"Pondering sons over daughters" is one of the persistent topics and contradictions in Chinese families. This situation is not uncommon in life, and many female celebrities have also grown up in an environment where sons are more important than women.
Zhang Ruonan--original name "Ruo Nan"
In the recently broadcasted talk show " Sending 100 Girls Home ", Zhang Ruonan was asked by the host if her name was her real name. She has been praised for her name since her debut. It's nice, but I didn't expect there to be such a sad story behind it. "Ruonan" actually means "Ruonan".
Because Zhang Ruonan's family especially wanted a boy, the first child was born a girl, so they named her "Ruonan", hoping she would be like a boy.
After listening to the origin of Zhang Ruonan's name, the host felt angry: "This sounds like an infuriating story!"
But Zhang Ruonan responded with a smile: "No, because I feel used to it..."
Zhang Ruonan has already seen the behavior and thoughts of family members who prefer sons to daughters.
Then the host asked if Zhang Ruonan's grandparents liked her granddaughter. At that time, Zhang Ruonan didn't answer the question directly, but said, "My grandma really really wants her grandson."
Zhang Ruonan's hesitation before answering the question has already explained everything. As a girl, she is not liked by her family.
Living in such a patriarchal family, Zhang Ruonan's pressure can be imagined. Her mother gave birth to three daughters before she had a son. As the eldest daughter, Zhang Ruonan worked hard to earn money to support her family. There is no savings.
Fortunately, Zhang Ruonan herself is still very successful, starred in many film and television dramas, and her career is booming, but even so, she has not changed her family's idea of patriarchal.
My family doesn't think that having a girl is a good thing because Zhang Ruonan is promising, they always think that a boy is better.
Although Zhang Ruonan was unfairly treated because of her family's "preference of sons to daughters", she still sincerely hopes that her younger brother can become a promising person, not just relying on her sister.
All say that Zhang Ruonan is the "face of first love", like a little princess raised in a wealthy family, but she didn't expect that she grew up in a family that prefers sons to daughters.
Now Zhang Ruonan is completely relieved, and she tells her story with a calm expression. The beautiful sister is really kind...
Hao Lei--must be a boy
In everyone's impression, Hao Lei has always been The image of "big woman" looks strong, independent, and full of aura, all because she comes from a family that prefers patriarchy to women.
In the talk show "Thirteen Invitation", Hao Lei said this to the male host: "You are a boy, but so is Hao Lei. You must be a boy since childhood." , the father is the eldest son in the family and must have a son, but in the end he did not get his wish and only gave birth to a daughter.
As an only child, Hao Lei has always been raised as a boy, and grew up with the belief of being a boy. At the age of 15, she left home and wandered outside, never worrying about her family, which also made her relationship with her father not as good as that of ordinary fathers. female intimacy.
Hao Lei's second divorce was the saddest time for her. She was very eager for the comfort and encouragement of her family. She finally summoned the courage to say to her father, "I want a hug."
Facing her daughter's showing weakness, The father didn't understand, instead he shouted, "What's the use of hugging!"
Hao Lei burst into tears on the spot.
A girl was raised as a boy. All of Hao Lei's strength and independence were forced. She couldn't rely on her parents, and her parents wouldn't rely on her, so when talking about her family of origin, Hao Lei could only choked up. : "You can't imagine the cruelty of my father and my mother."
Yi Nengjing--It's a woman's fault to give birth to a daughter
Yi Nengjing's birth is not expected, the father's idea of "prioritizing sons and daughters" is deeply rooted in the bone marrow, and the mother is because of even She gave birth to seven daughters and was tragically abandoned by her husband.
Because her parents wanted to have a boy too much, Yi Nengjing almost never had the chance to come to this world. When her mother was pregnant, she tried to jump off the sofa and drink medicine to have an abortion, but all were unsuccessful. Yi Nengjing was born safely, but she saw that she was a girl Dad turned around and left.
Later, Yi Nengjing's father and other women gave birth to a boy outside, and her mother tried to buy back the little boy with 300,000 yuan, but she was humiliated by the woman "belly is not good enough".
