"Meng Hua Lu" became popular, not only Liu Yifei and Chen Xiao, but also a number of supporting actors also joined the show. What also became popular was its plot. I have to say that this is a very good TV series. It not only tells about love, but also writes about friendship. It

" Meng Hua Lu " has become popular, not only Liu Yifei and Chen Xiao , but also a number of supporting characters have also followed suit. What also became popular was its plot.

I have to say that this is a very good TV series. It not only tells about love, but also writes about friendship. It expounds hope, but also despair.

In this world, there are people with "scum-absorbing" physiques like Song Yinzhang, and there are also "scumbag" insulators like Zhao Pan'er. But Sun Sanniang, who is the most down-to-earth and lives enthusiastically every day, has the most happy ending.

This is the real world. It is not what we expect, but it is cruel and realistic.

01. If you have the ability, you will have more choices in life.

She killed a pig to help her husband collect the gift to marry her. After she got rich, her husband Fu Xingui had an affair with the widow and instigated her son to disown her. The first half of Sun Sanniang's life became a joke.

After only 15 days of knowing each other, they made a private marriage. She married off with several large boxes of dowry filled with stones. However, in the end, she was entrusted to an inhumane person and was chained and tortured like a dog. She almost couldn't wait for Zhao Paner to rescue her. she.

Why did Zhao Paner dare to love, hate, and be brave and resourceful when faced with the same scumbag, while Song Yinzhang and Sun Sanniang could only sit back and wait for death?

First of all, men look down upon them in their hearts.

In terms of talents, Sun Sanniang is good at nothing except killing pigs and making fruits. These two items had no advantage at all in the prevailing environment where men were superior to women.

In terms of family background, Sun Sanniang’s natal family had no one, and even the house collapsed.

So Fu Xingui became unscrupulous in his actions.

Song Yinzhang was good at playing the pipa, but she cared about being a lowly person and always longed for someone to affirm and praise her. Zhou She offered her sweet words at the right time.

Actually, these two people are not pure. One is eager to cheat money to pay off debts, and the other is eager to get rid of his humble status through marriage. The result is doomed to be in vain.

Secondly, you have no idea about your situation.

Although Sun Sanniang has been with her husband for many years and worked hard to make money for her husband to do business, she knows nothing about her husband's true inner thoughts.

Although Song Yinzhang was a musician and had seen all kinds of men, she was devoted to her profession and knew nothing about human nature.

Therefore, they are the ones who have the best control and are the most suitable targets for scumbags.

Once they are hurt by love, if no one appears in time to rescue them physically and psychologically, their ultimate destination will be destruction.

But Zhao Pan'er is different. She has always relied on her shrewdness and sophistication to rise and fall in the business world, but she has never lost her pure nature. She opened a teahouse, had some savings, and had the capital and confidence to make a comeback. So when Ouyang Xu regretted her marriage, she still had the heart to ask him in person.

and knowing that there was no hope of getting back together, he was able to make a decisive decision and vowed to gain a foothold in Tokyo.

She managed a prosperous tea shop in Tokyo and led three sisters to start their own businesses. In the end, they gained both career and love.

It is undeniable that Sun Sanniang and Song Yinzhang finally reaped their own happiness and achieved their life wishes, but without Zhao Paner's precautions and strategizing, it would be almost impossible.

We have to admit that sometimes, whether it is dealing with people or in marriage, the more "capital" people have, the happier they live and have more choices in life.

02. People who are "self-interested" are more likely to be happy

I don't know if you have discovered something: no matter what Zhao Pan'er encounters, she is almost always "self-interested".

When the old slave of the Ouyang family offered eighty taels of gold to buy out Zhao Paner's three-year affection for Ouyang Xu, she said this:

If you want to buy me off, you can. But you tell him that eighty taels of gold is not enough. If you want to wear them together, please bring five hundred taels of gold. As long as the money and goods are cleared, I will break up with him.

Did she take five hundred taels of gold as a stopgap measure because she was reluctant to give up her deep love for Ouyang Xu?

