"Only lonely children can gather all their enthusiasm, while others have already abused their feelings in social activities and consumed their feelings in close contact with others."

"Only lonely children can gather all their enthusiasm, while others have already abused their feelings in social activities and consumed their feelings in close contact with others."

— Zweig "Letter from a strange woman"

There was a drama I was very interested in recently, called "Lonely Rock". Even if you don’t follow any anime, you have probably seen the following set of pictures:

The heroine is named Goto Ichiri, also known as Xiaogudu, very cute, and Yan Yi is full of it, which is called walking emoticons.

But I wrote this article not to introduce the drama, but because this little loneliness is a very social phobia patient.

Although there are extremely exaggerated elements in the performance of the series, for example, Xiao Gu must crawl into the box and play, which is actually very inappropriate for the social terror personality.

But put aside the performance techniques of the series, Xiao Gu's thoughts and behaviors often make me resonate with my heart.

To a certain extent, little loneliness is actually very arrogant. Unlike the inferiority complex in performance, we are all like this.

I remember a long time ago, I forgot whether I saw a so-called expert's speech on Weibo or Xiaohongshu. The general meaning is: "In fact, the so-called social phobia, those people have a strange sense of superiority, are quite conceited. They are unwilling to know others, nor are they willing to be known by others, they think they are superior, and they think that their world is enough, but in fact they are just frogs in the well" .

I also took a screenshot at that time, but today I looked through the mobile phone album all day, but I never found that screenshot again. But at that time I was thinking that if you put a fuck GP, the essence of social phobia is undoubtedly due to inferiority. I am already inferior enough and I have to listen to the so-called experts like you who come to PUA. I don’t know what crimes social fears have suffered.

But then I thought again, maybe this is because has some pairs. As I often think, I am not sociable, I just look lonely. If one day I become a group, then I will be truly lonely inside. does seem to have a little superiority, but in fact, I don’t want to be together, maybe it’s just because I’m lazy or afraid.

Those self-reports of "little loneliness" and those copywritings that cater to "little loneliness" actually have a mysterious sense of superiority.

is like a famous quote from Jimi who has been quoted by countless lonely people:

"I must not be the only weird person in this city. Someone must be like me. When I am empty, I sing to the night sky until dawn. Maybe I will never meet him, but I am familiar with his mood."

Everyone really likes this sentence, and I think the reason why everyone likes this sentence is because deep down they actually want to be discovered and hope that someone can find their own.

Many people think they are weird in this city and are incompatible with other things with higher saturation in society. But I think this may also be a kind of with a slightly arrogant paranoia . The weird guy is actually a unique person, and he is in harmony with a subtle sense of superiority, but in fact everyone has differences, and there is a more precise noun, called individual difference.

. People themselves are mass-produced, receive the same education, use the same Internet, use the same software, and accept the same knowledge. The difference between people is not as big as imagined.

Everything is not that bad yet. No one is born lonely. Most of the time it is because he encounters setbacks during the process of growing up, hits a wall in his daily life, and then falls into such an abyss.

After these short decades of life, I realized that loneliness is indeed not a big deal, but a life state chosen by myself. But the loneliness caused by social fear is different from my relief. It has a feeling of unwillingness to be hidden deep in it. This is not a normal life state, but a chronic disease.

So they long for someone to come and save them, so they will grit their teeth and try to break through this layer of loneliness. They are always different from each other, and they often do not do what they really desire in their hearts. Just like Ichiri Goto.

I have also had such periods, and I have wanted to get rid of the autism status like Xiaogudu. As for whether I have succeeded, I actually can't say.

I only know that trying to integrate into other groups is a very suffocating thing. The sleepiness is attacking me. Sometimes, after a brief joy, I always feel more colder than usual when I leave the crowd alone, surrounded by countless loneliness, and I have no strength to struggle at all.

I only know that I seemed to have done it, but I changed from a kind of unwilling loneliness to another kind of relieved loneliness.

Loneliness is something that requires courage, and getting rid of loneliness requires greater courage.

It’s a pity that we are not Xiaogudu, and Xiaogudu still has so much attention! And her ending probably also succeeded in walking out of this quagmire of fear, right? This is in line with the positive tone of the story. I think the story of Little Glory was not really written by a certain social terror, but the speculations of the lonely people by some .

But according to my few experiences, it is indeed arrogant to stay in the shadows, and we should all come out of this loneliness. Even if you really want to walk alone, it shouldn’t be forced, but you should take the initiative to embrace loneliness.

Author: Aquiles

Article First Public Account: Xingjielan

Thinking of this, loneliness is really arrogant.