Speaking of actress Yao Chen, many people have a special impression of her. In addition to her special appearance, special personality, and special acting style, the actress has special speech. Yao Chen was well-known by domestic audiences with "武林外传", and he portrayed Guo Furong, a carefree and heroic "woman" into a classic. After that, the characters played by Yao Chen are not the kind who can pretend to be pure and cute, nor are they gentle and jade, they are relatively powerful, straightforward, and highly unified with her own image.
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Yao Chen has always been very daring to say that before at an awards ceremony, he shouted that directors would look for her for filming. As an actress, she didn’t want to find her by herself. Filming. Last year, because of a national-level drama "Everything is Good", Yao Chen instantly became a very hot actor, but recently because of a sentence by Yao Chen on social platforms, Yao Chen was once again sent to hot searches.
It turns out that this is because everyone discovered that Yao Chen was openly speaking on Weibo. In this Weibo, Yao Chen said: Hug this girl, next time you meet a picky scumbag, tell directly: It’s not that I am too fat, but that you are too thin.
Many netizens have expressed their disgust and resistance to Yao Chen's open yellow tone, and some marketing accounts use this sentence to make a big splash The article said that the female star with more than 80 million fans blatantly "drove", and some netizens expressed a very unsightly comment on this. We all know that Yao Chen is one of the stars with the largest number of fans on Weibo in the early days. He has more than 80 million fans, which is not a small number today. This openly "driving" against 80 million fans will indeed cause Relatively large waves.
But, is this thing really that unbearable? In fact, this has to start with a movie starring Yao Chen last year, this movie is "送我上青云".
This movie is about Sheng Nan, played by Yao Chen. He is a very independent and aspiring news reporter. She has always insisted on the authenticity of news reports, but unfortunately she has been alone. He was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and urgently needed surgery, but Sheng Nan, who couldn't afford that much money for a while, chose to ask for help from his family, but his father refused on the grounds of poor business management. Sheng Nan had to compromise with reality to write an autobiography for the rich. In the process, Sheng Nan met men who attracted him and got in close contact with his friends of the opposite sex, thus gaining a new understanding of sex and life.
This movie generously discusses sex topics, and builds a deep logical bridge between sex and life and death issues, but many people This movie is still not understandable. Fortunately, after the movie was released, it still received praise and support from many people.
Among them is a fan of Yao Chen and also a Weibo big V—“Yan Gongzi” published about the movie on Weibo. Yan Gongzi mentioned some experiences of one of his fans. This fan realized through Yan Gongzi’s Weibo that girls shouldn’t be afraid of sex issues and topics, so he said that he would After that, she shared her sex life with Yan Gongzi for the first time, but her first sex life was very bad. The man did not perform well by himself. He also shifted the blame to this fan and blamed her for being too fat.
Yao Chen said this sentence when he reposted this Weibo: It’s not me tooFat, you are too thin. Many netizens also said that women also have the freedom to talk about "sex"!
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Because of this sentence, many people refer to Yao Chen as "a female driver who drove openly" and criticized her as a person. But when it comes to old drivers, the one we have to mention is the famous singer Fei Yuqing. Fei Yuqing’s singing voice can be said to be as clear as water, and his interpretation of "Yi Jianmei" has become an insurmountable classic. But unlike his singing voice, his meaty jokes are relatively dirty, so many netizens jokingly call him "Fei Jade dirt".
Let’s review a few of Fei Yuqing’s classic pieces. The first is the most classic "hehehe" joke: said that a man wanted to go to a weight loss center to lose weight. After paying the money, he was led to a room and found a beautiful woman in bikini sitting in the middle of the room and said to him with a smile "You chase me, if you chase me, I will let you hehehehe!" Then he came to a house, this time a fat woman sat in the house, and she said to the man: "I chase you , If I chase you, I will take you hehe!" After several times I "chase you", this man successfully achieved the goal of losing weight.
There are also some such as "American cows get mad cow disease because they are touched every day but they don’t XXX with themselves", "Guess the length of a man’s leg The joke of "the food answer is cake" left a deep impression on the majority of netizens at that time. In fact, the scale of these jokes is really not small, many of the jokes are quite explicit, but everyone seems to be not so hostile to Fei Yuqing's yellow accent. Many people still think that Fei Yuqing who talks about pornography is very cute.
Actually, we often encounter some boys in our lives who like to talk about pornography. It seems that boys don’t have some pornography in their minds. You can’t get it, especially on occasions where there are more boys. It seems that only mature men who can talk about meaty jokes are more experienced. But for girls, we have different requirements for them. We always feel that the words of girls should be cleaner and purer. If a girl does not move, it will be "dirty", and many boys will think of this girl. It is too "social", and many girls will talk about it behind their backs.
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For example, when the editor was in high school, some boys in the class often used the topic of "sex" for fun, although many boys of that age did not I can't really understand the meaning of "sex" issues, but I can say something related to "sex" on my lips, which seems to be more powerful. Some boys often exchange pornographic stories with each other, and always pride themselves on knowing better than others. Usually these boys will get the admiration of many girls. But there are also some girls who will mix with these boys. They are also uninhibited, they are also foolish, and they are also sharp. On the surface, these girls can play with boys, but behind them are objects that are silently rejected by boys and girls. .
