"I am sure it is the son's rebirth"
"If you are a daughter, you might not want to have a baby." Idol drama brother He Junxiang.
In a TV interview, He Junxiang even openly declared that he would detect the sex of the fetus in advance to confirm that it was the rebirth of the son.
As soon as the video came out, there was a lot of scolding on the Internet.
Indeed, it’s 2021, so why can’t we escape the "strong2span5" _strong2span4.
In the comment section, as many as there are praised daughters for being good, there will be as many scolding He Junxiang as bad.
Even though the parties quickly apologized, they still rushed to the hot search.
It is indeed gratifying to see so many sober netizens, but it is not just such traditional patriarchal patriarchs, " " has already spread, and it is even more difficult to prevent.
Many parents think that they are not patriarchal, and even act like daughter slaves, but in reality they are: Only small things do favor their daughters, and big things have to go to their sons.
I once saw a Weibo hot topic: the moment when I feel the eccentricity of my parents.
Each comment contains a sad story.
If you have a second child, you can give birth at will. No boy must have a second child.
If you have a son, you have to save money to buy a house for him, and if you give birth to a girl, you just marry to your in-law’s house.
Snacks can be half for one person, and all family property must belong to the son.
and so on.
Whether it is the old and straightforward or the new hidden patriarchy, it is all because of the influence of traditional thinking that loves boys, and naturally chooses to despise girls.
As everyone knows, the parents' choice of "patriarchal" may not end up being a boy, and may even ruin the family.
01 Patriarchal patriarchal, how many daughters' hearts are cold
Happy mother wrote in January this year, 1span _span "4 span span1 _strong real span4 span1 _span_strong" , At that time, Hot Search was posted on Weibo for 3 days, triggering discussions among hundreds of millions of netizens.
Lolo, a girl from Hangpiao in 1996, suffered a long-term squeeze from her family, cut her wrists and swallowed medicine many times and committed suicide.
claimed that she "loved her parents most", and not only forced her to give her parents monthly money to support her younger brother.
I have only been hanging around for three years, and I am helpless. I was asked to buy a new mobile phone for my younger brother as soon as his salary increased...
After his death,Claiming to be "the saddest parent", after learning that Luoluo had compensated for 60,000 yuan for humanitarian purposes, he changed his sad face and a marketable lion opened his mouth, claiming 410,000 yuan, because he had to pay a down payment for his brother to buy a house.
was forced to become a "helper demon" before death, and was sucked blood by the whole family.
still owes his brother a house after his death.
In the comment section, apart from sympathizing with Lolo's experience and accusing the patriarchal parents, the rest is more regretful.
"It's a pity, you can always escape if you hold on, after all, you are still so young."
It is indeed a pity that the lost life cannot be returned.
But even if you insist, can the injured heart be repaired?
I once saw a topic on Zhihu :
How did girls who care about their families live?
A sad experience shared by a netizen:
My friend Sister Liu is a well-known corporate executive.With good looks, high income and high education, he should be very happy.
However, Sister Liu, who is shrewd and capable outside, has to please her husband, take good care of the children, coax her in-laws, and look after her mother’s face.
to please and pay, in exchange for nothing but calls and accusations.
Long-term depression and excessive stress caused her to suffer from depression and even wanted to commit suicide many times.
I found out after psychotherapy, all of these reasons are attributed to the "patriarchy".
It turns out that Sister Liu comes from a rural area and has a younger brother in her family. Her parents are patriarchal, and everything revolves around her younger brother.
The obvious eccentricity of her parents made Sister Liu chill and wanted to escape. In order to get the attention of her parents, get more learning opportunities and always take care of her younger brother and please her parents.
However, external conditions can be changed, but internal influences still exist.
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She has changed her destiny and became a strong woman in life,In my heart, it was still the little girl who was pleased to beg and was not taken seriously, which led to the misfortune of the marriage.
People often say: the daughter who married out, throw out the water.
For patriarchal parents, daughters are even more "water for other people's homes."
Such a girl who grows up in a family, even if she is out of the control of the family, she still can't change the influence of the original family, and even becomes a tool person for her parents and brothers.
But in fact, the daughter is not an accessory, let alone the water that will eventually be thrown out.
regards her daughter as a "grass" home,
is not destined to bloom happy "flowers".
02 Patriarchal patriarchy, ruined the way of how many sons
In the past two years, many hit dramas have touched on the topic of patriarchy, and have also seen old concepts Next, the drawbacks and consequences of education.
" Ode to Joy " Fan Shengmei’s parents,The more you squeeze your daughter, the more you indulge your son.
Fan Shengmei became a seller for her brother to pay off the debt, and even posted the rich second generation.