The saddest thing is that Yi Nengjing's mother didn't realize that it was wrong to favor sons over daughters. She always believed that it was her fault to give birth to a daughter, and it was also her fault that she didn't take good care of men.
Yi Nengjing's achievements today are all due to her own hard work. She started earning money to support her family at a very young age. She has proved that girls are no worse than boys, but the influence of the original family's concept of preference for sons over women is indelible.
After marrying Qin Hao , Yi Nengjing gave birth to a daughter "Rice" at the age of 48. She was very concerned about whether her parents-in-law would mind that "Rice" was a girl. "Inheritance from generation to generation".
Fortunately, both parents-in-law like their little granddaughter very much, which made Yi Nengjing unbelievable for a while, and even personally asked her husband and parents why they did not favor sons over daughters.
Qin Hao looked indifferent when he heard this question, which is a very normal thing in itself, but Yi Nengjing was influenced by incorrect concepts since childhood, so that she was brooding about the preference for sons over daughters.
Yi Nengjing's childhood was not a happy one. Fortunately, after her second marriage, she came to a family with a correct concept. I hope this happy family can heal the pain in her heart.
Yuexian --useless things
Yu Yuexian, who died in a car accident, was also born in a family that favored sons over daughters. She was the eldest daughter in the family, and there were two younger sisters below. Because the family was extremely son-in-progress, they were born together. The mother of three daughters, Yu Yuexian, was in a very bad situation and was looked down upon.
Ever since she was younger than Yuexian, she has watched her family scold her mother for being incompetent, uneducated, unpromising, and producing a bunch of stinky girl movies. Her mother didn't dare to resist when she was bullied. She only dared to cry quietly.
Looking at her mother's situation at the time, Yu Yuexian was also very helpless. At that time, she was too young and had no ability to resist her family. She could only help her mother to wipe her tears silently, and swear in her heart that she must let her live a good life.
Actually, Yuexian's situation was no better than her mother's when she was a child. Her father was very patriarchal, and everyone else in the family had sons, so she was poked in the forehead since she was a child, and she was scolded for "useless things", "splashed water", "good-looking" It's useless"...
It wasn't until the mother gave birth to a son that the atmosphere in the family improved, but Yu Yuexian, the elder sister, could not escape being called by her family. She has been earning money to support her family since she was 17 years old, and she is also responsible for her family. The food of the family depends on her to carry everything in the family.
Destiny did not favor Yu Yuexian, her brother suffered from a strange disease of scoliosis when he was eight years old. She worked hard to save money for her brother's surgery. After marriage, she didn't even want her own children for her brother. ...
Qiaoen Chen--living in eccentricity and fear
The optimistic and lively "Queen of Idol Dramas" Qiaoen Chen was not a child who grew up in a happy family, on the contrary she was born in a family of "Fan Shengmei" , has lived in fear since childhood.
Chen Qiaoen's mother is very patriarchal. When she was a child, she could clearly feel her mother's partiality towards her brother.
It was popular to wear custom-made trousers when she was reading. At that time, Joe Chen had only one pair of trousers and it was broken. She wanted her mother to buy her new trousers, but she was rejected.
Joe Chen can only have one pair of ripped trousers, but his brother can have three or four pairs of delicate trousers. His mother's different treatment left a deep impression on Joe Chen, so she vowed to buy whatever she likes when she grows up .
But despite how successful Chen Qiaoen is now, she can afford pants, but cannot cure her childhood.
Joe Chen's mother is very fierce and severe. She was beaten all the time when she was a child and lived in fear. The sound of her mother's footsteps was like the voice of the devil to her, and she always felt that she was about to be beaten.
Until she grows up, Joe Chen still doesn't know how to communicate with her mother. She has never received her mother's love, and the scars left by her childhood are difficult to heal no matter what.
There is no doubt that the concept of valuing sons over women is definitely wrong. Girls born in such families are more or less unfortunate, and their characters and even their entire lives will be affected by their families of origin.
The female stars can get rid of the original family that prefers boys over girls through their own efforts, and also hope that more ordinary girls who are treated differently can bravely break free from bondage.
Every girl deserves to be loved.
#Patriarchy#, #femalestar#, #starstory#
Author: Peach Canned
Editor in charge: Rapper Aya
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