family is composed of expectant couples, especially after a new life is born in this family, we usually think that this is a complete and happy family.
home is a house, a parent and a child, but there is another more important thing, which is the most essential meaning of home, that is love!
However, in the current fast-paced social context, parents who are always tired, are surrounded by the noisy environment around them and under the fierce competitive pressure, they are full of fear and anxiety. When they return home physically and mentally exhausted every day, facing their equally tired and hungry family, they really want to let go of themselves and draw strength from their families. At this time, they are really unable to give the support their families need.
Yes, as adults in the contemporary social environment, we have a hard life, a lot of pressure, and even been in worry and anxiety for a long time. But as parents, we still need to take on the responsibility of raising children, and we also need to create a truly loving family atmosphere for our children.
The new book "Let Love Go Home" by senior psychologist Li Xinyi helps parents see how far-reaching the negative impact of a family without love on their children. At the same time, let us know that only parents who truly see their own problems and receive healing can truly give their children support for love. At the same time, the impact of benign tutoring on a person is not only for a lifetime, but also for generations. Slowly, a good family tradition will be formed and can be passed down from generation to generation.
1. Our children represent the future of the family.
Last Thursday, due to the epidemic, my son's two weeks of school time was delayed to four weeks. When parents were worried about their children's learning status, the head teacher posted a video of the children's loudly memorizing in the parent group. When I saw my son's concentration on studying, I was deeply touched and moved by the child's efforts. At that moment, I suddenly realized that as parents, we should work harder to live and work hard with our children for a better future for the family!
Almost all our parents will say with certainty that all their efforts are for their children and for their families, but raising children is not just about physical health and academic performance. It is more about letting children live in an atmosphere of love, allowing them to feel the warmth between people and the beauty of society, so that they can inspire their children to be willing to constantly improve themselves, explore the world and integrate into society.
2. When we educate our children, we need to heal ourselves first.
We all know the importance of teaching by words and deeds, so many parents will act and show off in front of their children even though they know they can't do it. They are the same in normal times, and the children are the same in time, with only one purpose, and want to teach their children the correct and mature behavior patterns. However, once you encounter an emergency or your emotions are out of control, your instinctive way of dealing will make you "very ugly in eating".
Therefore, true education requires real teaching by example. It is not only the parents who do it, but also the more important thing. Only gentle, calm and tolerant parents can really give their children support and strength.
To become such parents, we have to face one thing, we need to see our inner trauma. Only by healing and healing these pains in our hearts can we not easily be triggered by various events and gain a mature and stable personality. In this way, we no longer have to pretend to be parents, and we can get along with our children calmly, sincerely and freely, and warmly accompany our children to grow up.
3. Children are a point on the family relationship website.
We always want to have a perfect child, a child that fully meets our expectations. Therefore, we will constantly capture the child's shortcomings and constantly correct the child's words and deeds. We firmly believe that as long as we are careful and diligent enough, we can cultivate a child that makes us proud.
The result was contrary to our expectations. We will find that the child is going completely in the opposite direction, with more and more problems, one after another, not only does his academic performance decline, but his physical and mental health tend to be worse.
At this time, we will be full of anger and vent all our dissatisfaction on the child, believing that the child himself is disobedient and caused everything now. Looking at the children who are angry and embarrassing us, some parents not only completely give up on their upbringing, but even have the idea that they would be fine without this child.
However, we ignore the fact that every child does not exist independently in this society. Although they have certain personalities that they have, when they grow up, they are always and everything affected by the dependents and family environment. They will not only absorb the excellent qualities of their parents, but also be deeply influenced by the shortcomings and defects in their respective personalities.
Therefore, all the characteristics of children are the result of parenting and influence. So, when we criticize our children's various shortcomings again and again, should we also be aware of whether these shortcomings of our children are hidden in ourselves?
is a house, a group composed of parents and children, and a place for families to rest. Therefore, home should be a warm, loving and supportive house that can be nourished by the family.
So, busy parents, please ask yourself when you stop temporarily, do you still have love in your home? Can you get relaxed and charged every time you get back home? Can your children and partners get strength and nourishment when they are tired for a day?
Let love go home!
Starting from today, let us try to take a few deep breaths before entering the house, remove the fatigue and irritability of the day, open the door with a smile, and let the energy of love flow peacefully in your home, okay?
