talks about elderly care. The first thing many people think of is remarriage and retirement. After all, if you remarry, you can accompany and take care of each other in the future. There are also many elderly people who choose to remarry and retire, but can remarry and retirement really be happy? Not necessarily. This is the best way to retire.
The old man said that after he failed to remarry and retire, he discovered a new way of retirement. He is living a happy life now. The children are at ease, he is comfortable, and the whole family is at ease. What kind of way is this for the elderly? Why is it so good? Let's take a look together. A new way of elderly care is coming. One is guaranteed by oneself, the other is not allowed to flow from outsiders to the outside world, and the whole family is at ease.
case story sharing person,
74-year-old Mr. Wu:
Speaking of elderly care, I think most elderly people think of remarriage and elderly care at the first time. Why do I say it’s not something else, but remarrying and pension? Because the others are unreliable. At least there is legal protection for remarriage. This is why so many elderly people choose to remarry and retire.
I used to think this way, what is the best thing for a person? If two people say that they can accompany each other and take care of each other. To say something bad, at least one person will be with you if something happens. When you are alone, no one cares about you. Or maybe someone doesn’t know if you die, it’s different if you remarry and retire. There is someone by your side to accompany you, accompanying you and taking care of each other. This is why so many elderly people choose to remarry and retire.
I didn't understand until now. Remarrying and pensioning is unhappy. The only one who is suitable for us is I discovered this new way of retirement. It can be considered that the water does not flow to outsiders' fields. Let me tell you about my personal experience. In the past, I chose to remarry and retire. My children refused to remarry.
My child told me that there is no need to make trouble anymore when he is old. How did you live in the past? How can you live a bad life in the future? Why remarry? I know you did this for our own good, but have you ever thought about what to do if you are unhappy? If you don’t have a good life, will you still have to divorce?
I was speechless. Isn't this for you? I told my child, "I'm not doing this for your own good." You are so busy at work, so how can you have time to care about my affairs? Take the last incident as an example. I fainted at home. When did you come back after two days? I know you have your own difficulties, but have you ever thought about if I hadn't known about this matter. What is the consequence?
If I remarried, it would be different. If someone around me had something wrong, at least he would send me to the hospital. More importantly, someone will accompany me and take care of me until you come back, if you don’t have a wife. Then what should I do if something happens to me in the future? Who is responsible for me? Do you want me to wait for you?
Do you think I can wait? What a tragic thing this is, I don’t want a tragedy like this to happen. And I'm not doing this for you? Someone was with me to accompany and take care of each other. You are under much less pressure, there is no need to come back for everything. Isn’t this good? You can also make money with peace of mind and live your life with peace of mind. That's why I chose to remarry. But for myself, it’s for you, do you know?
I was still speechless by me. Then I chose to remarry. I thought I would live a good life in the future, but someone accompanied me and took care of each other, so what's wrong with it? But after remarrying, I found that even if I got married, I was still two people. It is impossible for the two of us to merge together. My wife Xiao Zhang has her own world. There are many things to do in war, and I can’t control it at all. I’ll say something bad. We are strangers under the same roof now.
It’s not because of marriage that we can’t get together. Although we have a little relationship, this relationship is far from being as good as his children and his family.He often goes back to take care of his children, and sometimes he takes them to the house to take care of them. Xiao Zhang told me that we are all one family, but we actually said that we are one family, so we should help each other, right?
My child’s life is not easy, what’s wrong with me helping me? My child is yours. We are a family with you. Isn’t it? If I want you to take care of you, you have to take care of you. Just take care of one or two, just take care of several people at home for one or two days, just stay for one or two months. Especially during winter and summer vacations. I actually stayed at home for a month or two, eating mine and drinking mine.
all of them are given to me, and my pension is only more than 7,000 yuan. It is not enough to spend it or not, so I asked me to take out the deposit. After spending the deposit, I asked me to ask my son for money. Xiao Zhang told me, if you are not responsible to me, whoever is responsible to me, the child will have to eat at home. Wouldn't he give me no food? You said you will be responsible for me, I don’t care, you have to ask your child for money. My children are not easy to live, so where do they have money?
But if you don’t ask the child for money. Where is the money? I didn't even eat. Anyway, I am also a person with a pension of more than 7,000 yuan, but now I can’t even afford to eat. I went out for a meal and ordered a fast food of 15 yuan. The result is that there is no money. If it weren't for the boss being my son's classmate. I guess I couldn't leave that day, and later this incident reached my son's ears.
My son told me, didn’t you tell me that you are doing well after marriage? Why didn’t you even lose 15 yuan to your home? If you don’t have money, don’t go out to eat. What’s wrong with you? Don’t you have more than 7,000 yuan a month? Can you spend so much money as an elderly man? I asked me directly without saying anything, and I don't know what to say.
