What caused Zheng Shuang to play a good hand so badly!

I think it’s not that netizens are too malicious towards Zheng Shuang’s family, but because the child is a mirror of the family and a demon mirror at the same time. The utilitarian, extreme, self-willed and other issues exposed in Zheng Shuang nowadays are all There is an inextricable relationship with her native family.

In 1991, Zheng Shuang was born in a well-off family in Shenyang. His father had a famous heart, and his mother had a dream of acting and wanted to pass. Cultivate your daughter and realize your dreams. The two hit it off and decided to make their daughter a big star, but they never asked Zheng Shuang what she thought.

Mom, impose her own wishes on Zheng Shuang, and demand high of her. Use militarized management on her: learn talent from the age of two, start various competitions at the age of five; practice piano every day, if you play the wrong tone, you will be beaten by her mother...

Under such high standards, Zheng Shuang’s heart is not Those who feel the unconditional love and acceptance of their mothers will naturally think that they will only be loved if they meet the standards of their mothers. However, in my opinion, this is to satisfy their desire for control under the guise of "for your good".

Perhaps in the eyes of Zheng Shuang's mother, children have always been a tool.

In an interview, Zheng Shuang’s mother once revealed:

"Training her (Zheng Shuang) is to realize my dream. I have wanted to be a star since I was a child and I have no chance."

just for this In the so-called actor dream, Zheng Shuang’s mother sent Zheng Shuang, who was only 12 years old, to Chengdu to study alone. He was ridiculed as a small country boy in the Northeast, and was rejected by classmates because he was too thin. In order to be social, she often has to be able to deliberately please others, and pretend that she loves rice.

During that time, Zheng Shuang was psychologically painful and vulnerable, but she did not dare to talk to her family. Because her mother told her since she was a child: "Crying is very annoying. If you want to cry, don't cry in front of others." I want to meet new classmates again. Throughout her school days, she didn’t have a good friend. After being admitted to Beijing Film, the 16-year-old Zheng Shuang was either on the selection road of the TV station or on the scene of the performance. Her mother gave her company And care is even less.

She is lonely, which is also the source of her extreme insecurity. Zheng Shuang’s mother is under militarized management of Zheng Shuang. She doesn’t care about Zheng Shuang’s feelings. She goes out to school very young, can’t see her parents for many years, and is severely lacking the company of her parents. Her heart is very disturbed, but she continues to convince herself that she To be independent, suppress anxiety to the subconscious. She changes schools frequently and spends a short time in each place. In this way, she does not trust others in her heart, and her basic trust in society is relatively low. Only she is the person she trusts the most, even if she is bullied. She didn't dare to cry in front of others, so she could only secretly cry in a diary. Zheng Shuang suppressed and avoided her own feelings, which created a situation where she could not feel the feelings and emotions of others.

Children who have been ignored by their parents since childhood will have a low self-esteem and build a strong defensive psychology (no one believes it, and objective suggestions can’t listen).

Mother’s company is vital to the child’s life.It will not only affect the child's emotional feelings and personality characteristics, but also affect the child's future interpersonal relationships, especially the attachment pattern between the child and his partner.

Happy people use childhood to heal their lives, and unfortunate people use their lives to heal childhood. Zheng Shuang is the unfortunate person.

Zheng Shuang looks for her boyfriend and exaggerates sexual fantasies with her boyfriend. Once in the relationship, the fantasies are disillusioned, he will be devalued, eager to be recognized, and eager to merge with others, hoping that others will identify with him. She regards love as the whole life, but she is low in the dust.

Falling in love with Zhang Han and having an inferiority plastic surgery; falling in love with Hu Yanbin and staying with him 24 hours a day; falling in love with Zhang Heng is more for him to start a company and have fans. However, on the other hand, she hopes to get a response from the other party, hopes to get the company of the other party, but always acts in the opposite direction.

Once, Zheng Shuang was sitting in the car looking at her phone and memorizing lines. Zhang Heng saw that Zheng Shuang was unhappy and wanted to make her happy, so he told Zheng Shuang a lot of his childhood experiences. But who knows that Zheng Shuang ignored him at all, still immersed in his own world. Zhang Heng, who had lost patience, felt that he was ignored by his girlfriend again, and slammed the door and left in a rage.

Going around, what Zheng Shuang really longs for in his heart is not the perfect partner, but the omnipotent mother who can make up for his childhood and give himself a sense of security.

For children, companionship is a way for parents to love and value themselves.

Companion can not only give children enough sense of belonging and security, but also enable children to better understand intimacy and how to love themselves and others.

Otherwise, even if there are many people around, the heart will still have nowhere to rest.