The elder brother over there is still fighting and causing trouble, gambling and going to jail, a waste person, dragging down the whole family and wiping their ass.
Fang Sijin in " home " also cannot escape being "knocked by the bones" by the patriarchal mother.
The son wants to buy a house, and Fang Sijin takes a down payment of 200,000, but the mortgage is not available. The grandfather who is too sleepy in the house, forces her to repay the loan for his son and buy a house for his younger brother.
Such a son who worked hard to maintain, under the influence of his parents, has also become a white-eyed wolf who only seeks profit, deceives and squeezes his sister, and feels comfortable sucking blood.
" is good " The son of Su Mingcheng , he is used to being petted by his parents, and he naturally bullies and makes things difficult.
On the surface, it is a good thing, and it's a good show, but in fact, it's just a bad thing to be spoiled by your parents and yourself.
I can’t stand the setbacks in life, and I still want to chew the old after we get married;
I can’t keep my principles at work, and I lost my job and lost money;
As a human being, there is no bottom line, so I beat my sister Su Mingyu. Into the hospital;
In the end, I ended up with unemployment and divorce.
It can be seen that the patriarchal result:
Although the daughter is bound to be injured, the son may not be a talent.
Deformed love and biased education are more likely to raise waste materials.
This is not a film and television fabricated, but a real lesson.
A generation of queens Anita Mui , Fanghua Peerless also cannot escape the fate of being humbled and forced to become a "helper demon".
Mother May loves her son very much, but uses her two daughters as money tools.
Since the age of 4, Anita Mui has been selling and supporting her family with her sister, and has been squeezed all the way.
Even if she died young, she was still squeezed out of the last surplus value by Mae Mei and her eldest brother, selling relics, opening exhibition halls, and even the intimate clothing of his lifetime, which was also used for auction. .
that hides behind mother and sister,Where is the eldest brother of the Mei family who was "supported" all the way?
I have never been so idle, but I have done nothing so far. I spend my sister's inheritance, but he is extravagant and extravagant. I am not ashamed of it.
Mother May is used to reaching out to her daughter, but now she can only take care of her inheritance and control her son's expenses in order to maintain her life in the future.
The evil consequences of patriarchal patriarchalism will not only be borne by women.
Such favoritism, not only the daughter, but also the son is destroyed.
The unbalanced love for the son is not only useless to success, but may also ruin the harmony of the family. In the end, it will only suffer the daughter, destroy the son, and harm oneself.
Really smart parents will not sacrifice their daughters and spoil their sons.
but treats equally, equals and loves each other.
03 Treating children equally to adults
Xinhua once shared a video, in the video,A little girl from Jilin blinked and suddenly asked her grandma what is "patriarchal patriarchy" .
The mother beside her was a little nervous, worried that her grandmother was too old and her thinking was too old.
Unexpectedly, 85-year-old grandma answered:
"Preferring boys to girls means light (things) girls take, and heavy (things_span0) boys take _span7 pstrong (something) _span4." does not have a heavy and depressing atmosphere, but also gives new meaning to patriarchalism. It has amazed countless netizens, and crazy likes in the comment area.
is that it!
men can bear more strength, women can be more flexible and warm.
Both boys and girls are the treasures of the family.
Kung Fu movie star Zhao Wenzhuo is popular in "Brother Who Overcomes Thorns",Be concerned again. In addition to successful acting career, family life, and children's education are also called elder brothers.
The children are not only good-looking, but also excellent academically, which makes the audience and brothers enviable.
This is all due to Zhao Wenzhuo's superb "span water" effort .
In education, Zhao Wenzhuo treats his children equally.
physical exercise equally hard,
homework learning equally seize,
Interests equally respected.
Now, the eldest daughter, Zhao Ziyang, has excellent grades. Not only can she speak multiple languages, calligraphy and painting,He also studied at Rossi College, a famous Swiss aristocratic school, and was alumni with the king and prince. He also won a scholarship from the college, which is a real scholar.
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Strictly treat his son Tong Yan, doing push-ups while answering math questions.
Zhao Wenzhuo’s sons and daughters are now healthy, lively and outstanding, making others envy them.
It is said that the greatest kindness is to compare the heart to the heart, and the best education is gentleness and kindness.
To treat children, the way of love can be different, but the amount of love cannot be different.
Only equal love can have a truly harmonious and warm home.
has an unhealthy mentality, and it is difficult to teach whether it is a child or a girl;
with a correct mentality, happy children and parents naturally follow.
If the love of parents is not partial, education will not be partial.
hope that every parent can be a smart parent who is not blindfolded by "patriarchs",Seeing that children shine, no matter whether they are boys or girls, they can become plastic talents.
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