Some people say that Jin Yong Everything is good in life, but the relationship is bad.
After becoming famous, Jin Yong returned to the mainland and in an interview with CCTV, he revealed his heart and said:
"My marriage is not ideal, I have divorced many times. My beloved son committed suicide in the United States, and I have to bear all of this for the rest of my life."
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947, Jin Yong was 23 years old and first met the "dream lover", 17-year-old Miss Du family, Du Yefen.
That year, Jin Yong was still a college student. To be precise, he was an transfer student . He studied in the Department of Law of the School of Law of Soochow University in Shanghai, majoring in the international law .
At the same time, Jin Yong has another identity outside of , and is a part-time translator and editor of Shanghai's Ta Kung Pao.
And there is a colleague named Du Yeqiu in the Ta Kung Pao. He was very impressed by Jin Yong's talent and wanted to "give oneself to one's body", but he was already a man.
So on the grounds that there was a "Little Jiumei" at home, he invited Jin Yong to visit and play.
As the saying goes, there is paradise above and Suzhou and Hangzhou below. Jin Yong received warm reception from the Du siblings in Hangzhou, especially Du Yefen, who fell in love with Jin Yong, who was a complimentary talent at first sight.
This is how fate of people is. When you see each other, you will fall in love at first sight and have a moment of joy. The young Jin Yong was also surprised by Miss Du’s unique appearance and temperament.
That's it, Jin Yong fell in love without thinking.
Love it, love it, no matter whether it is right or wrong, and no matter whether it is a blessing or a disaster in the future.
A year later, the two got married quickly. Jin Yong graduated from university and officially entered the Ta Kung Pao and was assigned to Hong Kong. The newlywed wife Du Zhifen followed closely, just marrying the chicken and following the dog.
However, Jin Yong is not a good husband, nor is he a good man who can make women happy.
In Hong Kong, Jin Yong is busy with work every day and rarely goes home. Even when I returned home, I was still at work. There were very few communication and companionship with my wife Du Zhifen, and eventually there was a rift.
Finally, when Jin Yong went out to work once, his wife Du Zhifen couldn't help being lonely and had an affair with others...
can't help it, let alone Jin Yong, who was born in the so-called "noble family" of the scholarly family. It was unbearable, so the two had to agree to divorce and separated.
For the outside world, it means that his wife Du Zhifen is not used to the hard life in Hong Kong. He stays alone in the empty room and is lonely. Therefore, he returns to Hangzhou to visit relatives and stays for a while to relieve his sorrow.
Everyone knows, Du Zhifen never comes back now. Jin Yong was left alone in Hong Kong, and Jin Yong never went back to Hangzhou. From then on, the two of them were like lonely wild geese, breaking the line.
This relationship was Jin Yong's first relationship after all, and he was poured into endless fantasies and love, which made him feel uneasy after many years.
The two met in 1947, got married in 1948, and divorced in 1950. By 1998, nearly 50 years had passed. Jin Yong, who was 74 years old, was still worried about it.
In an interview, I couldn't help but talk about the past, and tears rolled in my eyes, half missed and half helplessly, " is not afraid of telling me now, my first wife Betrayed (betrayed) me."
made people hear it, and my eyes were red.
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After that, Jin Yong never dared to love easily again. When he saw a beautiful woman, there was always a word in his heart.
"The more beautiful a woman is, the more she will be lying..."
And he also firmly believes in Shakespeare's words, "Love is a sweet pain, and sincere love is never a smooth road."
So, why should he ask for trouble and waste his good time on these absurd and infatuated things that end up in the end.
He now needs to concentrate on his career and seek development. Get a firm foothold in Hong Kong.
But when he met another fairy who came down to earth, he never thought so again. The men's instinctive "restless" began again. Original and cute, full of energy.
This fairy is called Xia Meng, 9 years younger than Jin Yong, and is the top actress of Hong Kong Great Wall Film.
Xia Meng immediately made Jin Yong forget the pain of divorce, and also forgot that women will lie, especially beautiful women. For this more beautiful woman, Jin Yong even learned to learn Tang Bohu Xiao Qiuxiang.
volunteered to go to Great Wall Pictures to be a low-paid screenwriter, not to do anything else, just to see Xia Meng every day.
also joked with friends, "When Tang Bohu fell in love with a wealthy maid Qiuxiang. In order to get close to her, he did not hesitate to sell himself as a slave to join the wealthy family. I, Jin Yong, are far behind me."
After a long time of brewing, Jin Yong found an opportunity to invite Xia Meng out for coffee, and then got drunk. He confessed his love directly in an impulse, but Xia Mengxiang refused without thinking about it.
This was also the only date between the two. Xia Meng later told people that Jin Yong is indeed very talented, but...
can only, "I will choose him in the next life."
From then on, Xia Meng became Jin Yong's eternal dream, which has always been in his heart and cannot be erased. The more you can't erase it, the more you think.
Jin Yong, who was unable to get it, had to silently pour his love for Xia Meng into the martial arts novel he was writing. It is said that the little dragon girl in " The Legend of Condor Heroes " is the incarnation of Xia Meng.
