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In 2010, the blind date program " If You Are the One " created by Jiangsu Satellite TV became a phenomenal variety show as soon as it was broadcast.
The reason why it is so popular is that in addition to eye-catching male and female guests, of course, the hosts are also inseparable from the help of the hosts.
Of course, in this program, the host often has another name called "Emotional Mentor".
They use their experience and knowledge to solve emotional problems for the guests, and gain countless fans with their mouths.
However, as the old saying goes, a doctor does not treat himself.
Emotional mentors were eloquent in front of the camera, talking about love and life, but their lives were messy.
Some talked freely but got divorced; some claimed to be a good person, but they were annoying because of their personality problems; some went through thousands of sails and eventually returned to ordinary people.
Their starting points are different, but the endings are ironic enough.
1, Lejia
Lejia is contradictory. In the show, he claims to be a character master and also created his own "color personality" theory.
Every time a guest appears, he must analyze it with a self-righteous manner and finally give a sharp answer, which is a complete "sober in the world".
sounds very knowledgeable and has a good understanding. However, after removing his identity as an "emotional mentor", his life is a mess, and he has failed in both career and relationships.
Let’s talk about love first. Le Jia has experienced three marriages in total, but all of them have failed.
In 1993, Le Jia, who was still working in Avon, met a rich and beautiful woman. The two got married despite their family's opposition.
Because the family conditions of the two parties were too disparate, the woman's parents never gave Le Jia the respect they deserved, and the two parted ways under the pressure of reality.
Le Jia's second wife is a literary goddess.
Le Jia was already a successful person at that time and even founded his own research institute.
At a speech, he met a beautiful woman. The two of them communicated with each other for many years and finally entered the marriage hall.
It is said that marriage is a besieged city. Le Jia, who entered the besieged city again, was defeated by the trivial life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Lejia's third wife is a top student at Harvard .
Shortly after they got married, they gave birth to a baby daughter, but the relationship still failed to end.
In 2015, Le Jia announced his divorce, but the reason is unknown, and his daughter was raised by him.
The people of the melon-eating group discussed Le Jia’s experience, and some even complained bitterly: “Le Jia, who has three marriages and three divorces, is qualified to be an emotional mentor?”
Marriage is a failure, let’s talk about career.
In 2009, Le Jia ushered in the highlight of his life.
The production team of "If You Are the One" found him and invited him to be the emotional mentor.
With his sharp and vicious style, he quickly gained support from the audience. During the most glorious years of "If You Are the One", he took all his benefits and became a famous emotional expert.
As the saying goes, success is Xiao He, failure is Xiao He. Le Jia's three-inch tongue eventually ruined him.
In a certain episode, a female guest said that she took on the heavy responsibility of her family for the sake of her brother who had been paralyzed for many years.
But when Le Jia's mouth came to Le Jia's mouth, his brother became a burden, and the culprit for the female guest's failure to find her boyfriend.
The female guest was furious when she heard this and retorted him without hesitation: "I think you are too unkind."
After this incident, Le Jia was also labeled as "meaning" and "can't empathize with ", and his popularity has been declining.
Lejia's career turned around in 2013.
At that time, Le Jia, who had missed many episodes of the show on the grounds of "damaging the vocal cord", announced his departure from "If You Are the One" in his personal account.
There are many discussions about the reason for his departure. Some say it is because Le Jia is not incompatible with Meng Fei , and some say it is because he wants to seek better development.
But the rumors are rumors after all, and the reason is still unknown.
After leaving "If You Are the One", Le Jia became a guest of honor in many programs, but his madness and unrestrained speech made him lose all his popularity.
is either Ning Jing is Dong Mingzhu , or is trying to force kiss Xie Na .
2015's " Super Orator ", in order to support a disabled contestant, he drank in public during the recording of the program.
What's even more outrageous is that he actually started to be drunk.
First, he fought with Lu Yu on the spot, and then slapped the table while scolding Venus as a eunuch. Venus was so angry that she stopped recording directly.
