Recently, in the variety show "Goodbye Love 2",
welcomed a special couple,
that is Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng .
This variety show, the invitation partner,
, is the person who has been divorced or is preparing to divorce.
Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng are preparing to divorce, but are trying to save the marriage.
At the beginning, Zhang Wanting cried and reflected on herself.
In her married life, she was unable to control her emotions, and
impulsively said hurtful words.
Once, she and her mother-in-law quarreled.
She said, Your son is wrong, but you don’t say that your son still talks about me.
I don't want to talk to you anymore.
Then, I blocked my mother-in-law very emotionally.
As a result, my mother-in-law died in a car accident.
In the broken mother-in-law's mobile phone, she still retains the message sent to her daughter-in-law Zhang Wanting.
When Zhang Wanting found out about this, she regretted it.
On the show, she also cried bitterly.
When reflecting on her and her mother-in-law's affairs,
Zhang Wanting did not forget to reflect on her, and she blamed her husband Song Ningfeng for all kinds of harsh criticisms.
She felt that she shouldn't always be demanding on Song Ningfeng,
should speak well.
See here,
Perhaps, many people will think that
is a woman in a marriage, with her profound reflection and redemption.
However, as the program continues.
Zhang Wanting's words and deeds have changed.
Or, she has never changed.
She is still very strong and domineering, and has a strong desire to control.
When she appeared with her husband Song Ningfeng,
She always chattered endlessly,
She always accused Song Ningfeng.
From small things like boiling faucets to large things like Song Ningfeng's career development as an actor.
Every time, when Song Ningfeng wants to express his thoughts,
will be roughly interrupted by Zhang Wanting. In front of the lens of
,
was forced to remain silent,
was chattering ,
crazily outputting his own ideas.
From beginning to end, Zhang Wanting almost never gave her husband Song Ningfeng the opportunity or right to express.
The look she was eager to express, the impatient thing that
made Song Ningfeng and even the guests present felt very depressed.
When talking about her husband's career,
As an agent, Zhang Wanting directly attacked Song Ningfeng in front of many people.
" As an actor, if he can't even detect the emotions of the people around him, how can empathize with the character?"
" You feel that you empathize with that character, maybe it's just you. "
Two or three sentences,
directly extinguished Song Ningfeng's desire to speak. When the
shot was given to Song Ningfeng,
He raised his head helplessly and looked up at the sky and sighed.
If you just have a strong desire to control your husband,
is full of dissatisfaction,
may be able to understand.
However, Zhang Wanting, who even attended the guests,
, had to be stuck in a single mouth. In the
program, Aiwei and Lu Ge mentioned treating the program as "work".
When Zhang Wanting heard this,
jumped up and asked,
"Why do you want to come here?"
"Go back and be your actor."
After saying that, he left the two confused faces behind, and
ran away.
The reason why Zhang Wanting did this is because she felt that
Aiwei and Lu Ge are not,
came here to save the marriage or solve the problem,
and their motives are impure.
But in fact, what makes Zhang Wanting angry the most is that
Lu Ge attempts to "take a wrongful way" and "transform" Song Ningfeng.
Faced with the reasons behind her various strengths,
Zhang Wanting told her,
The process of her acquaintance and love and marriage.
Song Ningfeng was originally named " Song Ning ". He was a model in the early days and later became an actor.
is currently in a position beyond the third line.
However, Song Ningfeng's ex-wife and ex-girlfriend are very famous.
Changeable Actress queen Zhou Xun is his ex-girlfriend;
New actress queen Qixi is his ex-wife.
And the plateau, Dou Wei's ex-wife is his cousin.
Song Ningfeng and Qi Xi have the deepest feelings.
got married in 2012 and divorced in 2019.
Song Ningfeng fell in love deeply back then and proposed to Qi Xi 3 times.
However, the divorce was very hurt in the end.
Soon after, Song Ningfeng met his then agent Zhang Wanting.
Zhang Wanting took the initiative to chase Song Ningfeng,
and told him, I'll give you a baby.
The two of them had children without knowing each other.
After marriage, Zhang Wanting frantically outputted all her bad emotions.
She said that she needed Song Ningfeng to know herself quickly.
After the child was born, the two quarreled.
Zhang Wanting even held the child with one hand and pinched Song Ningfeng's neck with the other, crazily scolding the most ugly words.
Regarding her extreme behavior,
Zhang Wanting explained this,
"Emotions are selfish, so that I can feel comfortable and continue this marriage."
But she completely ignored Song Ningfeng's feelings.
When facing Zhang Wanting's increasingly strong desire to express herself,
Song Ningfeng would express his thoughts at the beginning,
However, Zhang Wanting was always refuted,
and even, his speech was roughly interrupted.
Gradually, Song Ningfeng became disliked to talk and communicate.
Song Ningfeng is not unwilling to love Zhang Wanting.
He would hand her a water cup and a tissue when Zhang Wanting was crying.
But Zhang Wanting was complaining about Song Ningfeng and not saying considerate words to herself.
She even completely forgot who deprived Song Ningfeng of his right to speak.
In the program, Song Ningfeng is also caring about Zhang Wanting.
He will take the initiative to care, talk, put on a blanket, hand over hot water, touch his head...
However, Zhang Wanting did not feel at all,
that was the love her husband had for himself.
just squatted on the ground and played with her mobile phone, not responding to her husband's care.
In the process of writing letters to each other,
Song Ningfeng finally had the opportunity to express his thoughts.
Zhang Wanting heard it on the spot and cried loudly.
But she turned around and complained and criticized wildly.
husband Song Ningfeng was talking about his sadness,
did not consider his feelings.
She felt that Song Ningfeng was the "sinner" in this marriage.
Facing Zhang Wanting's inconsistent words and deeds,
Netizens said:
Zhang Wanting is always "ineffective reflection".
She always wants to transform Song Ningfeng and control Song Ningfeng,
However, she never thought of changing herself,
tried to accept other people's opinions and differences.
Just like afterwards, she also felt that it was not good for
to argue with Brother Lu Ge in front of the camera.
But she doesn't feel that she has done something wrong.
"Maybe I was arbitrary today, but if you don't fight me, I won't say anything."
"Because you are trying to stand opposite me, I just want to prove that I'm right."
Just two short sentences,
can be seen that Zhang Wanting's strong desire for self-centered control has never changed.
This is also why many netizens say she is very suffocated.
Note that interpersonal relationships are not zero-sum game , either black or white,
is a win-win relationship of mutual tolerance and understanding.
Because she is always outputting and expressing herself frantically,
does not give others a chance to breathe.
is also self-contradictory at the same time.
reflects in the previous second,
repeats the same trick in the next second,
's words and deeds reveal hypocrisy.
This reminds me of the heroine of "Ten Thousand Arrows Piercing the Heart",
She is strong, mean, fierce, possessive, and revengeful,
But she finally lost her husband.
So, in a marriage or intimate relationship,
does not just keep the other person firmly in your own hands,
more requires listening to each other's voice,
more effective communication,
timely and effectively reflect,
and take real actions to change yourself.
Only in this way can intimate relationships develop in a healthy direction.
Author: Momo Editor: Maizi
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