After reading the news about Selena Gomez and her best friend, I couldn't help but sigh: This is a real version of Zhen Huan and Anlingrong sisterly relationship!
In case some readers don’t understand this matter, let’s sort out this matter roughly.
Things are like this:
Selena launched her personal documentary on November 4th. The entire documentary she shared her experience of bipolar disorder and lupus erythematosus from the perspective of "I", and mentioned the kidney transplantation to treat lupus erythematosus .
There are so many curious points in Selena. In addition, her relationship with Justin Bieber is very popular and is known as "unforgettable North American meaning", so I almost went to watch this documentary at the first time.
As for my personal viewing experience, this documentary is obviously entirely Selena's own perspective and life experience. As an audience, what I pay attention to is her personal growth, and even posted a Weibo for it.
Although she mentioned the kidney transplant in the documentary, she did not leave any clear space for her best friend Francia Raisa, who donated the kidneys. As an ordinary audience, I don’t think it’s harmless, after all, it’s her very personal perspective.
However, the problem began to appear after the documentary was launched. Selena accepted a magazine interview with . In the interview manuscript, there was a sentence from Selena: "My only true friend in the music circle (0nly Friend) is Taylor Swiftml2".
Best friend Francia, who donated kidney to Selena, commented on Selena's sentence "My only real friend in the music circle is Taylor Swift" and said: Interesting, then he unblocked Selena.
Moreover, Selena said in an interview with the magazine that she had named her new kidney "Fred Armisen". Because Selena is a loyal fan of director Fred Armisen, in order to show her likes the director, she used his name as the name of her new kidney .
So this matter began to ferment. Some netizens began to think that Selena was doing too much. She donated her kidney to you to save her life, but you treated her so ruthlessly. She did not mention others in the documentary and said that during the interview.
Under public pressure, Selena responded: "Sorry, I didn't mention everyone I know."
This bitch's angrily response not only did not calm down public opinion, but instead caused greater dissatisfaction among netizens. Many people stood up for Francia: Is it someone who donated a kidney to you, and you actually called her "person i know"? ? Don't even count friends?
Speaking of Francia's kidney donation for Selena, the sacrifice was really great because of the kidney donation. Some netizens also questioned whether Francia did this for Selena's money or benefits.
Francia's mother used the media to refute the rumors that her daughter did this purely because of her friendship with Selena, and she didn't get a single point after donating.
And in the subsequent interview, Francia also said that because they were good friends who had been playing together since childhood, she couldn't bear to see Selena being tortured by illness, so she made up her mind to donate her kidneys.
or above is the general situation.
To be honest, judging from the current situation, Selena is a bit ungrateful.
When you need a kidney: You are my best friend;
After donating your kidney: someone I know.
In order to understand this matter more comprehensively, I checked the review of the friendship between the two in the past few years by the foreign network.
Simply put, after receiving the kidneys of her best friend, Selena was very grateful. After the operation, she posted a long article to express her gratitude to Francia.
In 2021, she also retweeted Francia's content and commented, "...I will always be grateful to you."
However, there were rumors before that Selena did not cherish her body after receiving kidney transplant , and she still drank and smoked. After Francia's persuasion failed, she gradually alienated her.
In an interview, Selena also clearly stated that she was tired of this "feeling of indebtedness".
In fact, after the matter was sorted out, the clues had begun to show, and Zhen Huan, who became a big favor, became a big revenge, had a good relationship with An Lingrong-style best friend.
First, people who can accept the great kindness of others are very likely to be people with lack of moral sense and coldness.
To be honest, I think I am a little cold-hearted person. Apart from donating blood, I have never done such a great sacrifice like donating organs to others in my life. At the same time, I am not very willing to accept that others have made such great sacrifices for me. Because I don't think I can afford such a great kindness.
is also based on my respect for others. I am embarrassed to let others make huge sacrifices for me just out of friendship, and I will feel uneasy. To put it bluntly, I am afraid of owe favors to others. My values have always been. Don’t use favors to solve things that can be solved with money.
