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Regarding the self-cultivation of opera elites-what kind of system is ta?
Why do some people always boast? Sometimes they even deceive others in order to brush their presence.
Getting along with the actors often makes people feel "tired and unloved".
But have you ever wondered how these actors are performed?
Professor Suzanne Degges-White, a psychological counselor at Northern Illinois University, from the Department of Adult Higher Education, describes these people as "a person who is good at attracting others and at the same time good at disgusting people around them."
In today's popular online languages, it is called the "playing essence".
The following are some of the most common "drama" inner dramas in daily life:
• When my friends talked about some recent successes or setbacks, my heart began to secretly recall the "brilliance of my life" Moments", looking for stories of experiences that can compare each other. .
• While chatting with friends, suddenly other people asked me: "What did your friend say to you just now?" Maybe I can't answer this question, and I'm always thinking about how to turn the topic to myself.
• When certain things in life are different from what I imagined, I always feel that the world is bullying me; for example, I didn't choose the right seat when watching a movie, and I was one minute late when I ran to the company in the morning.
• Because in my opinion, the above plot is actually very serious. I think it is necessary to tell everyone around me about these things. Even after three or five weeks, it’s worth talking about it carefully and letting them all know .
• When talking to people, I can feel that they are "my listeners." Rather than simply sharing my experience with my friends, I might as well show myself to everyone.
• Every time I tell about my experience, some listeners seem to leave without hearing a few words.
If the above words are similar to your inner drama,Then you can also become a "drama" who can "add drama" to yourself at any time.
Some people will take it for granted that "playing fine" is selective and intentional.
This is not necessarily true.
Psychiatrist Scott Frankowski and his team conducted in-depth research on these "playing spirits", trying to understand their behavior patterns from the perspective of personality.
——Making a small topic, always boasting, falling into a series of "crisis events", making life more chaotic.
Researchers have discovered that "love acting" is also a personality trait, which is closely related to the following three factors:
1. Interpersonal manipulation
Interpersonal relationship manipulation refers to the ability to manipulate between people Weak, less conscious in interacting with others, more sincere, more humble, have a sharing attitude, and more willing to listen to others.
The difference is that although the "actress" likes to socialize, they are not sincere when interacting with people.
These actors constantly “add drama” to themselves, telling people around them that a series of dramatic events in their lives are in order to get the attention, sympathy, praise or affirmation they want from the “audience”.
But the level of viciousness of these actors is not high, and these "play actors" usually behave socially and seldom use others.
2. Speaking impulsively
These "drama" are often talkative, and say what they think. They rarely think about who they want to say to them, and on what occasions, what will be the consequences. .
3. Believe that you are a victim of the external environment
Normally,"Players" believe that everything they encounter is "airborne on themselves" and are not under their control.
Although the fact is that dramatic events often happen, and some of their own actions are more responsible, it is difficult for them to realize this.
The personality characteristics of "playing fine" also have a certain degree of complexity.
The survey shows that in the five major personality tests, "playing jingle" has a higher degree of extroversion, showing cheerfulness, good communication, enthusiasm, self-confidence and easy excitement.
At the same time, they also have a high degree of openness. They are good at expressing emotions, imaginative, curious, and willing to try new things.
But in terms of neuroticism and sense of responsibility, "playing spirit" appears to be a contradictory and complicated model.
• Neurotic
Although they "act a lot", they are actually not particularly anxious or emotionally fragile, but indulge in the performance; but at the same time, they are very impulsive and sometimes irritable.
• Responsibility
They are very ambitious and tend to be more confident in their abilities, but they lack self-discipline, do not like rules, and do not plan to do things.
phenotypic personality, also known as hysteria personality, hysterical personality, is an attention-seeking personality dominated by women.
I once heard of an interesting hospital case.
A hospitalized woman, she suspected that her hand had a problem and could not move, but the examination results showed that everything was normal;
Because she is usually noisy, in order not to affect the rest of the entire ward, a night nurse After coaxing her to lie down, she raised her hand and told her that if there is a problem with your hand, you should not be able to put it down. If you can put it down, it will prove that there is no problem and you can be discharged from the hospital.