In fact, these phenomena seem to exist all the way to university. Girls seem to be born to be silent on sex topics, but boys seem to be making some sexual jokes. More charming. It’s like girls’ parents have always wanted to portray their daughters into the image of a beautiful girl. Even if they know that their children have reached an age where they can understand sex and talk about sex, they still think it’s better if they don’t understand anything. But for boys, they seem to have More sexual experience is a thing worth showing off.
And the movie "Send Me to the Blue Clouds" starring Yao Chen, is a publicly female perspective to talk about "sex"After watching the movie, Teacher Li Yinhe said: Finally there is a movie reminding us to face the right of women’s sexual pleasure. And Yao Chen's remarks on Weibo also used actions to support the rationality of women's outspokenness on sex topics.
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Actually subject to our country’s educational system and thinking mode, it seems that sex topics have been very taboo things for a long time, because our country Most of the families are relatively conservative. Before they reach adulthood, parents are ashamed to talk about “sex” issues with us. In their opinion, it is very difficult to talk about these issues with children, especially girls’ parents. , And always told their children and girls to be clean and pure.
But in fact, the concept that we should establish is that "sex" has nothing to do with cleanness and purity. On the contrary, dare to face sex and revealing sex In fact, it is a more true and sincere attitude. First of all, we should know that sex is real, instinctive, and natural. Confucius said more than two thousand years ago: "Food, color, and sex." This sentence says that appetite and sexual desire are both human nature. Although many scholars have put forward different explanations for this sentence, we From the most basic level, it can be understood that Confucius believed that sex is the innate nature of human beings.
The famous psychologist Eriksson once divided a person’s life into eight phases, from the oral phase to the anal phase , And then to the incubation period, reproductive period, etc., human sexual desire has been in a dynamic development process, which also shows that human sexual desire is innate and plays different roles in different stages of life. For example, for infants, satisfying their oral desires is very important for establishing a sense of security and satisfaction in the infant’s heart. In the reproductive period, the desire for sex begins to mature and become stronger, and this time can be smoothly Satisfying the needs of physiological desires is very important for building one's self-confidence.
Secondly we need to know that sex is romantic. It's like Zhou Guoping said: "Sexual imprisonment and sexual proliferation are the enemies of love." The editor agrees with this sentence. First of all, this sentence bravely admits that sex should not be imprisoned, it should be a free choice. Rollo May, the father of American existential psychology, once said: Eros is the driving force for the creation of civilization. Sexual desire is a traction that drives the individual to the individual and the soul to the soul. We know how to get close to each other because of attraction and desire. Because of the mechanism of sexual desire itself, it has the meaning of pleasure and carrying, so sex does not need to be imprisoned. At the same time, Zhou Guoping’s statement also pointed out that the proliferation of sex is not worthy of being promoted. From a dialectical point of view, this can more prove the rationality of the existence of sex, that is, sex not only exists with evidence, but also exists in order. Followable. For a thing to exist reasonably, it not only needs to exist, but also needs to have the premise and method of existence. Sexual imprisonment is not sex. Similarly, sexual prejudice is not sex. Those who know how to be independent, know how to restrain, know how to be specific Sex is romantic sex.
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In "Send Me to the Blue Clouds", a small boat sails through the dark twilight to the gate of the illusory river bank, and the boat looks It is even more like a coffin. It may not only be the two ends of a river that carry people’s sexual desires, it is not a right or wrong choice, it is not the result of love or not, but the two sides of life and death. .
In this movie, "Eros is the door to life and death" is used to point the topic, condensing the meaning of the whole movie in this sentence in. From this sentence, we seem to be able to sail through the stone gate on the other shore in that small boat. Before then, we frequently reviewed the fragments of this life, and from the first time we had desireWang was panicked, but reluctant to do so; when our parents started to pay attention to our physical changes, we became cautious. In the process, we began to learn to deceive our parents and began to learn to isolate ourselves and our parents on both sides of the door; We have a fierce desire for sex, but most of our adolescence is spent in the period of masturbation. In this process, we learn to please ourselves, but at the same time we have expectations and desires for our sexual partners; at the age of sexual liberation, we begin to try Different partners, because they are suitable or unsuitable, separate and recombine. In this process, we are polite and gentle to others to test love relationships, but at the same time we cherish ourselves more; until our sexual desire begins to slowly dissipate, our life partner It is also relatively stable. You live your life as plain as water, just like a dark tide in your body that you haven't visited for a long time.
In the life of annihilation of libido, what you learn is not only impulse, but also self-confession, there is a need for others, there is a need for this It takes the necessary dedication, to keep a proper distance from the intimacy at the right time, the detour and entanglement of the interpersonal relationship due to craving, and the changes that you have forgotten in a certain corner during the flow of your mind. The sound, smell, and picture of the time flow into a trickle of life for each of us.
Sex is both natural and romantic. Women can begin to face and talk about this issue calmly. It is our society that is becoming more open and honest , A subtle question and utterance on a more natural road!
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