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Two days ago, I got an entertainment message: " Coat Brother " Zhu Zhiwen 's prospective daughter-in-law is 8 weeks pregnant. But the wedding ceremony, which was originally scheduled for National Day, was postponed.
Some netizens speculated that it was because the woman’s parents were not satisfied with the son of “Brother Coat”. I think Zhu Xiaowei has no future and has no stable job.
In fact, it is not a big deal for everyone to think about this. Although "Brother Coat" is rich and has an emotional intelligence online, his son is not at all worry-free.
Zhu Xiaowei dropped out of school at the age of 14 and did not continue to study. Many netizens shouted with concern, hoping that he could study hard and get into an adult university. But he ignored it.
Although he later went to Qingdao as an apprentice, he did not learn any skills, but instead became a habit of smoking and drinking. I haven't worked properly by the age of 19.
If a son like this is in an ordinary family, his parents will have to worry about whether he can marry a wife. However, Zhu Xiaowei quickly went to a blind date. The woman worked in the hospital and looked pretty good.
The two of them didn't get along much, so they hurriedly settled. However, this marriage is like a reality show. It only took a year from the woman's marriage to the Zhu family to the unilateral official announcement of the divorce.
The reason for divorce is that after marriage, the woman has always made money to support her family. Zhu Xiaowei is not motivated, does nothing all day, has no skill in making a living, and only knows how to eat and drink with his friends.
Many netizens did not buy it, thinking that she came for the money and fame of "Brother Coat". Some people even bluntly said, "Xiao Zhu was in this state before marriage. Didn't the woman find out that there is no reason to love, and there is always a reason not to love!"
To be honest, no matter whether the mind was pure or not when getting married, no one wanted his husband to be ignorant. After all, no matter how capable his parents are, they cannot protect their children for the rest of their lives.
Although Zhu Zhiwen's expectations for his children are simple and simple, as long as his son can marry a reasonable wife, his daughter finds a good-tempered in-laws' family, and he will never have to worry about food, drink, safety and happiness in his life.
But unfortunately, because of this lack of requirements and the mentality of protecting the child for the rest of his life, he will develop a lazy and greedy personality for his children.
. For children who have no career, no responsibility, no education, and no survival skills, their parents' wealth is a death talisman, which will attract a large number of opposite sexes with unique intentions. It will be difficult to be happy in a marriage.
As the saying goes, "If parents love their children, they will have far-reaching plans." Whether they have money or not, letting their children have these two abilities is foresight.
Independent and responsible abilities
Someone said, "The most affectionate love is not to take care of children for the rest of their lives. It is to make children an independent, responsible and responsible person."
agrees deeply. Although the escort of parents can make children's life journey seem to be effortless. But everyone must have the ability to carry the burden.
After all, no matter how capable parents are, they will eventually grow old. It is impossible for them to always protect and pave the way for their children's lives. If parents always work too hard, then their children will not have the chance to grow up and may even become dependents.
Of course, this does not mean that you will let it go directly, but that you will not interfere. After all, for young children, it is a critical period for establishing their three views and cannot be without our encouragement.
gives children room to grow and have expectations and requirements that they can achieve if they have enough. Once they experience the sense of accomplishment and competence many times, they will become independent and responsible, and have the greatest strength to walk in the world.
Lifelong learning ability
No matter at any time, studying hard is the best way to change a person's destiny. When a child has the ability to learn for life, he will get the greatest survival guarantee. Children like
, no matter how their family background is, will continue to improve themselves, make themselves grow and become better.
They know that every stage of life has room for growth. To realize your life, you need to work hard. Being lazy and being unable to move forward will only make you empty and anxious.
. It is precisely because of continuous learning that they will broaden their horizons in this process, form their own thinking abilities, build a broad knowledge system, and shape the correct three views in this process.
Of course, more importantly, the knowledge and experience in the mind will make them mature and stable. No matter what sufferings and troughs they encounter in the future, they can find a way out.
Finally, I want to say that what sets apart from children is not money, but the pattern of parents. It is better for parents to give their children the ability to take care of their lives than to leave their children.
Senior nanny, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comics articles,
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