September 17th is the 24th birthday of Guan Xiaotong . Just at 0 o'clock, Luhan gave a blessing.
In fact, looking at Lu Han’s personal social platform over the past few years, it’s not difficult to find that since being with Guan Xiaotong, for the past 5 years, Lu Han has always delivered it on time for Guan Xiaotong’s birthday every year. bless.
On October 8, 2017, Lu Han publicized his love affair with Guan Xiaotong on his personal social platform, and she shed hundreds of thousands of fans overnight. At that time, many people felt that Lu Han was too impulsive, in love Love dazzled the head.
But in the past few years, after watching a lot of plots in the entertainment industry, I discovered that Lu Han is the real man.
Therefore, in recent years, Luhan's popularity has become better and better.
also, in today's rapidly changing era, everything is changing. It is so rare to have a man with a sincere heart, always for you, always the same.
In admiring Guan Xiaotong, many girls are also thinking about when they can meet such a good relationship, such a good person, and be with them for life.
I have seen a lot of openings and closings, and the more I found out, if you want to reap a solid and sweet relationship, 3 points are very important:
1. Is he your best Good friend
A foreign research institution once did an experiment,Investigate those couples who have lived together for more than 50 years and are still very sweet. During the investigation, they found an extremely surprising fact, that is, these couples who have been married for more than 50 years all mentioned one point-their partners are their best friends, and their feelings are affected every day. More stable.
This has attracted the attention of this research institution.
They later did an in-depth study on this, and finally came to the conclusion that friendship is a very core element of a relationship that wants to be stable and long-lasting.
Just imagine, your partner is also your best friend. If you have anything to say or encounter, the first thing you think of is to share with him. If this is the case, after you are together, the probability of separation will be much smaller.
Having said that, I think of the love between Zhao Youting and Gao Yuanyuan .
Venus once asked Zhao Youting, who talked more about you and Yuanyuan.
Who knows that Zhao Youting said that two people have a lot of words, and they will talk wildly when they meet.
Yes, if there is a person, you want to be the first to share anything with him, and this person is your closest partner. What a blessing.
2. Do you know him enough?
In the past few years, things like flash marriages and flashes have emerged one after another. Because the times have changed, young people have become more open-minded today.
find someone to marry,After a few days, I found that I hadn't gone together, so I left immediately. Such things are not uncommon.
But this also shows from the side that many people did not have a deep understanding of each other before you got married. If you can understand enough before getting married, then you believe that the chances of a long and happy marriage should be much greater.
Speaking of this, I think of the love between Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang .
Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang have been in a relationship for 8 years. Such a long time of getting along with each other makes them convinced that this person is the person who they want and is suitable to spend their life with.
Now, they have entered into marriage and have 3 children. The happy life after marriage is obvious to all.
So you see, if you want a happy marriage for a long time, it is very necessary to understand and get along well before getting married. The marriage of
Lizhi and Jet Li can also illustrate this problem.
When Jet Li chased Lizhi, Lizhi was reluctant to enter marriage because he had no confidence in marriage. But Jet Li is still very persistent.
So Lizhi said, then you wait for me for 10 years. If you are still willing to marry me after 10 years, then I will marry you.
As a result, Jet Li really waited for 10 years, so 10 years later, Li Zhi married him as scheduled.
After marriage, the two live a happy and sweet life.In an interview with Luyu , Jet Li once said that all the money he earned was turned over to Lizhi, and he didn't know how much money he had.
So you see, with long-term relationship and understanding as a guarantee, the chances of happiness after marriage are indeed much greater.
Of course, like Guo Jingjing, Huo Qigang, Li Zhi, and Jet Li, dating for 10 years and 8 years in love is a more extreme example.
However, in order to have a happy marriage in the future, it is still very necessary to spend at least two or three years with the married partner before marriage.
Otherwise, after getting married, it is discovered that the chosen person is not suitable. At that time, it will be very troublesome to separate. It might hurt your muscles, or even go to court, you may not be able to leave.
3. Character is more important than knowledge
Self-media person Lian Yue said: " is to find a suitable marriage partner, and the core is to find a good person." In other words, as long as the person is right, the life after marriage won't get worse.
Even if you really don't love and want to break up by then, you can end up decently without worrying about getting hurt, or torn and tearing, and ultimately you will lose both.
In recent years, with the increase of age and experience, I have increasingly discovered how important a person’s most basic behavior is.
In other words,A person, no matter how many books he has read and how high his cultural level is, there is no guarantee that he will not do bad things. The so-and-so postgraduate case that has frequently appeared in recent years is proof.
At the end, these people's educational background, cultural level, and knowledge are not the core and lowest level of a person. It depends on how a person is, in fact, it is often the most basic thing to do with others.
There is a saying in the old saying: " filial piety first" , many times in ancient China, the selection of talents, the first thing to look at is whether the person is filial to his parents at home, and then he learns these things. .
I watched the show of Maweidu a while ago. He said that one way to examine the character is to get this person drunk, and then watch his behavior after drinking. This can also be learned through knowledge. The things on the surface, see the essence of a person, and that thing is the most important thing.
Marriage is to live with this person, to deal with this person's character, not to see how much knowledge he has in his stomach.
Of course, it cannot be denied that the more knowledge and thinking framework a person has, the more likely it is to do things with confidence. But knowledge and learning are only shallow things after all. The character in the bones is the most important thing.
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Finally, let’s summarize.
In this era of fast food,If you want a stable and beautiful love and marriage, these three points are very important: Is he your best friend? Is it the first thing you want to share with him? Do you know enough? Do you really know what his character is?
These problems have been clarified. Even if happiness cannot be guaranteed 100% after marriage, the probability of happiness is still much greater than that of most rash marriages.
As Shakespeare said: "Sloppy marriages are less happy."
For the happiness of the rest of our lives, it’s always right to think about it, get to know, get along, and feel attentively before getting married.
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