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In the entertainment industry, separation and reunification, divorce and remarriage are the most common things.
In fact, celebrities are also ordinary people, especially a middle-aged couple. After facing the chicken feathers and trivial fuel and salt of life, bumps and bumps are always inevitable.
Therefore, many stars and entertainers in the show business still have not been spared from the big wave of marriage.
At 8 o'clock in the evening on December 14, the fast man Wang Lixin announced the divorce news with his wife in high profile on his social platform.
In the divorce declaration, Wang Lixin said affectionately to his wife Wu Yating:
z1. It’s easy to see that the two divorce declarations of Liu Kai, and zzz1 are not difficult to see. Be wide, and each is well", "Thank you for the scenery in front of you to accompany you all the way."
It seems that there has never been a blush between the two, and nothing has happened. The original love was purely impulsive, but today's separation is purely accidental.
Compared with Hawick Lau and the article, Wang Lixin’s divorce declaration is more warm and affectionate. It is not like talking about divorce at all. On the contrary, it seems to miss the beauty of marriage. It seems that the two are still in love as always, forced by For some reason I had to separate the same.
In the words of netizens, "You still have to show affection when you divorce, you deserve to be an actor", "How do you think he said divorce is better than falling in love?" Netizens still noticed at a glance, there are two words, in the whole statement, it is very abrupt and strange, even a little puzzling, that is Wang Lixin's name for his wife, actually "roommate" . The two words
made countless netizens start to interpret them, and a few of them stung the hearts of millions of middle-aged couples.
thinks so!
What is a roommate? Good brothers who sleep on the same bed and don't talk to each other, and good friends who live in a room and don't communicate with each other.
nothing more! The two words
undoubtedly hit the pain points of many middle-aged couples in real life.
Although Wang Lixin's divorce statement did not indicate what caused the breakdown of the marriage.
Many netizens speculate whether he is cheating or domestic violence. He has two children and it is impossible to divorce for no reason.
As people who eat melons, we certainly cannot speculate, after all, we are not the parties.
However, Wang Lixin and his wife Wu Yating seem to many people to be a very loving couple. They have two lovely children. For their official divorce, many netizens said it was too sudden and it was simply unacceptable.
In fact, in this world, there is no love for no reason, no hate for no reason, and no divorce for no reason.
We will not analyze whether it is domestic violence or cheating, but just from Wang Lixin's divorce statement, he called his wife Wu Yating "roommate", and netizens can immediately substitute their own feelings about marriage.
In life, the term "roommate" is not the status quo of many middle-aged couples?
When people reach middle age, in addition to the old and the young, we must not only pant and work hard for a career that may be overwhelmed and run by others at any time, but also face a trivial marriage life and face the upbringing of children. .
The lovers who came from you and me in love at the beginning, after experiencing the winds and frosts of the years and the tempering of life, the original passion and sweetness have disappeared . Replaced by
, trivial firewood, rice, oil and salt, various monthly expenses at home, and homework counseling for children.
The current situation of the family makes the couple have less time and space to be alone, less communication between each other, and begin to feel that all the contributions the other party has for the family are justified.
If things go on like this, the marriage is still going on, but it is obvious that the sweetness of the past is gone, and the love and warmth of the past are no longer there.
When people reach middle age, marriage seems to be to live together in the same house, repay the loan together, and raise children together. The days have passed without anything to say, no love to do .
gradually became separated, quarreled, complained, and even had a cold war.
In a marriage that is as plain as boiled water, without any ripples and passion, sexless, loveless, and even sleeping in separate beds has become a daily routine for most middle-aged couples.
A group of survey data on couples sharing bed shows:
In 2009, an expert survey showed that asexual marriage accounted for 25% of Chinese couples. By 2017, this number is conservatively estimated to have exceeded 33%.
I did not expect that there are still so many couples on the verge of asexual marriage in China.
But there was a hot topic on Zhihu: how many people are still clenching their teeth and insisting on asexual marriage?
originally thought that this was only a problem for a very small number of people, but after reading thousands of answers, I found that this was not the case.
A netizen shared his marriage story.
He said that after two years in love with his wife, he quickly stepped into the marriage hall, and when he was in love, he could not wait for the two people to stay together for 24 hours.
can be married for three years, and their husbands and wives live less and less frequently. At the worst, a box of condoms can't be used up in a year.
Now they have two children, they are already on the verge of divorce.
From passionate love to asexual marriage, to the divorce cooling-off period, they only took 3 years.
has to say that "sleeping" is enough to witness the close relationship of middle-aged couples, and it is like a marriage self-portrait, which depicts their embarrassment, dullness and fatigue .
Just like in the movie " was taken away by light ", there is a classic line:
Before marriage, some people say that there is no love.
However, after we got married, we discovered that there is no sexual love, and it is also a hooliganism .
, especially middle-aged couples, after having children, many people finally understand that marriage can be so diverse, brotherhood, comradeship, family, humanitarian, helping others, holding a group to keep warm.
but love is no longer found, and sex is not obvious anymore.
But life will pass, and the marriage must continue. Z2z
sexless marriage is actually not an excuse for divorce, unwilling to face and solve the problems in the marriage, do not manage the marriage properly, lose confidence and enthusiasm for the marriage, is the biggest taboo of marriage .
After all, for adults, what collapse has not been experienced, let alone asexual marriage.
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