In the recording of the exposure, Zheng Shuang’s father said, “No, talk to the hospital, and just give up.” It’s like a child is a commodity. Do it or not, the tone is easy to criticize.

can persuade their children to give up their child that is about to be born, and say "you will forget it before long" parents,If you have not yet become a qualified adult, how can you guide your children to become people with sound thinking?

Zheng Shuang is an exaggerated self who grew up in bubbles. Her mother gave Zheng Shuang the dream of an actor. Zheng Shuang exaggerated himself and thought that everything could be settled, so she kept doing it.

In the past few years, I have been "free my self" under the banner of "true temperament", so-called "sweet words".

Last year's live broadcast, because sales and sales did not meet expectations, various channels were dismantled. Halfway through the live broadcast, the male anchor was asked to leave.

There are also walking on the red carpet, black faces and tantrums when recording shows that they don’t agree with each other; there are also shooting commercials and TV shows, and they just leave when they are unhappy.

However, when such a problem occurred, Zheng Shuang’s father spoke out to protect him and angered the reporter.

I can understand that parents are kidding their children, but tolerating the children's mistakes without a bottom line will only turn the child into a giant baby who does not grow up. As parents, we can spoil our children, but we must not spoil them. As parents, we must have our own bottom line, and we cannot blindly accommodate and tolerate.

is also a behavioral mistake. Children under strict discipline will reflect on and admit their mistakes, thereby changing themselves and becoming a serious and responsible person; while children whose parents blindly protect themselves lose the opportunity to grow up, even for themselves The wayward and complacent.

This kind of deformed feeling will ruin the child's life. The punishment that the parents did not give will be given by the society. Foresighted parents will never spoil their children.

The values ​​that Zheng Shuang got from his parents are the goal planning that must be famous, not the warm and harmonious family companionship in ordinary families.

Zheng Shuang feels that her acting skills are not good, and she is afraid that fans will be disappointed in herself; in order to be liked by the audience, she makes herself unhealthy and thin; ...At the same time, she does her own way and has no scruples and becomes in the public eye The "mental patient".

Dressed up and sloppy on the street and smoked at random; stalked Hu Yanbin; opened the trumpet and used unsightly words to insult fans; slapped himself at the press conference...

All kinds of behaviors are to make up for childhood regret -Refuse to please,Live yourself. What does that mean? I just don't care how others feel, I want to do my own way! In fact, Zheng Shuang's mother's neglect of Zheng Shuang's feelings is also an important reason for her "psychopathy".

There is no doubt that Zheng Shuang will not manage and regulate her emotions correctly. It stands to reason that as her parents, she should be able to find out the first time, but she has not.

In a variety show, Zheng Shuang cried and said the famous line "I become a fat man, no fans love me", Dad Shuang also stood silently and did not give any comfort. This argument.

When Zheng Shuang rarely opened up and said, "I didn't fit in this circle", Zheng Shuang's father simply said "How can I rise to this level", trying to make her give up this idea automatically.

From beginning to end, Zheng Shuang's parents only wanted to keep their daughter's ability to make money, and never asked her likes, feelings, or wishes.

After Zheng Shuang became popular, the two opened stores, sold goods, filmed movies, and went crazy for money. For the immediate benefit, they turned a blind eye to their daughter's mental health.

Educate children, not to be short-sighted, to only care about the present, and not just for their own face and benefit, but to ignore the most important things:

That is what is really important to a child, never being young and famous. How much money you make, it's an adult—from an ignorant child to a responsible and responsible adult.

Just like today, the incidents of surrogacy and abandonment were exposed.

Fans delisted, and CCTV News posted a criticism: "A certain star's exposure recording,'I can't beat it, I'm so annoying to death', is infuriating, and his disregard for life is horrible."

All gifts given by fate have already been secretly marked with prices.

Zheng Shuang’s current Weibo response did not see any trace of guilt, but a sense of superiority.And trying to divert the public’s attention to Zhang Heng’s extortion...

It can be seen that Zheng Shuang collects glory to eliminate mediocrity, conceal his inferiority, pursue worship in interpersonal relationships, and easily appear emotionally jealous, greedy, Anger, etc., these are the characteristics of a narcissistic personality. Zheng Shuang has an unshirkable responsibility with her family and her parents.

Zheng Shuang’s farce is rooted in his parents because he is at home.

Tolstoy said: "All education, or ninety-nine thousandths of education, boils down to the role model, to the correctness and perfection of the parents' life."

Home is the child's first In this school, parents are the children’s first teachers.

It is inevitable that there will be problems when children grow up. This is a normal thing. The responsibility of parents is not to indulge and indulge blindly, but to be the child's pilot light to get the child back on track.

In this world, one less utilitarian parent may result in one less child who is eager for quick success.

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