So she held it all night to prove that there was a problem with her hand. She was so tired and sweaty that she didn't dare to let it go.
sounds weird? In fact, this type of person is a performer.
People with performance personality usually have higher anxiety and excessive emotional reactions. A mild performance personality tends to make it easier for them to enter the drama and be more expressive in the face of the camera.
But performance personality disorder is not a self-indulgent "performance", but an uncontrollable "performance disease". Just like a baby, they laugh when they are happy, and cry when they are uncomfortable.
Is it possible that performance personality is born? Or the acquired growth environment?
The results show that the formation of behavioral personality is closely related to family.
1. Childhood trauma induces changes in brain function
In 2005, psychiatrist Bruce Perry and other researchers published a neurobiological research report on child abuse. The report pointed out that he had suffered abuse in childhood. Or a catastrophic traumatic event may affect the development of brain function.
The amygdala of the brain plays an important role in our brain, such as emotional response, decision-making, and memory. Some people even call it the "playing spirit" in the brain structure.
Traumatic events have changed this part of the development. At this time, it will be difficult for individuals to judge what to do and what not to do in the current situation.
Therefore, "drama fans" often make fuss, exaggeration, and out of place when expressing emotions.
From a certain point of view, it is true that there is a problem in the mind of "playing fine" (knock on the blackboard: don't discriminate against others because of any personality traits).
2. Native family
Behind the performance personality, there is often a weak mother and a majestic and charming father.
Dad's demanding and petting daughters make the child wonder whether he should be close or afraid of his father. The mother's obedient obedience has also contributed to the humble concept of "born as a human".
Children who grow up in such a family are afraid of being despised and abandoned on the one hand, and on the other hand, they are eager to be recognized by others, and constantly cater to and please them.
may also become a "drama"-it is difficult to fill the heart's desire to attract attention, and to acquire superficial and exaggerated emotional expressions.
Incompetent mothers and narcissistic fathers are the root causes of children's hysteria personality.
This kind of family atmosphere has created the humble personality traits of the performers, and they are very afraid of rejection and violation.
In daily life, ta will use the following methods: depression, withdrawal, sexual desire, and act for it.
In daily life, ta will be suppressed in daily life, resulting in hysteria symptoms.
When they feel insecure, afraid of rejection, or get into trouble, they will protect themselves by giving in, making themselves behave like a child, behave well and weakly, trying to cater to or unrestrained compromise in exchange for the situation Relief (e.g. Stockholm syndrome).
A general step back may work, or it may make people feel cute and innocent;
But if it reaches the spiritual level, it may be stubborn, critical, do some stimulating things regardless of danger, or feel physical discomfort .
They try their best to express themselves, and the deeper purpose is to attract others' attention and gain recognition from others because of outside recognition.
is the main way for him to maintain self-esteem and maintain a sense of security;
This behavior is often insatiable. Impressions, when the misunderstanding deepens, they are even more afraid of showing their true self, and even acting out their entire lives.
remind every parent that role models may be the most important lesson for children.
"Playing Jing" is actually a kind of sympathetic expression of personality. After experiencing some kind of trauma and deficiency, they have learned this way, but this way can easily arouse the resentment of people around.
If there is someone around you who tries his best to make himself the most dazzling person in the crowd, and always shows and uses his own charm.
You can cooperate with the performance , in the performance, you can work hard with her, let her see the more valuable part of herself, and constantly make her truly believe in herself.
However, if she violates you unscrupulously for purpose, then you have to protect yourself and limit yourself;
Don’t tolerate again and again without knowing how to protect yourself, and finally let yourself be close to yourself;
Keeping your distance and watching performances is also a good way.
You can or can be indifferent and not responding, but don't bully them, because after all, no one can understand the true feelings of others.
"A person's personality is like a temperament character covered by people's various life stories."
The life story experienced by each person will leave a different mark on your own inner personality, so no one is exactly the same.
If you did not choose the last answer, then you are with most people.
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