Chinese people pay attention to etiquette and exchanges. If you come, I will go. This is a cultural custom that has been passed down for thousands of years, and following etiquette is a very important part of our cultural customs.
Any relationship needs to be managed, this is true between friends and relatives. Accompanying gifts is a kind of etiquette. No matter how good your relationship is with relatives, you should also pay attention to the following four rules when following the gifts. This is a wise move. Otherwise, it will easily affect the relationship between the two parties, making a good thing eventually turn into an unhappy memory for two people.
The first rule: Don’t give gifts for the sake of face
Many people think that giving gifts is directly linked to face, as if the more gifts you receive, the greater the face you will get. In fact, there is no need to make things difficult for yourself so much. The emphasis on giving gifts is to send a blessing to the other party. Just give gifts according to your actual situation. It is not said that it must exceed your own economic scope. In fact, our real situation is understandable to each other, so don’t pretend. As long as you are sincere, I believe the other party can feel it.
The second rule: Reciprocity is not an equivalent exchange
Many relatives will take a small notebook to write down the gifts, and decide how much they give according to the amount given by others, and will never let others earn it. A relative had a birthday before. My family was with me for 1,000 yuan. At that time, I went with my parents. Later on my father's birthday, their family came to accompany him for 600 yuan, so our common relative asked him, and he said, "There were 1,000 yuan for the three of them, so I brought my wife and children with me, so it's almost 600 yuan, how much can the children eat." A small abacus like
is actually not necessary, but instead makes the relationship between relatives slowly fade. If you pay too much attention to equality or want the same reward in the ritual exchanges, then the matter of rituals will lose its meaning.
In fact, this is enough to be determined based on your actual situation. After all, you are a relative who is related by blood and meet more or less several times a year. If your family is in a good condition, you can show that your relationship is equivalent to helping your relatives. The other party will be very grateful, but if your family is not so good, even if you don’t give as much as you give, I believe the other party will not blame you.
You should not have the other party’s family conditions, so you should follow the idea more. It is the other person’s wishes for gifts. There is no need to engage in moral kidnapping , after all, others don’t owe you anything.
The third rule: treat everyone equally
Whether you are a relative with a good relationship or a relative who is not so good in relationship, remember that the number of gifts must be the same. Some people may think that if they have good relationships, they should follow their relatives more, and if they have bad relationships, they should follow their relatives less. In fact, this is absolutely absolutely impossible. If the relatives who have less relationships know, they will feel uncomfortable and may even talk about it behind their backs.
A friend of mine went to attend his cousin's wedding and accompanied him with 600 parts. Because he often played at his cousin's house when he was a child, he had a close relationship with his cousin, and his uncle was also very good to him and would leave any delicious food for him to eat together. So he was always grateful to his uncle's family. However, some time ago, he only followed 300 for his aunt's daughter to get married. Maybe because he didn't know much about this cousin, his aunt later learned that he had nothing to say in his heart when his cousin's gift amount, but he gradually alienated his relationship with my friend's family. He probably felt that he was also cousins, so why was the gap so big?
When my friend told me this, I taught him a little bit. Although it is the intention to take the gift, if each relative receives the gift differently, the other party will have ideas. Thinking from the perspective of others, I guess I will feel unbalanced. Therefore, in order to reduce the occurrence of this conflict, I should try to treat everyone equally in the future.
Actually, I think it is better to give gifts than to paying money? If every relative gives the same gift, it will reduce unnecessary trouble. So you may also have questions about which gift is better? After all, there are too many things to choose now, but one thing I think has been considered a good gift from ancient times to the present is liquor.
Chinese people love to drink, and giving gifts to them is both face and liked. Here I recommend two good pure grain wines. The first one is Tuopai Special Qu . This wine is also a big brand. It is great in terms of taste and appearance design, and it is just right to give it to others.
The second model is "Steaming Platform Kunsha Wine". Why is this wine suitable for giving to others? First of all, you can see that it is very exquisite from the packaging. Secondly, you can open the packaging and you can see a bottle of unique wine. What is unique? It is twice as big as other liquors . Other liquors are only 500 ml, while it has 1,000 ml. The key price is also very cost-effective. It only costs more than one hundred yuan . Do you think it is very suitable to give it to others?
And except for these external features, its quality is also very good. Anyone who has drunk this wine can feel that the food has a prominent aroma and will not get enough of it after drinking it.
At this point, the "No matter how good the relationship with relatives is, when you are gifted, it is wise to pay attention to these 3 rules" is over. Do you know any other rules? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area at any time.
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-