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I am Xiaoyun, and I live in Suzhou with my husband.
I am a local from Suzhou and my husband is from Gansu.
Compared to me, I have no worries about food and clothing since I was a child, it is not easy for my husband to come out of a small county town in Gansu.
The father-in-law died of an accident after a cerebral hemorrhage last year. After finishing my father-in-law's funeral, my husband took the initiative to discuss with me, saying that he was worried about his mother-in-law and planned to take her to Suzhou to live with us.
My husband only has two brothers and sisters, and my sister-in-law settled in Xi'an. It’s not a solution for my mother-in-law to be alone in her hometown, so I considered it and agreed.
The reason why I still have to consider it is because I have heard too many examples of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's discord, and I am afraid of living with my mother-in-law.
At the very least, we have no way to live separately from our mother-in-law. Because both houses under my name are for rent, they have just been renewed.
And my husband and I live in a large flat floor, which is quite large in area. Although there is also a nanny, the whole family is enough to live in.
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My mother-in-law was a primary school teacher before retirement, and her monthly retirement salary was nearly 5,000. After she came, I gave her 2,000 pocket money every month.
After all, whether flowers are blooming or not, or how they are blooming is all my mother-in-law's business, but it is mine to respect her.
My husband has been with me in my hometown over the years, and he treats my parents very well. As long as there is something wrong with my parents, my husband will definitely help solve the problem as soon as possible. During the holidays and on my parents’ birthdays, my husband will give them a huge red envelope.
person? Put your heart in mind. My husband is so kind to my parents, and I have to be kind to my mother-in-law.
But I found that she rarely wears the clothes I bought for my mother-in-law. Not only that, she also told me not to buy it, saying that she would not go out and could not wear it. It would be better to save it if she had that money.
After a long time, I saw that my mother-in-law always wears so many clothes, so she gave up the idea of renovating her.
Yes, I want my mother-in-law to become fashionable. It is best to dance square dance at night and get to know more neighbors and aunts, so that she will slowly have her own circle of life.
But I found that after adapting to life in Suzhou, my mother-in-law disappeared after dinner every night. She didn't go to the square dance and said she was not interested.
I used to think she was going for a walk in the park until that night, I finished socializing with the client, and because I drank alcohol, I called the price.
It was already past 9 o'clock at that time. When I passed by the road near my home, I found that the woman who was rummaging over the trash can looked very much like my mother-in-law.
My wine woke up all of a sudden and the car drove over quickly. I was a little dazed and thought, no.
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However, I still have questions in my mind. After all, I don't think I'm going to misjudgment.
During that time, my husband happened to be on a business trip. I really wanted to ask him, so I wanted to wait for him to come back.
Half a month later, my husband came back. One day we went for a walk after dinner and went to my mother's house to pick up my daughter.
Not long after entering the community, I was going to walk a section of the tree-lined avenue. My husband and I held my daughter's little hand and the whole family chatted while walking.
Suddenly, the daughter pulled out her little hand and pointed to the person next to the trash can not far ahead, saying that it was grandma.
Bookline light is a little dim. After hearing this, my husband walked quickly under the street light. My daughter and I followed.
The old lady who was cleaning up the paper box while garbage was sure it was my mother-in-law.
The husband hesitated for a while, walked forward and called out mom.
Mother-in-law raised her head hesitantly and saw that it was her husband, she was obviously a little at a loss. She covered up a little embarrassedly and said, "I'm just idle. I saw that there was a waste paper box here, and planned to pick it up and give it to the cleaning lady tomorrow."
My husband said a little unhappy, Mom, how many bacteria are in the trash can? It’s not healthy.
Mother-in-law said, I know, I will wash my hands well when I go back, you guys go back first.
What else does my husband want to say, so I pulled him and took him away.
Until I walked home, I told my husband that I actually found my mother-in-law picking up garbage last month, but I didn’t see it very clearly that day.
I can’t figure it out. My mother-in-law has a lot of pension every month and has 2,000 pocket money, so she is not short of money at all. My husband is also very curious.
Later, my mother-in-law came back, and my husband talked to her specifically. My husband said: Mom, your son’s annual salary is one million, and your wife’s salary is 15,000. She is still a department leader. Our conditions are not bad. We took you here to enjoy your happiness, not to let you pick up trash. Besides, it doesn’t have much money and is not hygienic.
Mother-in-law finally agreed and said she would not pick it up.
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just my mother-in-law promised it well, but she still picked it up secretly.
Seeing her like this, my husband was a little angry, and I was puzzled. I know to respect the elderly’s lifestyle, but we really can’t understand it.
Until last month, I chatted with my sister-in-law and said that my mother-in-law always likes to pick up trash secretly and will not enjoy happiness.
My sister-in-law hesitated for a while and said, "Sister-in-law, you misunderstood my mom." This, mom didn't want me to tell you. She was also afraid of embarrassing you, so she always picked up trash at night and then hid it secretly in the woods behind the building. My mother gave me all the money she sold for scrap, and I helped her donate it online.
I was afraid that I wouldn’t understand, so my sister-in-law said a few more words. She said that her mother-in-law was a teacher before, and she had seen some children who wanted to go to school because of their poor family conditions, but they couldn't go to school.
Fortunately, the conditions were better later, but there were still some places where there were many left-behind children and some children from poor families, and their conditions were not so good. So, my mother-in-law donated all her own money, including the pocket money we gave her. She was also quietly picking up a lot of old clothes in the community, and she also contacted people in need and donated them all.
My sister-in-law said that we probably don’t know these things. He also said that if I don’t believe it, she can take a screenshot for me.
After hanging up the phone, my sister-in-law sent me a lot of screenshots. There are donations in it, donated to different people and to different places.
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After hanging up the phone, I told my husband about my mother-in-law's behavior. My husband said, I didn’t expect my mother to do this. In the future, let’s support her more. She was kind-hearted and had a hard time in her early years. It was my uncle and aunt who gave up the opportunity to study to go to school, which made her become a teacher. This is worthy of her life's gratitude.
But my uncle and aunt have passed away a few years ago, and my mother-in-law has no sustenance. Now she donates through her own way, so she has her own happiness.
Later, my husband and I took the initiative to talk to my mother-in-law, saying that we will not care about her in the future, and that if she wants to pick up the garbage, she will pick it up.
This time it was my mother-in-law's turn and she said, don't you let me go?
I said, my sister showed me the screenshots, I know you donated all the money.
Mother-in-law said, I'm afraid you don't agree.
I smiled and said: Mom, if you do good deeds, you have to bring us together. Let’s do more good deeds and accumulate more blessings.
Mother-in-law smiled and said, OK, OK.
To be honest, I admire my mother-in-law very much. She has great love and is better than us.
I heard from my husband that when my mother-in-law was working, she helped many of the students she helped. Many people remember her kindness and would come to see her during the holidays.
Yes, planting the seeds of kindness will definitely reap more fruits of kindness. After
, I will learn more from my mother-in-law. After all, helping others will also make us happier.
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Taotao said:
like this mother-in-law who has great love!
also likes her sons and daughters-in-law who understand her!
They are all people with great love! Worth our learning.
also want to remind everyone that our living standards are getting higher and higher, but our parents are all suffering people. In the community, I also saw many old ladies picking up garbage, including my mother-in-law. She used to help take care of the children at my house, and she would pick them up.
We must respect their lifestyle.
Although many mothers-in-law pick up garbage, they cannot donate the money like the mother-in-law in the article. But they do not steal or rob, and live on their own hard work and do not cause trouble for their children. It is also worthy of our admiration!
OK, let’s talk about it today. Do you support your mother-in-law or mother in picking up garbage?
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