With the development of society and the improvement of living standards, modern people's views on marriage and love have already undergone earth-shaking changes compared to the older generation.
More and more people are spending their energy and time learning and improving their skills, which has also triggered a series of marriage and love problems, and older single women and leftover men also appeared.
However, although both men and women are worried about marrying, there is still a saying that goes: "A good girl will not marry a big horse monkey, and a good boy will not marry a red fusang", what do the "big horse monkey" and "red fusang" refer to?
Traditional concept of marriage and love: equal match
is different from the Western concept of marriage and love that pursues freedom. The traditional concept of marriage and love in our country is equal match.
Since the birth of "The Book of Zhou", although time has spanned thousands of years, in the field of three media and six marriages, the rules of obeying the orders of parents are still maintained.
Although there have been dramas such as "The Peacock Flying Southeast", " Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai ", and " West Chamber ", most of the plots are tortuous, graceful and even tragic.
But if you think about it carefully, this tradition is not entirely feudal and old-fashioned negative effects.
Young people reach the age of being full of energy and facing the opposite sex with a good impression, they often have emotional impulses. This impulse will cover their eyes and make them do blind and extreme things.
At this time, they will only see the other party’s advantages that are beneficial to them, and ignore other characteristics of the person, let alone those hidden shortcomings.
If you leave it alone, once the two become husband and wife, the passion of the couple will be disbanded after marriage, and the shortcomings that have been hidden will be revealed.
At this time, the two of them will be facing each other's heads and fight with each other.
In Chinese society where face cares about the consequences, such consequences are unimaginable. Even parents of both parties will be involved, which makes people feel embarrassed.
Western people advocate freedom of marriage and love, weddings are simple, but divorce is also free.
And Chinese people, even the poorest families, attach great importance to weddings.
So, when young people choose a partner, parents of both men and women will indeed take the initiative to come forward to help their children choose.
Based on their own life experience, they will carefully investigate the other party’s family inside and outside, and then form a complete set of “data reports” to comprehensively determine whether the two families are on the same starting line.
Once the gap between the two families is a bit big, parents will naturally do something to break up.
Good girl does not marry a big horse monkey
The "big horse monkey" in the common saying is naturally not an animal in the deep mountains and forests of Monkey family, but a human.
But this kind of person has a rough temper, has poor self-control, is ugly in appearance, and has a fierce look, which makes people shudder.
And from the perspective of genetics , children also look with their parents. If their daughter marrys this person, it would be a joke if it spreads out.
Although ugly people in history have married wives like flowers, they are still very few. The skills these people have made a fortune for them, which can cover up their physical defects and thus allow their daughter-in-law to live a happy life.
Like Ming Taizu Zhu Yuanzhang , he has a strange face, a slutty face, is old, has a fierce and cruel temper, and often slaughtered his meritorious ministers, but he can marry the most beautiful wife in the world, which is of course inseparable from his supreme status.
But how many people can have such a status are ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad?
The survival of society is the survival of the fittest. Often, the stronger the strong, the weaker the weaker.
Strong people transform the genes of their offspring by marrying a beautiful wife. Gradually, their children will become more and more beautiful and smarter, thus achieving a leap in social classes.
The weak are unable to marry a beautiful wife, and they can't even marry the most ordinary wife. Gradually, their genes become worse and worse, and their size, appearance, IQ and social status are all behind, and they are even in the end.
So gradually, the saying "a good girl doesn't marry a big horse monkey".
Good men do not marry Red Fusang
Chinese sayings are often symmetrical. Since "Mark Male Monkey" refers to an ugly man, "Red Fusang" naturally corresponds to a kind of woman.
But this kind of woman does not look ugly, but on the contrary, she is gorgeous and colorful, and charming.
A woman's attraction to men is something that no man can resist.
Adolescent young men, when they see them, they feel like they have lost their souls. In order to get a beautiful woman's smile, they often do stupid things that they don't know.
In order to show their masculine side of a man in front of the beautiful opposite sex, fighting is like a common occurrence, and even more extraordinary things can be done.
In the movie "Sunny Days", Liu Yiku, starring Geng Le, and Ma Xiaojun, starring Xia Yu, starring , did many incredible things for Milan, starring Ning Jing, .
In the swimming pool, a man named Biao appeared. When he was young, he fought with others everywhere in order to please Milan and eventually lost his eyes.
After adulthood, if you think about the ridiculous things in your youth, you may regret it.
In China's history, there are countless examples of beauty suffering.
The king of the fallen country in the Xia Dynasty was because he favored Meixi and lost his country.
The last king of the Shang Dynasty King Zhou was also defeated by the Zhou Dynasty and destroyed the country.
Western Zhou The last monarch Zhou Youwang , in order to win the beauty Baosi , ignited beacon tower without foreign enemies invasion, and eventually the country was destroyed.
Three consecutive dynasties were destroyed by women's despair. On the one hand, it is related to the concentration and cultivation of these three kings. On the other hand, it also reflects that beauty is in trouble and women's despair of the country.
Of course, ordinary people don’t have the chance to meet such a beautiful woman, but when marrying a wife, you can’t just be beautiful, you must do whatever you can.
Because most beauties have "three-point appearance and seven-point dressing", the money for skin care and beauty is indispensable in daily expenses.
As a beauty, there are naturally many suitors around you. In order to win and occupy the commanding heights, it requires a lot of energy for men to spend. If you are not careful, you will lose. Even the position you have occupied will be taken away.
Therefore, it is necessary to do what you can if you marry and have children.
So there is a saying that "a good man won't marry Hong Fusang".
Of course, we cannot find a partner based on our appearance alone. Sometimes our own feelings are more important.
What do you think about this?
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