In April 2011, the epic film "Party Founding" came to an end, starring Chen Kun back to Beijing to rest. That afternoon, he went to school to pick up his son home. The class teacher told Chen Kun: "Youyou are smart, have high IQ, and have good academic performance, but they lack the liveliness and naughtiness of boys."
The 9-year-old Youyou is Chen Kun's spiritual pillar. He loves his son more than himself. Character determines fate. Chen Kun hopes that his son will be sunny, lively, healthy and cheerful, and bring happiness wherever he goes. The character of the son does not meet his ideals.
Chen Kun took his son's little hand and walked home. He touched Youyou's brain affectionately: "Son, be more lively and cheerful in the future, and be a little man." The son nibbled the ice cream and said "Um".
Chen Kun is handsome and sunny, with a tough personality, he deliberately infects his son with his own personality. He and Youyou sat cross-legged on the floor to watch anime and play Three Kingdoms. He deliberately lost two games to his son from time to time. Youyou waved his fists: "Dad, I defeated you." Chen Kun twisted his son's ears: "What a clever ghost, smarter than Dad."
Chen Kun father and son, mother and stepfather Living together, Chen's mother has the habit of walking after dinner. It was 8 o'clock in the evening, and his mother had not yet returned home. Chen Kun took the flashlight and walked out: "Youyou go, let's pick up grandma." The father and son walked on the tree-lined avenue. The flashlight light stretched the father and son for a long time. Short, Youyou went straight to Chen Kun's arms: "Dad, I'm afraid." Chen Kun explained: "Youyou, this is the shadow, what are you afraid of? Boys have to be bold." To embolden his son, Chen Kun hummed with Youyou. Up the song.
Confidence is the cornerstone of sunshine and cheerfulness, and Chen Kun deliberately cultivates this quality of his son. Youyou started to learn piano and Cambridge English for children at the age of 6. His English is better than his father. Chen Kun downloaded two English poems from the Internet, and then summoned his mother, stepfather and the employees of his studio to his home. He encouraged Youyou: "We have heard Chinese poetry recitations, and never heard of English. You open our eyes to us." Youyou hesitated. Chen Kun took the lead and applauded: "Come on, we welcome Youyou to recite English poems. Son, can you give your dad a face?" Youyou just stood up. At first, his voice was not loud. After gradually entering the state, he not only pronounced accurately, but also spoke clearly and fluently. , But also with body language. Chen Kun's heart is full of joy...
Chen Kun's sunshine and toughness affects his son imperceptibly. At home, Youyou was obviously more courageous: at night, he dared to get up in the bathroom alone; Youyou also spoke more clearly. In the past, Youyou rarely communicated with adults; now, he tells his grandparents and dad stories in anime. Sometimes he even ran upstairs and downstairs carrying a broom, imitating heroes in film and television dramas, shouting to beat and kill. The changes in his son brought Chen Kun great happiness and comfort! Before going to bed, the father and son took a shower. Chen Kun often bit his son's toe to express his intimacy.
However, Youyou’s personality has not changed much in school. He keeps a distance from his classmates; he rarely raises his hands to answer questions in class, sometimes The teacher told him to speak, but he dared not look straight. In physical education class, a group of boys sweating profusely playing football. Youyou are afraid of fighting and do not want to participate. Once, the school was given a uniform flu shot. Youyou is afraid of pain and avoids injections under the pretext of catching a cold. After school, the head teacher checked with Chen Kun on the phone: "I don't see any signs of Youyou's cold. Is he really sick or lying?" As soon as
son entered the house, Chen Kun lightly tapped his forehead: "Youyou, Your forehead is not hot at all, why do you lie?" Youyou, knowing that he was wrong, dropped his head. Chen Kun blurted out, "A boy who is afraid of injections. What can you do in the future? A few years ago, my father had a polyp in his throat. When the doctor removed it, Dad didn't frown."
The next day, Chen KunTake his son to the hospital for a flu shot. The needle pierced his arm, and Youyou complained that his father lied to him. Youyou never knew who his biological mother was. His special background made him more sensitive and self-esteem than children of the same age. He asked Chen Kun: "Where is my mother? I'm going to find her." After speaking, he carried his schoolbag and walked out. Chen Kun blocked the door for a while to persuade him, and his son reluctantly returned to the room.
Youyou fell asleep at night, Chen Kun rarely lit a cigarette, curling the smoke ring like his thoughts. The mother looked puzzled: "What's wrong with you? What difficulties have you encountered?" The mother was over 60 years old, and it was not easy to walk the way. Chen Kun couldn't bear to worry about the grandson again. He grinned: "Mom, nothing. People in the workplace sometimes get in a daze for some reason."
