the road every day and rarely had time for himself.
His wife, Lu Hongxuan, is a mathematics teacher in an education and training institution.
Although the work pressure is not high, due to the phenomenon of declining birthrate, her income in recent years has not been high.
Obviously, this kind of life cannot make them feel satisfied for the couple who have entered their 40s.
So, two years ago, Chen Zhirong quit his job as a driver and started a business with his friends, running a pizza truck. Unexpectedly, the business grew bigger and bigger, and different opinions arose between the two, so they decided to break up the partnership and work on their own.
At this time, Chen Zhirong was keenly aware that few people in the market were making vegetarian pizza, and he himself was very interested in vegetarian food.
In his opinion, there is too much pollution in the world today.
If a person eats a vegetarian meal, he can save about 1.9 kilograms of carbon emissions, which will undoubtedly make the global environment better.
Therefore, Chen Zhirong decided to boldly try to develop in the direction of vegetarian pizza.
Lu Hongxuan, who watched her husband start a business on his own, immediately quit his teaching and training job and started his own business with Chen Zhirong, becoming his best assistant.
For the next two years, the couple drove a food truck and sold pizza everywhere, rain or shine, and almost never took a vacation.
’s hard work pays off. With intense work, their vegetarian pizza now has a group of loyal fans, and their income is rising year by year.
However, even if the business is getting bigger and bigger, the lives of Chen Zhirong and Lu Hongxuan are still full of difficulties and challenges -
In the 10 years since their marriage, they have not bought a house and have been living in their respective original families, let alone having children.
So even if the career is somewhat successful, it is still not complete in the eyes of both parents.
And the whole story actually started when they got married.
When the two first met, Chen Zhirong was still a poor boy with nothing.
His family was in a very difficult situation, so he had been working part-time to support his family since elementary school, and he later became responsible for most of the family's financial resources.
Even if life is hard, Chen Zhirong never complains. He knows very well that children without umbrellas have to work harder to run forward.
The young Chen Zhirong
and Lu Hongxuan was born in a well-off family. She lives in the center of Kaohsiung and has lived a "rich gold" life with no worries about food and clothing since she was a child.
It can be said that no matter how you look at these two people together, they are not a good match.
But after falling in love for 10 years, 30-year-old Lu Hongxuan still resolutely married the poor Chen Zhirong despite the opposition of her family.
However, it was not because of her age, but because she wanted to use the preferential interest rate for couples to buy a house to help Chen Zhirong realize his dream of buying a house for his parents.
Just like that, two people registered for marriage. There was no wedding ceremony and no bride price, let alone a wedding room and a wedding car.
But Lu Hongxuan didn't care. In her opinion, although these things can make life more beautiful, they are not necessary for two people to fall in love.
After getting married, Chen Zhirong bought a house as he wished, so that his parents, who had worked hard for half a lifetime, could finally move into a decent residence.
But what followed was a mortgage of several million, which weighed on him like a mountain and made him breathless, so that when he was at his poorest, he could only spend 10 yuan a week.
Although his career is gradually getting on the right track and his life is getting better, Chen Zhirong has always had a regret in his heart -
He was unable to give his wife a home.
After all, compared to ten years ago, it is extremely difficult to get a car and buy a house now.
Therefore, it’s not that the couple doesn’t want to live together after marriage, but they just don’t have the money to buy a house of their own and move in there.
They simply saved the cost of renting a house, lived in their parents' homes, and lived a "separated marriage" model. just didn't expect that this point would be 10 years.
Seeing this, some people may wonder: If we don’t have money to buy a house, can’t we live together at our parents’ house?
In fact, it is not that Chen Zhirong and Lu Hongxuan have never tried, but the final result was not satisfactory.
For example, there are differences in eating habits between two families.
Lu Hongxuan has lived in a vegetarian family since she was a child. Her parents' cooking mostly focuses on light and healthy food, while Chen Zhirong is used to the more flavorful food at home.
In this way, no matter which parent's house the two live in, it will be difficult to adapt, and they can only start anew and eat alone.
In addition, the couple also hope to have their own private time after work.
Lv Hongxuan, who yearns for freedom, does not want to face the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after get off work. Even if it is a well-intentioned concern, it will make her feel even more stressed.
But Chen Zhirong wants to lie down when he gets home, play mobile phones, play games, and do what he likes.
In addition, the two of them are members of the DINK family. They have no plans to have children. If they are married after separation, there is no need to consider the impact of raising children.
Therefore, this kind of "everyone goes back to his own home and each finds his own mother" mode of getting along after get off work has become an "effective preservative" for the longevity of their marriage.
Of course, they don’t live together, but it doesn’t mean that two people don’t have common topics and time to spend together.
In addition to selling pizza together on weekdays, the couple will participate in the triathlon competition together every day off.
Occasionally, they will actively participate in environmental protection and go to the recycling bin to help sort various garbage.
Even if they don't live together, the love between two people is still as pure and passionate as when they were in love. They always have common topics and hobbies, and they never worry that the relationship will deteriorate.
People who work so hard in life will naturally not be let down by fate. After years of hard work selling pizza, Chen Zhirong and Lu Hongxuan finally collected enough for a down payment.
From viewing the house to signing the contract, it only took them 12 hours to buy each other's first house in their lives. Although
is a 30-year-old boy, it gives the young couple more motivation to fight.
As the saying goes, it doesn’t matter whether you buy a house first and then get married, or you get married first and then buy a house. In the final analysis, it’s all about having a family.
Just don’t confuse the concept of “home”. It shouldn’t just be an expensive house or a cold real estate certificate.
A real family should be two people who love each other, work hard for a goal and make progress together, then everything will be more meaningful.
After all, once a marriage loses its warmth and love, the house can no longer be called a home. It is just a cold cement building at best.
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