Remember to seek beauty, where is the good marriage?
lovely like Sanmao , and also sighed at the love between Jin Yong and Xia Meng. He once said: "If you don't understand this love between Jin Yong and Xia Meng, you will not understand his description of 'love' in the novel."
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After Xia Meng's "disturbance", the divorced man Jin Yong finally faced his feelings again and turned his attention to a woman who might promise him, Zhu Mei , a reporter who walked with him.
Zhu Mei is younger, more beautiful, and more practical than Xia Meng.
She is 11 years younger than Jin Yong. She is the kind of girl's attachment to her elder brother. There is also admiration in this attachment. The two of them are walking together, so naturally they have many common topics.
1956, the year when Jin Yong wrote "Blue Blood Sword ", the two got married.
That year, Jin Yong was 32 years old and a second-hand man. Zhu Mei is 21 years old, an unmarried girl. Although there is no diamond ring, no wedding dress, no banquet and grand ceremony.
But this little girl Zhu Mei loves her deeply and feels that she is the happiest little woman in the world. I never thought that love would give her a loud slap in the face in the future and mock her for being passionate.
After marriage, Zhu Mei put down the flowers and started giving birth to Jin Yong under the moonlight. She gave birth to four in a row. She also started to be a free employee for Jin Yong and started to accompany Jin Yong to start a business and prepare for the Ming Pao.
even took out his own private money to help Jin Yong's career, without leaving any reservations, and devoted it to Jin Yong. I don’t know that there is another word called “things that are unpredictable” and two words called “divorce”.
Finally, in 1976, 51-year-old Jin Yong and 40-year-old Zhu Mei suddenly experienced the pain of life when their careers were successful and their prosperity were booming.
Because the two of them quarreled every day, and there were endless fights, the children could hide outside, and Jin Yong also found an opportunity to hide in the cafe, read and write, and went home very late every day.
Finally one day, Zhu Mei discovered something wrong with her husband Jin Yong.
It turns out that Jin Yong fell in love with a waitress in the cafe, Lin Leyi who is more than 30 years younger than him. Not only is he young and beautiful, young and charming, he is also simple and clean, understanding, and obeys Jin Yong.
More importantly, she successfully showed her valuable side of not loving money in front of Jin Yong.
not only comforted Jin Yong in depression, but also allowed Jin Yong to have a harbor to rest in his soul while working and quarreling.
Jin Yong once again, he couldn't grasp it. He loved it, and he let go and fell in love with the little waiter Lin Leyi without caring about the fact that he was married.
Since the raw rice has been cooked, the paper cannot cover the fire. Jin Yong simply showed up with his wife Zhu Mei and wanted to divorce. He took the initiative and insisted on marrying Lin Leyi home.
Their son, 19-year-old Cha Chuanxia, heard that his parents were having a divorce and was upset. Suddenly, his girlfriend also quarreled with him and wanted to leave him. He couldn't think of it for a moment and jumped off the building and committed suicide! More than 0 years later, Jin Yong recalled : "I remember that after receiving the news that my eldest son passed away in the United States, I was so discouraged and sad; but that day I had to continue writing editorials in the newspaper office, crying while writing. I was always sad, and I still had to write."
The son died, and Zhu Mei was even more disappointed. She agreed to divorce, wanted nothing, left the house without leaving, and hid Jin Yong far away, as far as possible...
In the end, this woman did not remarry, but survived the cruel second half of her life in the pain, loneliness and poverty that people could not imagine.
1998, 63-year-old Zhu Mei died of illness in the hospital. No relative was by her side, and even the one who got her death certificate was just a nurse in the hospital.
was originally a bird in the same forest, but the evening scene was one desolate and the other was the scenery, which was really sad and tears.
It was not until many years later that Jin Yong said to the camera in an interview: "I'm sorry Zhu Mei, I am not successful as a husband. If it can be remedied, ..."
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Lin Leyi, although she is not educated and has never been to school, she understands men, and even more understands Jin Yong, a big man.
Maybe he has been a waiter since he was a child, has a lot of experience in serving people, and knows better how to serve every customer. Jin Yong is already the best and most educated "customer".
After the two got married, Lin Leyi did nothing, and only stayed at home and by Jin Yong's side, taking care of his daily life at any time. Pay special attention to Jin Yong's diet.
often does not allow him to eat this or that, but Jin Yong accepted it happily like her child.
Lin Leyi also gets along with Jin Yong's children, not like stepmothers, but more like sisters. Every time the children come to their house, Lin Leyi will chatter with them, talk nonstop, and laugh nonstop.
Sometimes the laughter sounds louder, and Jin Yong shouts loudly.
When Jin Yong was 75 years old, someone asked him when was the last romance?
Unexpectedly, Jin Yong said lightly, "It seems to be taking drugs. You know that it is bad, but you can't resist the temptation and suck it again."
Then, Jin Yong said, "The most ideal thing is to fall in love at first sight and form a relationship, and then continue to love it. Unfortunately, it can only be an ideal."
So, not only a hero like Jin Yong cannot " can't love only one person in his life" , but even the heroes in his works cannot.
Fellowship will eventually be difficult for everyone to calm down. What should I ask for in my life? I can’t get it, and I toss and turn.
