When it comes to the "Ip Man" series of movies, many people may first think of martial arts and fighting.
In fact, anyone who has watched "Ye Wen" seriously knows that "wu" is only a form. The film is intended to express "thoughts" through armed struggle between people, or between nations.
The recently broadcasted "Ip Man 4" can summarize the core idea:
People should not be competitive, but they must have the strength to win.
1. A story
At the beginning of the movie, Ye Wen's son once again angered the principal because of a fight, and the principal decided to drive him out.
In the principal’s office, Ye Wen said sincerely to the principal:
"Can you give him another chance? I promise that this will never happen again."
But the principal was very firm, saying:
"Last time I promised to be the last."
Ye Wen knew that there was no chance.
After returning home that day, he decided to send his son to study abroad. The next day, he bought a ticket and set off for the United States.
Aggressive Master Wan
In Chinatown, after someone introduced, Ip Man met a prestigious Master Wan in the local area and wanted him to write a letter of recommendation to the local School, but this Master Wan likes to compete very much and he despises Master Ye from the heart. He came to dismiss him on the spot and said:
"Fight me, take the letter!"
Ye Wen didn't want to fight and left.
A few days later, this master Wan, his martial arts hall, and a group of Chinese martial arts practitioners clashed with the local military forces and caused many injuries in the competition. Master Wan himself was also affected. He was seriously injured and went to the hospital.
In this "duel" between the Chinese and the Americans, the Chinese were defeated. Everyone was sad, sad, anxious, and the audience's emotions were mobilized:
"Chinese" Ah, stand up, you have to win!"
But, who will defeat the American soldier who defeated the Chinese? nobody.
Finally, Ye Wen stood up and used Chinese Kung Fu "Wing Chun" to defeat the American soldier and win back the dignity of Chinese martial arts and the dignity of Chinese people. After
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, the Americans also changed their views on Chinese martial arts and even listed Chinese martial arts as a required military course.
The Chinese and Chinese martial arts have been able to exhale!
The movie "Ip Man 4" actually tells us this truth:
People should not be competitive, but they must have the strength to win.
2. Two mindsets
In the movie, Ye Wen and Master Wan are both martial artists, but they are two completely different people.
Ye Wen is very low-key. He never provokes others because of his martial arts. On the contrary, even if others provoke him, he can hide.
So when Master Wan exchanged admission letters on the condition of "beating him", he gave up.
Master Wan is a completely different kind of person, and also has a special "meaning":
is a Chinese who is also a martial artist. In the United States, he does not speak any of his compatriots. , When Ye Wen came to him for help and wanted a recommendation letter for admission, he directly wrote a letter of advice: "Win me, take the letter!"
It can be seen that Master Wan likes to compete very much. People.
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But in the face of Americans, he has always followed the word "forbearance":
His daughter is studying in school and has been bullied by American classmates many times. He was even beaten by a group, but every time he told his daughter: "You have to bear it!"
Master Wan’s competition is victorious, but only for people he thinks he can contend and defeat. His heart is actually Inferiority complex is "weak".
is precisely because of this, he is eager to prove his "strong" by defeating some people who are inferior to him.
Ye Wen also has another name, "Low-Key Confidence".
Another name of Master Wan is "Pretending to be arrogant".
Master Wan was inferior in his heart and his skills were not as good as others, so he lost miserably in the end.
People with "weak" hearts are "weak" in the final analysis.
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Ye Wen never fights with others, but he has confidence in his heart. He does not fear the strong and does not provoke the weak. Only when he is forced, he chooses to use his strength. Speak, and "speak" beautiful enough!
3. How expensive is disguised self-confidence?
The famous psychologist Adler defines inferiority as follows:
When a person encounters a problem that he cannot solve, and thinks he cannot solve the problem at all, he falls into inferiority.
Master Wan in the movie "Ip Man 4", faced with discrimination and bullying by the Americans, he resolutely does not resist and endures to the end.