Dou Wentao was also very angry by his sarcastic behavior. He said, "It's better to leave the stage alone for you", and then hurriedly left the venue.
It can be said that Le Jia caused a serious broadcast accident with his own efforts.
As soon as this incident came out, Le Jia's reputation could no longer be restored, and the TV station also included him on the blacklist.
After all, who would want to invite a "Thunder" who could explode at any time as a guest?
Le Jia, who has no way to make money, can only publish books to make money and sell classes live, just like many outdated artists. When promoting
, Le Jia always exaggerates and sees through others' hearts with one trick and helps you solve problems in one second.
But netizens didn't buy it, and the comment area was filled with negative comments, and "scammers" and "nonsense" emerged one after another.
Le Jia packaged herself as a character master, but she turned aside because of her personality problems. How could she win the trust of others if she is so misconduct? Now everyone is beating him, and he is also responsible for his own fault.
2, Meng Fei
As a veteran who has been on the site for 12 years, Meng Fei has experienced the changes in the program and is called "a guest of the flowing water, a strong Meng Fei".
In the program, Meng Fei's performance is remarkable. With his humorous and general style, he captured a lot of audiences.
At the same time, he also contributed many classic quotes, such as "Learn to refuse, otherwise you will be very tired."
"Don't try to prove that you are knowledgeable, because people who are truly thoughtful are not used to prove themselves."
"People often think that children from single-parent families lack love, but they may also get the love of two families."
Whether it is about feelings or work, Meng Fei has his own set of philosophy.
However, even if the great truth comes to his mouth, he is powerless in the face of his declining career.
Although "If You Are the One" has a glorious start, it cannot withstand the competition of similar programs, and it cannot withstand the aesthetic fatigue of the audience.
So a few years after the show was broadcast, it went downhill.
Later, Meng Fei also hosted many other types of programs, but failed to cause trouble.
. Since he revealed that he had physical problems in 2020, his exposure rate has dropped sharply.
When he returns again, no one knows it.
At the beginning of this year, Meng Fei appeared at the wedding of his old friend. He was wearing a black suit and talking nonsense on the stage with his familiar bald head.
What is embarrassing is that except for the emcee and the bride and groom, the guests below are either playing with their phones or eating with their heads in hushed, and no one pays attention to him.
Thinking back then, Meng Fei was also a household name, but now he has become an unwelcome to the crowd. I wonder what he felt when he was standing on the stage.
3, Huang Han
As one of the three veterans, Huang Han can be regarded as a clear stream in the show.
Nanjing University She is a doctor of social psychology. She has a gentle temperament, a gentle tone and an objective view.
can often think about problems from the perspective of women. When criticizing the word "leftover women", he also contributed textbook-level speeches: "They cannot believe that single women are happy and happy. They must regard them as "leftover women" who need to be saved. If they do not promote women to marriage, they will not be at ease."
can be a banquet that will be over, and Huang Han still withdrew from the program in 2016. According to her, her departure was to return to the family and accompany the children.
After leaving the camera, Huang Han did all the writing jobs, translating foreign books, reading novels, and writing calligraphy, as if she had lived a retirement life ahead of schedule.
Semi-retired life is beautiful, but reality is cruel.
In order to make money, Huang Han could only return to the entertainment industry again, but now she can no longer speak the same way as before.
" Let's Fall in Love" aired in 2019, Huang Han has very few shots and her speeches are not quite as polite as she has ever had.
This year, Huang Han also participated in the recording of " Fallen Hearts 20 Years Old ".
I saw her eye sockets sunken, her nasolabial folds were obvious, and she was really haggard, which was far from her energetic appearance in "If You Are the One".
The entertainment industry is a place where innovations are made and fierce competition. Although Huang Han was very courageous in retreating back then, it also ruined her career. I really don’t know whether it is a blessing or a disaster.