One day, at 9 o'clock in the evening, Chen Kun asked his son to turn off the lights. While sleeping, Youyou hides in the bed and plays a game console. When Chen Kun went to the bathroom, he vaguely heard the sound of the game. He pushed open the door of his son's bedroom and grabbed Youyou. Chen Kunxun said: "The older you are, the less you will worry about it!" After speaking, he forcibly grabbed the game console from his son and locked it in the cabinet. Youyou cried and cried, Chen Kun ruthlessly scolded him.
Late at night, Chen Kun lost his anger and realized that his attitude was simple and rude, so he quietly came to his son's room. Youyou was already asleep, and the moonlight spilled on his face through the window, and Chen Kun clearly saw teardrops hanging on his son's long eyelashes. At some point, his mother came to him, and Chen Kun said, "Mom, I shouldn't have caused such a big fire to Youyou just now, and I regret it." The mother softly encouraged: "Youyou bear more than children of the same age, so you have to treat him more. Be patient.”
Then, his mother and Chen Kun recalled the past when he was a child: when Chen Kun was 4 years old, his mother separated from Chen Kun’s father due to incompatibility. However, Mother Chen respected her son's nature and did not lock Chen Kun at home like a little chicken and duck, but instead let him run wild with a bunch of boys outside. Although growing up in a single-parent family, Chen Kun has a cheerful and open personality and an open-minded heart... As he talked, his mother was complaining: "You never let Youyou go out or let us take him out. Youyou only has a living space. The school and home are too cramped. Can he be lively?”
It’s late at night, and Chen Kun has no sleepiness. He writes down his own mental journey in his blog: For various reasons, the media has always been excellent. Life experience hype. In order to protect his son from harm, except for going to school, I rarely allow him to contact the outside world. Now I have figured it out. After all, my son has to face the reality. What is more important than the growth of the child? Avoidance is not a long-term solution. From now on, I will take my son out of the house and provide him with a broader stage of life!
The next morning, Chen Kun returned the game console to his son. Youyou said with a crying voice: "Dad, I am usually alone at home. The game console is my partner. After finishing my homework, what can I do without playing the game console?” Chen Kun imagined the loneliness of his son trapped at home, and felt different in his heart. He took his son's shoulders: "Daddy has done a bad job these years, and he seldom cares about your feelings. I will make your life colorful in the future."
Shaping a son is a huge project that not only requires wisdom And patience, but also have a lot of time. In 2012, Chen Kun only took over the film "Flying Armor of Dragon Gate". The crew originally planned to start work in February, but was pushed to October due to various reasons. In this way, Chen Kun has enough time to wait for his son and accompany Youyou to grow up.
Father is the most admired object of boys. Chen Kun is thin and thin. He strives to make his appearance fit and strong, looking more like a tough man. In addition, in "Flying Armor of the Dragon Gate", Chen Kun played two roles alone, with a lot of action scenes, so he raced against time to shape his body. Chen Kun gets up for a run at 6 o'clock every morning. In order to make martial arts movements accurate, Chen Kun specially invited a professional martial arts coach to guide him. He practiced martial arts for 6 hours a day, 3 hours of physical fitness in the morning and 3 hours in the afternoon.When I got home, my T-shirt was soaked in sweat, and it felt like I fell down when I took it off and held it in my hand.
Moreover, Chen Kun eats 5 egg whites a day. Once he had a nausea after eating, Youyou touched his face distressedly: "Dad, can you not eat it? How uncomfortable!" Chen Kun scratched his son's nose: "Dad wants to forge himself to be more like a man! Youyou, you and me They are all men. You must have perseverance and perseverance in doing things." After speaking, Chen Kun flexed his arms, and the strong and stylish biceps were highlighted on his forearms: "Look, Dad, this muscle." Youyou tapped his hand: "Dad, hard It's like a stone. When I grow up, I will also train a strong muscle like you." Chen Kun took his son in his arms and rubbed his son's forehead with stubble: "We will both be men with strong bones. ”
Chen Kun took a group of photos of himself in tight T-shirts, showing his firm chest and biceps, and then he took the photos Post it on the head of Youyou's bed, and list two questions below the photo: Do you want to be a little man? Do you want to be like dad? In this way, he imperceptibly inspires his son.
