The public’s aesthetic appreciation of women has always been at the level of white, thin and young. So every time we open the Internet, there are always overwhelming advertisements for whitening, including whitening creams, whitening water, whitening pills, and the five words that have been echoing in our minds: "One white skin covers all ugliness."
’s obsession with neoteny can be seen in everyone’s obsession with anti-aging.
Full facial contours are what most people yearn for. Because of such a yearning, there are so many commercial activities for those who yearn for it. Various facial filling techniques are emerging in endlessly. Women who are usually very afraid of pain are faced with various types of facial fillers. You can gnash your teeth in front of the extremely painful minimally invasive medical aesthetics, and you can endure the huge pain for the sake of beauty. It would be a bit far-fetched to say that this unnatural beauty is meant to please myself. After all, it really hurts too much to please me.
Regarding thinness, everyone may have a deeper feeling. Put coins on the collarbone, eggs on the collarbone, touch the belly button with the backhand, and A4 waist. The way everyone greets each other has also become, "Have you lost weight again recently?" The other party looks uncontrollable. He was so happy that he quickly "argued": How could it be?
After talking about Bai Shouyou, let’s take a look at the girl’s heart. The overall feeling of a girl is that of innocence, romance and beauty. I understand the girl’s heart to be full of expectations for the world and full of goodwill towards the people and things around her. But in real life, when we see a woman wearing pink clothes, a fluffy skirt, or clothes with lace and frill elements, we will say that she is very girly. Did we say it wrong? No, dressing is the externalization of a person's thoughts. If you dress more like a girl, you may really have the feelings of a girl, or you may have the obsession and pursuit of the feelings of a girl. When we talk about keeping a girlish heart, our original intention is to keep an open and tolerant mind and try not to be biased towards external things.
Whether it is the fascination with thin white boys or the persistence of girlish hearts, adult women are promoting their independence of personality while at the same time objectifying themselves.
Perhaps only Father's Day and Qingming Festival will not be celebrated as Valentine's Day in a year. Other solar calendar festivals (and the Chinese Valentine's Day) can basically be celebrated as Valentine's Day. Red envelope transfers, flowers and chocolates are all over our circle of friends. Writing these words here today is not to denounce women, because I am also an ordinary woman full of internal contradictions. I just want to express my confusion in the face of all the women around me receiving messages on Children’s Day. I have also been envious of gifts. Who doesn’t want to be pampered like a child all the time?
But after reflection, I felt it was inappropriate. I wanted to be pampered like a child, so why should I?
Not to mention that my age is far away from the world of children. Even looking at the increasingly obvious crow's feet in the mirror, I feel embarrassed to accept children's Day gifts from others.
Should I receive gifts on Valentine’s Day? It should be collected, but if there is much that should be collected, then there should be much that should be given away.
If you say that you should accept it because you feel good after receiving it, then if you give it to the other person, the other person will not be in a bad mood.
If you accept it because you don’t want to let down the other person’s feelings, then shouldn’t you also reciprocate the other person’s feelings?
If you think it’s appropriate to receive gifts, then maybe you shouldn’t. Why should one person be nice to another person?
Does the person who is treated well automatically dwarf himself in terms of personality? Only the strong are more qualified to treat others well, and the weak only need to extend their hands to accept.
The path of women’s growth is full of visible and invisible thorns. Sometimes they can be avoided, sometimes they cannot be avoided and they have to suffer some injuries before they have a chance to grow. Just like when you are in your twenties, it is easy to meet a scumbag. Similarly, when we were in our twenties, we were still young girls, full of expectations and goodwill for the world, and willing to exchange 10% of our sincerity for 10% of our sincerity. However, we later changed and became a bit indifferent. It’s because the core has become hard. Although we still like pink and lace, we try not to show it in places other than home, because we understand that not everything in this world is beautiful.
Knowing how to advance and retreat, and knowing how to restrain is one of the signs of female growth.
Bai Shouyou's aesthetic is still going on, and we are still on the edge of contradiction, slowly waiting for time to polish and experience, until one day we are relieved of the real aesthetic that is not objective to the public, and it is possible to be a real person. Own.