4, Huang Lan
is different from the three veteran emotional mentors. Huang Lan didn’t join the program until 2016.
In terms of career, Huang Lan is a successful strong woman. She has served as the producer of " Tiger Mom and Cat Dad" and " Ruyi's Royal Love in the Palace ".
Faced with such a successful woman, many viewers subconsciously chose to believe her. In addition, her performance in the show is also quite impressive, and there are many golden sentences.
For example: "In love, never complain about anything", "You can truly love, don't love deeply, always leave a way out for yourself", etc.
But no one expected that such a mentor who told about emotional problems would divorce in private.
It is reported that during his study in Russia, Huang Lan met an excellent man. The two soon entered the marriage hall and gave birth to a son.
Later, Huang Lan returned from studying and entered the film and television industry to develop, and gradually became a well-known producer.
However, her career success made her have no time to take care of her marriage.
Over time, the two have more and more conflicts. After giving birth to their second child, the two agreed to divorce.
Huang Lan’s divorce caused a thousand waves, and even broke the beautiful filters of many people for her.
Huang Lan also responded to this. She said that she did not want to pretend to be a perfect woman with a successful career and a happy marriage, but just wanted to have a real life.
However, her explanation cannot convince the audience. As an emotional mentor, she cannot even handle her own marriage well, and she still has a position to give others advice. It is so ironic.
even netizens said sharply: "Are you worthy to be an emotional mentor?"
Although divorce is not a mistake, Huang Lan's problem is that there are obviously thousands of roads to go, but she insists on being an emotional mentor.
Every time she stands on the stage to answer questions and answer questions to the guests, isn’t she guilty?
5, Chen Ming
20 "If You Are the One" has been replaced again, and Chen Ming replaced the original Jiang Zhenyu and served as an emotional mentor.
Chen Ming once said that his original intention of coming to the show was very simple, that is, to express his true attitude towards love to the audience.
So every time he talks about emotional issues, he is always gentle and polite, gentle and gentle.
In addition to leaving the camera, Chen Ming's marriage life has also attracted much attention.
His wife Liu Jihua , once his teacher, and the two are even a sibling-brother relationship between seven years apart.
After marriage, the two also raised two very cute daughters.
Because the marriage is too perfect, Chen Ming often markets himself as a model husband on the show.
As early as in " Talk of Strange Tales ", he often made some remarks about "calling love" and "save everything with love".
is not only nicknamed by Ma Weiwei as "a man who stands at the center of the universe and calls for love", but also becomes the "god of love" in the minds of the audience.
And every wedding anniversary, Chen Ming always sends a dynamic confession to his wife, adhering to the character of "loving wife".
Although Chen Ming's people were set up, he still failed.
In 2018, he was revealed by the media to spend a spring night with a strange woman, and was suspected of cheating during marriage.
Although the evidence is conclusive, Chen Ming never spoke. Instead, his wife Liu Jihua supported her husband and calmed down the storm.
In August this year, Chen Ming officially announced the news of the birth of his third child.
This news has become the last straw that crushed Chen Ming.
Seeing this, netizens said that Chen Ming's character has collapsed: "Although his wife is 41 years old, she still wants her to take the risk to have a boy." "Does the elderly mother really meet the character of a beloved wife?"
The old saying goes well. The standard for judging a person is not to look at what he said, but to what he did.
Just looking at Chen Ming’s speech, I thought he was a peerless man, but in fact he was a scumbag who didn’t care about his wife and favored boys over girls. It's ridiculous that people like
can even point fingers at other people's marriage events in "If You Are the One".
Conclusion:
Looking at the lives of emotional mentors, they are actually not smoother than ordinary people, and they are even more tortuous and ups and downs. There is no problem with being an "emotional mentor", but their mistake is that in the show, they are all emotional masters who "everyone is drunk and I am awake alone", but their lives are messy.
Divorce divorce, it’s a failure.
In this case, it is no wonder that it is ridiculed by netizens.