I don’t think so. She made a calculation in her mind. In the past three years, he purchased land for Ouyang Xu and registered him as a farmer, giving him the opportunity to take part in examinations in Zhejiang and Zhejiang. It was her encouragement and comfort that relieved Ouyang Xu's boredom from studying hard every night. Five hundred taels of gold is not an exaggeration.

When love can no longer be grasped, it is important to do your best to reduce property losses.

When she heard Ouyang Xu say that she would marry him as his concubine, she spilled the tea in front of Ouyang Xu. "I, Zhao Pan'er, will never be a concubine" is her deepest revenge on Ouyang Xu.

It is precisely because she never loses her "self" in her heart that when making choices, even though she sometimes "hurts the enemy a thousand and hurts herself eight hundred," she never feels wronged.

There is a heartbreaking scene:

After Gu Qianfan and Zhao Pan'er expressed their feelings, they met Qi Mu. In order not to cause trouble for themselves, Gu Qianfan said that he and Zhao Pan'er were just acting on occasion.

Zhao Paner did not feel sorry for himself, nor was he suspicious of Gu Qianfan. Instead, he went straight to the point and told him: If you are just acting on the occasion, I will not accompany you.

It wasn't until Gu Qianfan handed over his family assets, three land deeds, four keys, and all the family assets he had acquired after serving as an official for twelve years, that he believed that he really wanted to be with him for the rest of his life.

Indeed, ten thousand sweet words are not worth one actual action.

But in reality, some girls only write letters with sweet words. Language is the most deceptive.

The valuable thing about Zhao Paner is that although she and Gu Qianfan are very different in terms of status, she never feels inferior, and she dares to demand equality from the other person.

Falling in love is also a game. Whoever cares more about their own feelings will be more able to accept failure and be more dominant.

It is precisely in this way that Zhao Pan'er safeguards her own interests and is "self-interested" in everything, so that she can control Gu Qianfan step by step and remind him not to fool her.

What happened between Sun Sanniang and Song Yinzhang tells us: when a person gives without a bottom line in the relationship between the sexes, he may not be able to get sincerity in exchange for sincerity, and may even make the other party kick his nose in the face.

But if a person loves herself first, then loves others, and has certain principles and bottom lines, she will definitely be happy.

03. Never look down on yourself

At the critical moment of changing hands of the restaurant, Gu Qianfan disappeared from the world. In order to prevent the land deed of the teahouse from falling into the hands of others, Zhao Paner truly humbled himself into the dust.

She went to ask Chi Yanei to borrow money, but was made things difficult for her in every possible way. There was singing and dancing, and kneeling and kowtow. With such humiliation, I'm afraid that Sun Sanniang will die and Song Yinzhang will be so ashamed and angry that life would be worse than death. But Zhao Paner gritted his teeth and accepted it.

But when she faced Chi Yanei's rude remarks, she was able to slap Chi Yanei cleanly on the face:

You look quite ugly, but you think quite beautifully. I, Zhao Paner, will one day take back the humiliation I suffered today.

There is no sorrow for spring and autumn, only one sentence expresses attitude. He has both courage and magnanimity.

What he said when he was rescuing the siege of Chi Yanei by the Bian River is even more admirable:

You said that the lowest people among scholars, farmers, industry and commerce are merchants. If you have the ability, don’t drink the wine brewed by merchants, and don’t wear the clothes of merchants. , and don’t eat the food shipped by merchants. What I look down on is not people, but the hearts of you who look down on people.

It was her generous help that day when the road was rough that made the three sisters have a bright future when they were at the end of their rope. Chi Yanei was grateful to Zhao Pan'er for speaking up and offered to open a restaurant with her.

With the help of Chi Yanei, Zhao Paner finally made a comeback and fulfilled her dream.

people, really never underestimate yourself.

Yishu once said: Life is only a few decades, and the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others.

Only by not looking down on yourself can others be afraid when they want to bully you. Only when you are looked down upon by others can you not feel sorry for yourself.

Whether it is love or life, Zhao Paner has never let herself down.