Come together I lied to my son, and I told my son that I was doing well. Actually, I lied to my son. I don't want my son to worry, now I have to tell my son about this. Later I told my son that I didn’t want to live with Xiao Zhang anymore. I regretted it. I was wrong. I shouldn’t be with Xiao Zhang.
and Xiao Zhang have been together for more than three years. I spent more than 300,000 yuan in deposits. Then he borrowed more than 100,000 yuan. I don’t know how these days came about. When Xiao Zhang and I were together, we were a happy couple on the surface. It means he is constantly using my money. No matter how good I treat Xiao Zhang, Xiao Zhang will not be able to be a family with me, because if Xiao Zhang has it, there will be only his children, only his family, and there is no place for me at all. Xiao Zhang doesn't care much about what happened to me.
at most, call me 120 or take it to the hospital, and then call my son to notify me to come. This is not the divorce I want, I compensated him 50,000 yuan and then divorced. After remarriage and retirement failure. I thought of a new way of pension. Since I ask others for money to support my elderly care, why can’t I find my own people to support my elderly care? I spent so much money on Xiao Zhang, so why not spend money on my own children?
When I was hospitalized, I thought about this clearly. Since I ask someone else for money to support me. Then why can't you give the money to your children? I have two daughters and two sons, which means I have 4 children, and then I told them. Then whoever comes back to take care of me will pay 5,000 yuan a month. Although not many, there are not many things at home. My son’s wife is my daughter-in-law.
And my daughter works outside, which costs six or seven thousand yuan a month, but she is very tired outside. When I get home, I can get 5,000 yuan a month. They wanted to come back immediately. I had more than 7,000 yuan in pension every month, and then I took out 5,000 yuan. The remaining more than 2,000 was enough for the food expenses. I don’t have that much pension, and they will give money if I have many children. My other children will give money, and then I can give the money back to take care of me.
This way can also solve the salary problem. Ever since my daughter came back to take care of me. Three years of life are getting better and better. I used to be worried about this single person. Now I have become the happiest old man in the community. My daughter often accompanys me, and sometimes my son-in-law will come back to see me. I know that the main thing about my son-in-law is not to look at me but to me, but to his wife, that is, to my daughter.
But I don’t think it’s important, just come back. A few months later, my daughter came home, and then it was my daughter-in-law's turn to take care of me. You come back to take care of me, and then you have money. They have already agreed to take turns to take care of the beauty for three or four months. Those who have money contribute money, and those who don’t have money contribute money. It is precisely because I and they have clarified these things. Only then will they take good care of me. If it was too uncomfortable before, now they understand that taking care of me is also beneficial.
Whether it is because of the benefits or filial piety, as long as they can take good care of me, that is enough. Isn’t this what the elderly want? Also, for the elderly, money is just a string of numbers, just enough to spend it. Why do you keep so much money? You are looking for a nanny or you are with someone else to support your elderly care. Isn't it for money?
And those are outsiders, do you think it’s so good for outsiders to have their own people to take care of you? Just like my daughter comes to take care of me, my daughter takes care of me very well. If it were like before, when I was with Xiao Zhang. Not only did Lao Zhang not take good care of me, but he also spent a lot of money on me and borrowed a lot of money because of this matter. It’s different for my daughter to take care of me, and she serves me properly. So I said this kind of retirement method is very good. Very comfortable and very at ease.
is also really because I use this way of retirement. My kids come back often. My grandson will come back as well after the child comes back. Then I lived a happy life and often saw that my children were able to let my grandson accompany me. Is there anything more important than these happiness? No, these happiness is already very good. Anyway, I am very satisfied with my current life and not disappointed because I use this way of retirement. Will they come back often?
Outsiders are outsiders after all, and outsiders are not as good as their own. Let others take care of you. After all, others are outsiders, and if you are willing to spend money on others, why can’t you spend money on your own people? If you give money to others, it’s also for others. Why can’t you give money to your own people? If you are your own people, you can be considered a good harvest and no one can go to the outside world. It is the best for you to your family, just like I am now, my son and my daughter-in-law come back often.
I was satisfied when I saw them, even if they didn’t buy anything for me, even if they just came back and took a look. I am also very happy. Is this kind of life what I want when I get older? If you want an outsider to accompany you or your own children, I feel that 99% of the elderly choose their own children to accompany you. They have no losses, they have money, isn’t the way of pension that can win multiple goals at one go? Unhappy?
Conclusion:
If it were me. I will do this too, just say that, this way of retirement is perfect, just like the article says. Why can’t others give money to their children? Life is not easy. Since you have to give money, it’s better to give money to your children. It can be considered as a wealth of money. For the family, for themselves and children, this is undoubtedly the best ending.
Give money to others, others may not be able to take good care of you, but if you give money to your children, a 99% chance of taking good care of you. Even if you don’t give money, they will be responsible for you, and now you give them money. Then do you think they will ignore you?
definitely won’t, they will definitely be able to take good care of you, so this way of retirement is the best. If there is a choice, I want to retire like this in the future. If there are not many children, please give more money. If there is no pension, please give you the money. If each child gives a little money, that's enough.Isn’t it better to share these responsibilities with those who have money, and those who have no money?
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-