Xiaodong serves his hemiplegic mother at home. It is not a good job to serve others. After a long time, he will inevitably get upset. However, every time he gets angry or is unbearable to his mother, he regrets it in his heart. He feels that he is not a filial child. When he reflects alone at night, he realizes that he lacks the ability to love his lover, especially in his family. From childhood to adulthood, he lacks the ability to love his lover and his children...
Xiaodong's father has passed away for more than a year. In his impression, his father's personality is a little gloomy. Since childhood, his parents have been noisy when they encounter problems, and it is common for divorce. In Xiaodong's memory, once his parents quarreled and divorced. My uncle called Xiaodong to his mother-in-law's house. My uncle said to Xiaodong: "Your parents really can't live a life. Divorce is considered as, don't make a fuss all day long, so that the people around him can't live a peaceful life." At that time, Xiaodong was in the fourth grade of elementary school and really didn't want to see his parents quarreling and fighting again. He felt that having such parents was a shame.
Xiaodong's father has been dead for more than a year. Xiaodong has never dreamed of him in his dream. In his memories, his father is in his seventies and eighties and fights with his mother at every turn. One holds a crutch and the other holds a stick, performing all martial arts at home. They are all old and live a joke in the eyes of neighbors. So Xiaodong really doesn't have much good impression of his parents. If a child has the right to choose his parents, he will definitely not choose such a pair of parents.
Once Xiaodong went to a friend's house as a guest. His parents were in love with each other. His parents spoke in a gentle and drizzle and caring for each other. Only then did Xiaodong realize that the couple had such respect and love each other. In his heart, he really envied his friends for having such parents. The family atmosphere was peaceful and kinship. Every day in his family was very depressed and full of war. His parents spoke in a tone of criticism and abuse. When they heard their parents quarrel at home, Xiaodong's head was too big.
In such a family, Xiaodong's third sister has a brain problem and is schizophrenia. Xiaodong's eldest sister has a poor way of doing things, is straightforward and has an extreme personality. Xiaodong doesn’t like to argue. He hopes to do things in a perfect way, try to control his emotions before handling things well. Under the influence of such parents, the children's feelings are very depressed. They cannot feel the warmth of their parents, only their indifference and mutual hurt.
Xiaodong himself also felt the lack of warmth and family affection in his family. When Xiaodong reflected on himself, he realized that the people in their family lacked the ability to love, there was no love between parents, and the parents did not love their children, but they just did not let their children starve to death. The real family is a desert of love, lacking the ability to love and the beautiful experience of being loved.
When Xiaodong grew up and started a family and started a business, he had his own children. Xiaodong loved his wife and children from the bottom of his heart. Although life was not rich and noble, he felt very happy to treat his wife and children with warmth. When my wife gets angry, Xiaodong learns to shut up and not add fuel to the fire. I often take my children to play or have heart-to-heart talks with them. I try to be as warm and loving as possible at home, and the whole family is very happy.
Really, love is a kind of ability. I found that most unhappy families lack the ability to love. Happiness also needs to be managed, and love also needs to be learned. I hope everyone will continue to learn the ability of love and manage their own family and career well. Thank you!
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