At the same time, in front of those who are inferior to him, he likes to be competitive.
Obviously, he is an inferiority man, and he is a person who tries to hide his inferiority.
In fact, everyone has some inferiority in their hearts. This is a very normal thing. Inferiority can even become a motivation, driving a person to become stronger.
However, when a person tries to conceal their inferiority complex, it constitutes an "internal friction" for oneself:
One of internal friction:
Because of excessive attention to the outside world, especially others' View, and consume a lot of energy. One's energy must be limited, and accordingly, the energy used to improve one's strength has been cut.
Internal friction II:
Because of excessive focus on winning or losing, the mentality is seriously unbalanced, which is not conducive to the performance of the individual, and it is easier to fail.
A person who is obviously inferior but wants to pretend to be self-confident, in order to complete the disguise, it consumes energy and destroys the mentality, which will inevitably lead to inferior personal skills. How can such a person win?
The person who most wants to win is the easiest to lose.
Because he always wanted to paralyze himself with a false sense of superiority, instead of really improving his personal strength.
In this paralysis, inferiority complex will only increase day by day, but the real problem has never been solved .
4. The "dual opposition" beyond inferiority and self-confidence
to identify and point out that a person is inferior. This has no meaning and is also very annoying.
What is really important is to recognize the consumption of "pretending to be self-confident" and to come out.
In fact, where is the absolute inferiority and self-confidence?
The psychologist Adler pointed out in the book "Inferiority and Transcendence":
Everyone’s heart is selfA mixture of humbleness and self-confidence, we should seek the peaceful coexistence of these two mentalities instead of destroying one of them.
In other words, it actually eliminates "dual independence".
Lao Tzu put forward a point in the "Tao De Jing":
When we define what is beautiful, we also create what is ugly. When we define what is good, we also define what is evil. Such "dual opposition" will directly lead to conflict.
So Lao Tzu advocates transcending dualism and letting go of "discrimination."
From this point of view, self-confidence and low self-esteem are actually a "dual opposition" that we define.
It is this inappropriate definition that has caused the inferiority complex to suffer, and some of them have also established an impossible goal-building absolute self-confidence.
As a result, it's more painful to ask for nothing.
In fact, it is not accurate for to use "confidence" to describe Ye Wen. More precisely, he is a "calm" person.
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Based on his inner calmness, he doesn't care about winning or losing, and he doesn't care about what others think of him.
Therefore, he can devote his limited energy to the improvement of personal strength. When necessary, make a blockbuster and win beautiful enough.
A peaceful state of mind is the most healthy state of mind and the best background color in life .
5. How cool is it to speak with strength? At the end of the
movie, Ye Wen made a shot and defeated the arrogant American soldiers, and thus changed their contemptuous attitude towards Chinese martial arts and Chinese people.
At the moment Ip Man won, the Chinese in the movie, and us as the audience, were very "cool" in their hearts.
Ye Wen defeated the American soldiers
It’s so cool to speak with strength!
In real life, the same is true.
I once had a high school classmate who was short and ugly, and he was very unwelcome in school, but he studied hard and became a dark horse in the college entrance examination. He was the only one who passed the Peking University entrance examination. people.
When he holds the admission notice in his hand, do you know how happy he is?
To give another example, in the sixth season of "Wonderful Flower", Zhan Qingyun is on fire.
This grass-roots girl from the mountainous area, relying on loans to study all the way, relying on the knowledge and wisdom accumulated over the years, has become the most shining person on the stage where the talents are abundant.
Speak with strength, do you know how happy she is?
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Everyone should have their own strength while alive.
In work, strength is the foundation of one's own foothold.
In life, especially in marriage, strength is the confidence to speak.
A person with strength never cares about the face of others, because no one with real strength dares to show his face.
The brand-new time of 2020 has been rolled out before your eyes. What kind of strength will you accumulate for yourself? What peak do you want your life to reach?
The "sour and refreshing" of life, you have to fight on your own.