Returning to Selena, she initially accepted donations from her best friend based on friendship, and in the interview, she claimed that her best friend voluntarily donated to her.
The logic is very similar to An Lingrong accepting Zhen Huan’s support, but he never thought of giving Zhen Huan emotional respect and feedback of the same value. She kept showing weakness, thinking that since Zhen Huan had already treated her well, could she not be better?
In addition to being selfish and cold, people like An Lingrong also have a very weak sense of morality. So she was able to constantly break through her moral bottom line, from accepting Zhen Huan's support, to holding a grudge against Zhen Huan, and later assassinating Zhen Huan.
There is a detail that makes me think that people like An Lingrong are really scary.
Zhen Huan recommended An Lingrong to be favored, not long after she caught up with Hua Fei favored her. In addition, An Lingrong herself had a cough, so the emperor did not summon her again, but the emperor summoned Zhen Huan during this period.
So she said, "Empress Hua is very favored, I can't fight with her."
Baojuan and complained, "Yes, but since the emperor has seen the nobleman of Guan, Guan Guiren and Xiaozhu are good, why should he remind the emperor to come and see the young master?!"
An Lingrong heard Baojuan’s complaint and said resentfully: “The emperor has not come, maybe my sister has not mentioned it~”
Did you see that? People like An Lingrong are extremely self-centered and only consider their own interests and feelings. Others have to treat her well as she wishes.
People like this are like bottomless pits. If you give her some good things, she will catch them and ask you, why can't you give me more and bigger good things?
Second, the truth of human nature is that great kindness will turn into great hatred.
After receiving the kindness from others, it was first grateful for "Thank you for helping me", but as time changes, this kind of gratitude will become a kind of resistance of "Why am I subject to you".
Li Bihua In " Green Snake " writes about the psychological activities of the Green Snake after being rescued by the White Snake is: "But she is the savior. In front of her, I became half short of myself."
In a sense, this kind of gratitude is a moral shackle. Over time, people will want to break through, so Selena said she is tired of this "feeling of indebtedness".
This is more obvious to An Lingrong, and there is a detail:
When Zhen Huan's mother first visited Zhen Huan, An Lingrong specially rewarded some decent good things to Zhen Huan's mother.
Baojuan reported to her that Mrs. Zhen had accepted it. She sighed and said, "I remember when I first entered the Zhen Mansion, everything was good, and everything was something I had never seen before. Now, it is finally time for me to reward them with some good things."
Baojuan praised An Lingrong as a little master who was grateful for her. However, An Lingrong said, "It's not just about repaying kindness, but today I am here and no longer receiving favors from others."
In fact, Fuguangjin is the sign that An Lingrong began to break through the kindness of Zhen Huan to her. She has already been inferior to Zhen Huan in material terms such as her background. She doesn't want to respect Zhen Huan morally. So, as Zhen Huan gave her good things, after giving the queen and Concubine Hua, she specially left a piece of floating light for Zhen Huan.
Finally, combined with the above two points, you will find that people with sincere temperament and coldness cannot become true friends.
Zhen Huan still has high requirements for sincerity in emotions, especially Zhen Huan before leaving the palace. Take Mei Zhuang and Chun'er for example. She likes the kind of true nature of affection and righteousness, values emotional communication, and appreciates that relatively real friendship.
But An Lingrong is very heartless, valued interests, and cared more about the benefits she could get. When she was sisters with Zhen Huan, she secretly hugged the queen, and even finally abandoned Zhen Huan and joined the queen to assassinate Zhen Huan.
So, people with different temperaments really cannot be friends. People who pursue high-quality emotional experience cannot be friends with people who only value interests and benefits. The former will think the latter is shallow and ruthless, while the latter will think the former is pretentious and artificial.
