Helping others is a virtue, but helping others must also pay attention to methods.
We have all heard some familiar ancient sayings: "Help emergency but not poverty", "Help people with moderation, promote mien, fight for revenge." , "It is better to help in time than to add icing on the cake." and so on.
so we can know that helping others should be very cautious, and there are many rules to follow.
" Yijing " has a hexagram "Sheng Gua". The upper hexagram is a mountain and the lower hexagram is water, indicating that there is water at the foot of the mountain. The water seeps from bottom to top, nourishing all things on the mountain.
So this hexagram explains the principle of "damaging oneself and benefiting others" and helping others.
The Saving Gua "Xiang" says: There is a marsh at the foot of the mountain, which will damage it; a gentleman punishes anger and suffocates desires.
means: There is water seed at the foot of the mountain, which is the hexagram of the hexagram; a gentleman should restrain his angry temper, eliminate his selfish desires, and do more things that are beneficial to everyone.
To help others, you must first have requirements for your personality. Only by helping others without purpose can you truly touch people's hearts.
So what should be done specifically is the real "helping others"? The six lines of the Saving Hexagram tell us the answer.
01
Action immediately
The first nine lines of the line: I have gone through the past, no blame; take it to harm.
means: Stop and help others quickly. There is no disaster. Just consider and reduce your own interests appropriately.
As the saying goes, "Help to help but not to help the poor", there is no way to save the poor, but the "urgent" must be saved.
If someone around you encounter difficulties, you should help you in time. Although it has suffered some losses to you, it has helped others and accumulated connections for yourself.
For example, if a friend’s family member suddenly suffers from illness, but his money cannot be withdrawn for the time being, so he will ask you to turn around and return it to you in a few days. Then, if you have it, don’t refuse.
However, there is also a certain degree to be grasped here - to lose it, that is, don’t give full help, just provide appropriate help.
02
weigh the pros and cons
Nine-second line: Benefit and chastity, and do not gain or lose.
means: is conducive to sticking to the right path, and taking the initiative will be dangerous, which can benefit others without any loss.
is right to be enthusiastic about helping others, but you must always tell yourself: figure out your role, your own position, control yourself, and control yourself.
cannot harm yourself too much, because that will cause your own shortcomings and you will not be able to help others in the end.
For example, if you lend money to someone, you are kind-hearted, but if he borrows and returns it, then you think that "friends really have the meaning of wealth."
But if he borrows it from you, and you have borrowed it but not returned it, you are still enthusiastic and will lend it to him next time. After borrowing it three times, you will suffer a lot.
The worst thing is that from then on, you have thought that "friends have the meaning of being rich" is completely nonsense.
If you lose confidence in "benevolence and righteousness" because of your enthusiasm, will you harm yourself and others? Therefore, remember everything, too much is too little.
03
Review the situation
Sixth three lines: Three people walk, one person will lose; one person will win his friend.
means: Three people move forward together, one of them will be hurt; one person will act alone, and one person will meet like-minded friends.
The way of heaven and earth is "two-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two-to-two
People should use "rational control of emotions", and do things based on reason, and not emotionally.
There are many things you shouldn’t have helped others at first, why? If one person is in trouble, everyone will come to help, and this may not be good. Because there are so many people, everyone has their own opinions.
For example, if a person is in a car accident and is lying there, several of us must give it to the person who understands it, and he will see what kind of first aid is needed.
In this way, that situation will not occur: many enthusiastic people go to first rescue people, but they are fine, but something happened in the end.
helps others to rush forward regardless of the situation, but to judge the situation and pay attention to effectiveness.
04
overcome your own
Sixth fourth line: damage your disease and make you happy. No blame.
means : overcome your weaknesses and welcome the joy that comes soon, without any disaster.
"June 4th" and "Ninth Day" are corresponding, so here is what should we do when we get help from others?
First of all, you must remember that you cannot seek excessively. People know how to reduce their weaknesses and control their desires, rather than just wanting to rely on others, so that they can eventually get rid of difficulties.
June 4 "Xiang" says: It can also be pleasant to damage your disease.
means: should try to overcome one's own weaknesses and wait for others to help. This behavior of overcoming one's own weaknesses is a very gratifying thing.
05
accept feedback
Sixth and fifth lines: If you benefit the turtle of ten friends, it will not be defeated, and it will be auspicious.
means: Someone will send a turtle that is expensive to ten friends, don’t refuse, it’s good luck.
"Sixth Five-Year Plan" means being in the throne. If a person is in the throne and no longer needs to get help from others, do not reject other people's kindness.
even has to take the initiative to create opportunities and let others help themselves. Why is this?
Because it may be someone you have helped before, you have begun to repay you. The wealth you gave to you is what you deserve. Don’t reject it. Only in this way can you have a good interaction with others and be lucky.
Many parents don’t understand the sixth and fifth lines. The son wants to give him money. He said: “No, I’m raising you for the sake of giving back.” His daughter wants to give him something. He said: “I have more than you when you take back that little thing.”
What should I do if the child does? You always have to give them the opportunity to show their filial piety. If you reject them like this, you are truly considering yourself and others.
You don’t have to refuse, nor can you refuse, because this is originally good for everyone.
provides others with opportunities to perform, and it is also a kind of cultivation. But you must also remember that you cannot take the initiative to ask others for it, and you cannot dislike others, because that will be unreasonable.
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4 The small one is the big one
The nine lines on the top of the line: If you don’t gain or lose, there will be no blame; if you have a good fortune, you will be at home, and you will be homeless.
means: can make others profit without any loss, without any fault. Being up with the right path will bring good luck. At this time, you must be brave enough to do things, which will benefit the world and the people will return to your heart.
"Shangjiu" is a person who works hard and makes great contributions. It is natural to be supported by his children, but remember to stick to the right path.
If you take your children's money and make random money, buy a lot of things you shouldn't, or even use your children's money to gamble, you think that if you lose, someone will be at the bottom.
, then it will not be "faithful", and if it is not "faithful", then it will not be "auspicious". So, you can do whatever you want, but you can't ignore the truth.
Of course, you should also pay attention to it here. You should also benefit others and not be rude. If you give a red envelope to your grandson during the Chinese New Year and the holidays, it is all the money given to you by your son. You will not lose anything, but everyone will be happy.
If you can "lose" yourself, you will get everyone's hearts. If you can damage this "small family", you will get the warmth of a big family.
This is the happiness of family that I want to have the most after working hard for a lifetime.
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What is the essence of "San Gua"? Destroy matter to enhance your moral character.
While helping others and obtaining help from others, keep in mind the above six principles.
will be able to do everything in the future and everyone will be happy.
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