I had dinner with my friends yesterday, and we talked about a TV series " Ode to Joy " that was very popular a few years ago. It tells the story of five girls struggling in the big city. Each of them has their own personality characteristics.
Among these female characters, the ones I like and admire more are Andy .
A friend asked me why I like her?
Actually, she is not a perfect person and has shortcomings. But there are two things we can learn from her the most.
1. Live calmly.
There is a saying: "Happiness and joy are simple, but the people who pursue them are complicated."
In life, there are many troubles, anxieties and worries that do not exist and are our own random thoughts. Society is complex, but we can choose to be uncomplicated people. For example, if you can look at what happens every day with a peaceful and grateful attitude, you may have fewer worries and worries, and you will see more opportunities.
It is said that the more capable a woman is, the more she will be jealous. Many people in the play envied Andy for sitting in a high position at such a young age. Privately, she suspected that she was playing tricks and might be being kept by someone, but she never took the initiative to explain when faced with these doubts.
People with strong abilities are like this and don't bother to explain. They rely on their own strength to prove their abilities and believe that time will prove everything.
I remember there was a plot in "Ode to Joy" where a senior executive was reprimanded by Andy for negligence in his work, resulting in an accidental death.
If you are a person with poor mental endurance, you may panic when faced with such an unexpected situation and don’t know what to do?
Andy was just the opposite. She did not complain or escape, but faced it calmly.
Andy, who is in a high position, must have experienced many storms. For the strong, escaping is the behavior of the weak. And Andy is open-hearted and has done nothing wrong, so she has enough confidence and confidence to face all storms.
Why many people are so anxious and troubled is because they think about many things too complicatedly and care too much about other people's evaluation of themselves.
Therefore, they often let other people's words affect their mood. When something happens, they will panic and fear, and they don't know how to deal with it?
Some people think about work when they are busy with family, and think about family when they are busy with work. In the end, they cannot do both well.
It is difficult to achieve a balance between career and family, and you cannot satisfy everyone around you. What we can do is try our best to adjust this balance point. No matter what others say, life is ours after all, why should we care what others say?
We cannot change how others evaluate us. The only thing we can do is to live our lives calmly and not care about what others think.
2. Self-disciplined women are the best
I like a saying: "The more self-disciplined a woman is, the more advanced and free she is."
Many people often say that they need to be a self-disciplined person and insist on getting up early every day to read and exercise. But many words are beautiful, but it is not easy to actually do them, and not many people insist on doing them.
To be a self-disciplined person, you need to overcome the discomfort caused by change. When you step out of your comfort zone, you are bound to experience some pain. Most people can't overcome it, so no matter how many plans they make for themselves, they all come to nothing in the end.
Andy's self-discipline is what I appreciate most. If a woman can achieve a high degree of self-discipline, her life will definitely be more exciting.
She insists on running and reading every morning, which are good living habits.
Do you think it’s just exercise and reading? It’s very simple, I can do it too. But how many days can you last? One day, two days, one month or two months?
The development of good habits requires persistence over time before it becomes a kind of inertia.Once you really develop a good habit, sometimes you don't need to be reminded at all. When the time comes every day, you will take the initiative to do it.
For example, I get up early every day to write and read for an hour at night. In the past, I still had to look at the list to see what I had to do today. Now that it’s time, I don’t need to look at any list or anyone to remind me. I will take the initiative to do it.
Have you stipulated that you should study for one hour every day? Have you applied for a fitness card but haven’t been to the gym several times a month?
It is undeniable that many people have ideas and attitudes that they want to change, but we first have to overcome our laziness.
I have always believed that reading and exercising are two things we must insist on every day.
What is the difference between the weak and the strong?
It is a very small thing. Strong people can persevere over time and become stronger and stronger. Through a high degree of self-discipline and strict demands on themselves, they become the envy of ordinary people.
I have read some biographies of successful people, and I found that those who are capable and outstanding have good living habits and are highly self-disciplined.
Did you find it? For truly strong and outstanding people, their success must be inseparable from a high degree of self-discipline.
Written to the end
In life, most women turn themselves into accessories to others. Especially after marriage, women have multiple identities: wife, mother, and daughter-in-law.
They put their time and energy on their families, giving up their careers and social circles. assumed all responsibilities of the family.
In fact, the first person a woman should learn to love is herself. A woman is a person first, and a woman second.
From Andy, I saw confidence, independence, self-improvement, etc., as well as her seriousness and responsibility in her work, and her warm-heartedness towards her friends. Perhaps it is because of so many qualities that make her so good.
Andy shows a kind of confidence and stability no matter what the occasion. Her confidence is engraved in her bones, not faked.
In life, it is impossible for everyone to be like Andy, but we can learn from her excellent qualities.
There is no need to underestimate yourself, learn more from excellent people, everyone can gain the life they want through hard work.
If you don’t like Andy, you can also look at other successful and outstanding people. There must be something we can learn from those people.
Do you know? Confidence and confidence are given to ourselves by ourselves.
likes a saying very much:
Yu Minhong said: "Don't have too big a goal in life. If you identify one thing, devote interest and enthusiasm to do it, you will succeed."
