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on the sixth day of the Xiangxin chaos, not surprisingly, the goddess Grace chose to forgive Axiang for the sake of her family. In the statement, the sentence "change me to hold an umbrella for you" was called great, but in my It seems that this is not greatness, it is called greatness after dumping Axiang. This sentence just reveals how painful she is! And why is the marriage perfect like a piece of crystal glass finally rolled into the rotten, stinky ditch? Actually, marriage is a muddy mess. There is never perfection. Sometimes "perfection is the invisible killer of marriage" . The statement of
Grace can be said to be the answer that all cheating men are most looking forward to hearing. Many people list this statement as one of the "perfect wife clauses." "Great wife", this terrible shackle has been added to married women invisibly. It is not great to say "supporting an affair with her husband", Grace is not great, on the contrary, this is the counter-evidence of the devastating trauma in the heart. Don't regard her pain as the wisdom of a woman .
Grace forgive Axiang. (Picture/Retrieved from Grace Facebook)
Everyone says, "As much as there is love, there will be so much hate and pain." Grace's words make people feel the immense love, which proves that she is in I know how much pain my beloved husband endured after cheating. Of course, Grace may really be the reincarnation of a fairy, strong and kind enough to turn this pain into love and continue the family, but if there is no such strong heart as her, she deliberately armed, for the family and children, barely show This kind of "extremely good" actually needs to be worried.
Many people will ask, why Axiang and Grace are model perfect couples in everyone's eyes, yet there is still a minor intervention? Today, I will not comment on Axiang’s husband and wife. There are many emotional articles on the Internet that teach people to become perfect wives and perfect husbands. They are obsessed with perfection, but neglect or even escape from the ugly side of human nature, because no one is there. Willing to be a bad guy.
Grace forgive Axiang. (Photo/Retrieved from Grace Facebook)
Husband hopes to show a capable and admirable side in front of his wife, and his wife hopes to show a gentle, graceful, goddess-like side in front of her husband. Because of love, I don’t want myself. If there is any flaw in the heart of the other person, a little bit of imperfection is not allowed in the marriage, so I have to work hard to be a "not myself" self, on the surface, respect each other as guests, will not quarrel, and always maintain the ideal side.
However, "Marriage has never been perfect, don't underestimate how contradictory and selfish human nature is!" When will the demon in the deep heart stick out his head, in unwillingness to destroy "the one who has always been perfect in the heart of the other person" I’m going crazy again and want to find a catharsis outlet. If there is a third person who can release the demon, everything will be out of the track.
When a person is habitually depressed, habitually uses calmness to hide emotions, and always uses the number one response to face things, giving people a perfect image, they are often high-risk groups of affair.
Grace and A Xiang have met and fell in love for 15 years. (Photo/Retrieved from Grace Facebook)
Think about it carefully, the personalities and looks of many juniors and Zhenggong are often two extremes. There is a pungent wife, and if a husband finds a junior, he likes to find a gentle and considerate one; there is a gentle one. Wife, Xiaosan likes to look for slutty money. These characteristics of Xiaosan happen to be the reflection of the dark side of her husband’s heart, and it is also the husband’s "acceptance of secret emotions". This is why many Zhenggongs found the existence of Xiaosan and were shocked to sleep. The husband who has been around for decades is so strange.
Psychologist Jung once proposed the theories of "eternal girls" and "eternal youths". This kind of people just want to keep their hearts pure and do not want to touch the dark side of reality. Psychologist Deng Huiwen described this kind of traits as "crystals". "Glass", in order to maintain the so-called "normal" marriage between husbands and wives like , there will be the subject of "cannot discuss and refuse to discuss". It is often "ashamed to speak out in ordinary people's perception", but it is easy to miss and repair. At the critical time of emotional rift, those who dare not communicate are actually selfish.
Axiang apologized to mend the marriage. (Photo/Photo by reporter Ji Xiangru)
Don’t have too much longing for marriage, and don’t extravagantly propose a perfect life after marriage, and don’t be afraid of quarreling, because "marriageThe essence is originally a puddle of mud", full of bacteria that are invisible to the naked eye, and quarreling is like a fierce fire. The more you burn it, the harder it becomes. As long as you patiently shape it, you can slowly make a beautiful pottery. Product.
The important thing is that the two people who are in love usually have to "dual practice" and face each other honestly. Only when they have a sense of measure and can't bear the sadness of the other half, they have enough perseverance and determination to counteract all kinds of temptations. , Only in this way, no matter how powerful a third party can only touch his nose and leave.
Although Grace forgave Axiang, the real nightmare and trials are only about to begin. She may have to face self-doubt, and she has to work hard to trust her husband who has cheated, and at the same time eliminate those who do not know when they will appear. Fear and suspicion, this is definitely a big project, it is impossible without a healing period of 3 years and 5 years, and Axiang must also understand her worries and insecurities, and must understand deeply after this painful experience. : Z3z "The person who will be deceived by your lies is often the person who trusts you the most."
bless Axiang and Grace.
●The author defeats people, the old butt of the entertainment center of "ETtoday Starlight Cloud", likes to talk about defeats, and laughs at countless defeated people in the society. Although there are many defeats, I hope that he will not be defeated. The above remarks are personal positions and have nothing to do with the company. ET Forum welcomes more Yunyou to participate, and netizens are also welcome to express their opinions, please send contributions to editor@ettoday.net
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