In front of Youyou, Chen Kun paid special attention to his words and deeds. He did not speak swear words or vulgar words, his clothes and hairstyle were meticulous, and his shoes were polished brightly. Three years ago, Chen Kun set up his own Dongshen Children's Painting Studio with more than 10 employees. In the process of operating the studio, he encountered difficulties from time to time in financing, negotiating projects, marketing, etc., but Chen Kun was never anxious or angry in front of his son, and was always calm and calm! He often educates his son: "A man must have a general demeanor, broad-minded, and generous. Even if the mountain is on top, do not bend over!"
And, Chen Kun abolished the method of raising his son in captivity and let him embrace the outside world from a close distance. When his son does not go to school on weekends, Chen Kun invites children from the community who are similar in age to Youyou to visit his home. The children stacked arhats on the floor, played games against each other, and climbed trees to pick crabapples in the garden. The crabapples on the treetops were out of reach, so Youyou and a few little guys took off their shoes and threw them hard on the tree... The children had a good time, and Chen Kun was not idle. He squeezes juice, cuts watermelon, and distributes candies to Youyou and the children, providing logistical support for a group of children. Youyou also bid farewell to the loneliness of a man bored at home!
Excellent physical fitness is not considered strong, and it is easy to catch a cold and cough in autumn and winter. In 2013, on the recommendation of a friend, Chen Kun sent Youyou to participate in an amateur taekwondo training class. In the beginning, Youyou was afraid of fierce confrontation, put on his protective gear, but shrank in the corner and couldn't stand up. Chen Kun cruelly pushed his son into the field and trained for half an hour. Youyou sweated profusely, and his arms and thighs were kicked blue and purple.
During the intermission, Youyou picked up the practice clothes and let Chen Kun see his injuries: "Dad, it hurts, I don't want to practice anymore." Chen Kun looked serious: "Boys can bleed and sweat, but they can't shed tears easily. Youyou, what is this injury? Look at other children, some are younger than you, shorter than you, and their noses are bleeding. Don’t flinch.” The little boy’s self-esteem was very strong. When his father compared other children, Youyou stopped talking and turned around to continue training.
After a period of time, the wildness and eagerness of the boy in Youyou was inspired. He became obsessed with taekwondo and rushed to train whenever he had free time. After forging, Youyou has undergone a reborn change, his physique has been significantly improved, his small arms and legs are stiff, strong and strong. Moreover, he has a tough personality, and his endurance and will have been greatly improved.
To strengthen the son’s character, hiking is also an indispensable and important part. In 2014, Chen Kun organized a self-driving tour with several families. They started from Beijing and followed the set route through Shaanxi, Gansu, Qinghai, and then arrived in Tibet. A week later, they detoured Sichuan and arrived in Yunnan. The children of several families are about the same age as Youyou. At first, Youyou was formal and unfamiliar. After getting acquainted with them, he became mingled with the children. In the service area or on the way to rest, Youyou and the children climbed mountains, chased hares, and had barbecues in the wild.
When climbing the Yulong Snow Mountain in Lijiang, Yunnan, more than 400 steps, like a jade belt, meander from the foot of the mountain to the top. High altitude lack of oxygen and steep steps make you timid, looking at the steps and stopping. Chen Kun encouraged him: "This is an excellent opportunity to test a boy's character and perseverance, and a boy with a firm character is reluctant to give up." The stimulating method really worked. Youyou wears a sun hat on her head and holds mineral water in her hands, facing the mountain breeze. Climb up bravely. In less than an hour, he climbed halfway up the mountain, and he reached the end first among a group of children. Chen Kun gave his son a thumbs up: "Youyou are not ordinary, dad is proud of you!"
During the self-driving tour, Chen Kun saw the changes that walking has made to his son. He initiated the charity project "The Power of Walking". Call on more parents to take their children out. During the journey, no matter how busy or tired every day, Chen Kun insisted on writing a parent-child diary: "If there is a son in the family, the father must be firm and tough to build a monument for the next generation. I shape my son, and the son changes me, and the father and son grow together. We are 100%. The pure man..."
Created by Chen Kun, in 2020, Youyou will be 18 years old, and he will grow into a masculine handsome guy. It's also excellent. Youyou asked his father to tell him his biological mother. Chen Kun said that it was not the time yet and he would definitely let him know. Youyou wait for this day to come. In the process of strengthening his son's character, Chen Kun has also changed a lot. He has a stronger body and a stronger heart. He knows how to be a loving father, which invisibly broadens his play. Chen Kun shaped his son, and his son influenced Chen Kun. This is a win-win situation for both father and son!
