I used to visit my relatives’ house when I was a child, and they moved to treat me. I ate the coconut milk I drank during the meal quickly and ran to the sofa to sit. The male host sat outside to entertain the male guests and asked me if I had finished drinking the drinks and then took them again. I said I had finished drinking.
I was only 8 years old at that time and was very unfamiliar with such occasions. I thought I would tell the truth when he asked me.
The hostess handed me the drink, and after I finished drinking, my mother asked me to go over. She told me earnestly that we would buy it later and would not owe this sip, making it seem like we were dissatisfied with the host's reception this time. There is also my aunt, two adults said to themselves that I was so stingy that I was not allowed to hold my hat.
I cried aggrievedly at other people's house, which really confirmed that I was trying to drink other people's drinks.
Until now, I will subconsciously refuse whatever others ask me to drink. If I can’t tell whether it is polite or sincere, then I will refuse it all.
Later, my family treated me. When my younger brothers and sisters who were more than teenagers were talking loudly about their needs, their parents would not scold them because their expression was natural that children only wanted one thing, and my mother would not say that it was rude again. She would compare my past events with them and say that I was not generous enough.
It seems that I am the only one who is trapped in the dream of the dim light in the past. I have been walking for almost twenty years and still can't get out.
How should I educate my children? Should I endure my own demands or say them boldly and naturally.
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@mao Sier
Post-80s say that empathizes . In the past, when supplies were scarce, they tried to show outsiders to make face for themselves. In fact, both the host and the guest had to be careful to eat, drink, talk to each other, etc., and so on, each link was complicated social behavior, and how could a child understand these. Very annoying!
@Congqiu's bun
I am the same. I never dare to express my needs. I envy the scene where children talk about their needs openly and are satisfied by their parents.
@小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小Developed a flattering personality
@Xinjuzhou
I saw my family sending out the drinks sent by others during the New Year. I felt very dissatisfied. Why did you? After crying, I successfully left the drinks
@momo
I understand so much. When I was a child, I went to a hot pot restaurant with my mother's colleagues to eat hot pot. I happily said that this was the first time I came here to eat, and then my mother turned her eyes to shut up.
@ℂharott
I felt very empathetic...
But it was not eaten, nor was it brought by my parents, it was a children's swimsuit.
My cousin, who was studying in the sports school at that time, invited his teacher and his daughter to a scenic spot where we visited and had dinner. Then the girl was about the same age as me and needed a swimsuit when she went to play in the water, so my cousin took me and his daughter to buy it.
I had never worn a swimsuit at that time and wanted to play with that girl, so I took it over and put it on. At that time, I really didn't understand these things...
The next day, my cousin took the newspaper rolled into a drum and gave me a meal. He also said why I was so thick-skinned...
I was both wronged and stubborn at that time. I really didn't know that I just wanted what I wanted. Is there anything wrong with
@Pesticide
Eating in a restaurant (such as hot pot). The owner asked us if we needed a drink or not, and I said I didn't need it. Actually, I really wanted to drink it.Because I was taught that the price of beverages in hotels is expensive, in fact, compared with food, what is this beverage? I feel that this requirement cannot be met. I feel a little distorted.
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