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Some time ago, Deng Chao sent a "fart" to Sun Li as a birthday present on Weibo, which was posted on Hot Search for several days.
While everyone was amused, they all envied Sun Li who had a happy marriage.
However, perhaps only Sun Li knew how much misfortune she had experienced before this happiness came.
In a show, she talked about her parents who divorced when she was 12 years old.
Since she can remember, the endless quarrels and cold wars between them have accompanied her throughout her childhood.
And when his father left the family with two thousand dollars, Sun Li followed his mother for many years. The interdependence between
and her mother helped Sun Li learn to be independent, and the misfortune of her parents' marriage also left a shadow in her heart. If
hadn't met Deng Chao later, Sun Li might not believe in love all his life.
Deng Chao knows that these bad memories keep Sun Li insecure, so he perseveres in showing his wife love in a high profile on Weibo.
Sometimes he would take a family portrait seriously and declare his sovereignty.
sometimes mischievous, recording their daily life like a joke.
However, even though they are getting more and more happy, Sun Li still has regrets in her heart.
She still remembers the complaint that her mother said when she was suffering in marriage:
"If it weren't for you, I would have divorced a long time ago. "
This is the bitterness that countless mothers can't complain about, and it is the life of many children nightmare.
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In order to give the child a complete family and leave no shadow in the growth, women in marriage actually endured a lot:
"caught her husband and cheated twice, but tolerated it for the sake of the child. As a result, when she was pregnant with a second child, I found out that they are both in and out."
"I endured the domestic violence for 30 years just to have a complete family for my children..."
"I really want to get a divorce, but I don't want to let this family go away because of my children. , Really tired!"
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But unfortunately, children are much more sensitive than we thought. They may not understand what love is, but they can perceive each other in the eyes of their parents. Bored.
When the cold marriage has survived in name only, but because of their existence and reluctantly maintained, the children will not have the sense of accomplishment in saving the family, and will only blame themselves as the source of all unhappiness. Mr.
has a friend like this, she has felt that she is the sinner of the whole family since she was a child.
Her father has a bad personality, and he likes to beat people when he is drunk. After repeated teachings, his mother has despaired of him, but because the child is still young, she has been hesitant to divorce.
Since then, the family atmosphere has been at a low temperature all year round. When other parents are taking their children to watch movies and play games, the friends' parents are either arguing or just finished arguing.
Every time I see a bruise on my mother's body, my friends suffer. She even thought of committing suicide because of this, maybe then her mother would be liberated.
In the end, the reluctant family to maintain the mother’s life is suffering, and her childhood is full of shadows.
"McDull Story" has such a line: "There are some things, no, but no. No, just no." The
twisted melon is not sweet yet, forcing people who are destined to disagree to stay together will only increase the damage.
In the end, what mothers want to protect is not only unprotected, but also their own injuries.
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In fact, a formal family of three is not necessarily happy, but single-parent families that depend on each other can be very warm.
A reader who told her husband about the divorce experience is like this. After
found out that her husband had cheated, she tried to endure it for a few days for the child.
However, with emotional cleanliness, she finally found that she could not accept the betrayal, especially after the man even confidently asked her to forgive him for the child.
"Why didn't you see you thinking about your child when you cheated, it was not me who made the mistake! "
She was very shocked and angry, so she made up her mind to get a divorce.
The life of raising children alone is a bit difficult, but it is also very fulfilling.
, who has been a full-time housewife for several years, started from scratch, and gradually went from nothing to later slowly making her own world. The
children are also well taken care of by her. Every day they will take a separate time to talk about interesting things that happened today.
's happy time with her children makes her younger and younger, and there are more and more outstanding suitors around her.
Today when the divorce is demonized, there are many examples of rebirth after divorce like this reader.
has people who have met a chicken feather before and became a princess after their second marriage;
has been a free babysitter, and now takes her son to set sail again;
also has people because of today’s happy time. I am grateful for the original decision to divorce;
divorce is not terrible, the terrible thing is that we are already in the vortex of misfortune but dare not change.
Looking at the rest of my life, all of life is far from marriage. If you are unsatisfied, you don't have to be desperate, and you don't have to break the jar.
might as well be bold, brave, step out of the familiar but icy environment, and look for new possibilities.
After all, there is no worse choice than wasting the rest of your life on someone you hate, isn't it?
order a "seeing" ,
women can marry for happiness,
can also divorce for happiness.
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