爆红变艺 "Summer of the Band" , Penicillin adapted Pu Shu's "New Boy" .
Zhang Yadong, who has always been bad at words, couldn't cry after listening to this song. He said that he remembered the Hackberry of that era.
and with emotion, At that time, everyone was looking forward to the year 2000 and felt that everything would become very good. The result was that we were old...
Indeed, when we were young at that time, we thought how different the new century was and how extraordinary we were in the new century, just like the song "Pu Shu" in the first album "I will go to 2000" "New Boy" sings:
"Tomorrow morning, I guess the sun will be better. I will clean myself and sell all the worn-out ones... There will be no more pain in the future road, our future should How cool is it..."
Now 20 years have passed, Piao Shu’s "Ordinary Road", "Also cry and laugh at ordinary..." is also sung by everyone again.
Now we are just as Pu Shu sang in the song "Forever Young" after refilling the lyrics of "New Boy" two years ago:
"All those who don't know the height of the sky and the earth have become silent. ……"
From being pretentious to being ordinary, it seems that everyone must go through his mind.
01 First growth: "I am not that special"
Friends They are all typical "children of other people".
Since elementary school, her grades have always been the top three in the class. Not only does she study well, she is also tall and outstanding. In school, it is the object of the teacher's praise and the goddess in the hearts of students.
Because she is good enough, she always has a strong sense of self-superiority. I feel that wherever I walk, it should be the focus of everyone's attention and the center of the world.
Until later, she was successfully admitted to a 985 university. The people around are very good, For the first time, she felt that she was not the most special one.
She is good at writing, but in the writing association, many seniors often write articles in her favorite weekly magazine, but she is repeatedly brushed; in the dance association there are always elegant seniors who are more beautiful and better than her ……
After graduation, I entered a foreign company. The colleagues who joined the company were also very good. They were promoted and raised quickly, and they bought a car in Beijing with their savings.
Yingzi said that before the age of 18, her world was very small, limited to family, small city, a few classmates and friends, and her knowledge of herself was built on this small world. Therefore, at that time, her excellence was only the excellence within this range.
After going to university or working, I found out that is a big world with many people, but she is very small. Everyone works silently in their own way. Like them, they are not special, let alone the center of the world.
Zhihu has a question: when did you start to realize your mediocrity? Someone replied:
Maybe after carefully crafting a resume, the job application was repeatedly rejected; perhaps after exhausting all his life’s learning and making a plan, the boss said that this is not unique; perhaps There are no "children of other people" at all, everyone is the most special one.
This is actually a feeling of many people in the process of growing up. As I get older, I have truly realized: There is a sky outside the sky, and there are people outside the world.
A sentence in "The Story of Wukong": "When everyone was born, he thought that the world existed for him alone, and when he found out that he was wrong, he began to grow up. ”
02 The second growth: “Effort is only a small part of the condition for success”
I am a friend, her dream since she was a child was to study abroad. She applied for a German class at University Times and wanted to go to Germany to study a postgraduate major in interior design. She worked hard together until she got her visa after graduation.
But before applying to the school, a certificate of language test is required. She continued to learn the language while taking exams locally. It's just that has a very poor language talent since she was a child. After a year and a half, she has not been able to pass.
Later, she chose to give up her dream of studying abroad and return to work in China. Because of strong professional ability, I worked for two years and was promoted as a designer. After another year, I also established my own studio.
Some time ago, she talked to me about her dream of going abroad, and she was quite sorry. But she said that this experience made her understand that don't have to be too persistent in many things, and give up if you can't work hard.
The latest issue of "Who Wants 996?" Who is in 996? When talking about "success" in ", Zhou Yijun said that he once asked a friend who specializes in financial consulting for the rich, What are the characteristics of those very rich people?
Her friend said that they generally have three kinds of people, one is 外企高管, the second is 很力量, people who are changing the world, the third is There is an inheritance of .
But they all have the same feature: Lucky.
I remembered a word that Buffett said. In October 1995, Buffett and Bill Gates were invited to travel through the land of China by train.
Buffett later recalled a scene he saw in the Three Gorges. There was a tracker by the river who was pulling the fiber. Buffett said to Gates:
"Those trackers pulling the boat may have another Bill Guy But he was born here, and he was destined to pull the boat so hard for a lifetime without the chance to rise above others. It is pure luck that we have the opportunity to obtain such wealth and success.”
A person’s fate is actually when he was born. It was decided that more than half, not that the talents of trackers and Buffett are so different, but that has a different mission.
The tracker has worked hard all his life and will suffer from his body. Buffett has been ups and downs in the business sea all his life, and he is also suffering the hardships he should endure in his fate.
In terms of hard work, Buffett spends 10 hours a day working and a tracker spends 10 hours working a day, there is no difference in their level of effort.
Buffett’s mission is to inspire others with commercial influence. The tracker’s mission is to become a member of the tens of millions of workers in Jiangxi. They are doing well in different aspects. is here. At one point, both were successful.
When should we work hard to accept our finiteness? That’s when was educated by reality and finally found that the brilliant dream could not make it through hard work.
This is how most people feel in middle age, of course, In fact, the most difficult thing to accept is the sense of decadence that this kind of hard work is powerless.
The more we grow up, the more we have to learn to accept the real world: All success is not inevitable, and the final outcome may not be the goal and effort.
Yilong Musk said: No one can change the world by working only 40 hours a week. But the reality is: Even if we work 60 or 80 hours a week, we will not be able to change the world. On the contrary, we will be overworked.
is not to say that life does not require hard work, but there are some things, really just do your best.
03 The third growth: Enjoy the ordinary, accept the ordinary, and reconcile with yourself
"If you are thirty years old In the past, before the age of thirty-five, I must separate myself from the ordinary.”
“But what is extraordinary?”
“For example, all those successful people.”
"Specifically?"
"That is, must have at least one's own house and own car, and at least be a person with a certain social status? At least a considerable amount of deposit, right?"
"What kind of house do you want, and what kind of car do you want? In your opinion, how much deposit is considered a considerable amount?"
"This, I haven't really thought about it yet..."
The above is a conversation between Liang Xiaosheng and a freshman boy.
Same as Liang Xiaosheng, Many of us believe that the meaning of life is to be successful, rich, famous, and to be a better person than others.
I have a good friend, he is very smart, he can do everything a little bit better than average, but only a little bit.
I have tried selling, opening a bar, writing books, etc. The benefits are not satisfactory.
He still can't figure out why he is obviously smarter than most people and works very hard, why no matter what he does, the freedom of wealth is always so far away from him? What is the meaning of your own life?
This reminds me of what the Hong Kong writer Ma Jiahui said, that when he lived to his age, he felt that how settled the family well and helped them alleviate the pain is his greatest sense of accomplishment after middle age.
This is a typical middle-aged person's ordinary road, who can say that it is not another "meaning"? Xin Anjing returns to the ordinary life, this is the best meaning of life.
There is a saying, "Life is like a Persian carpet. The journey of a person's life is woven into a carpet with needles and threads. Everyone's carpet decoration is different. There is no such or that pattern. Meaning!"
As Pu Shu sings in "The Ordinary Road":
"I was disappointed and lost all directions
Until seeing ordinary is the only answer"
……
Maybe, When each of us meets "ordinary" in our lives, the "extraordinary" that belongs only to ourselves will be realized.
About the author: Auntie Mushroom, a second-level national consultant, former editor-in-chief of a large-scale marriage website, a contracted author of many media psychological columns, and a situational female writing healing promoter. The public number "Miss Mushroom Aunt" (housewife-online)
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