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My mother-in-law and my mother are best friends. I have always been unable to understand how two people who are in a completely different direction become good friends?
My mother-in-law is outgoing, has a loud voice, loves to dress up, and is unforgiving; while my mother is relatively restrained, gentle, and has a family-oriented and doesn't talk much.
I heard from my mother that she became best friends with her mother-in-law in the second year of junior high school. At that time, my grandfather was transferred to work, and my mother followed him to a strange city.
When I first went there, my mother was uncomfortable with all kinds of discomforts, and some people bullied her. Later, my mother-in-law stood up for her and the two of them came together.
I actually saw it a long time ago that my mother-in-law needs my mother, the green leaf, to set off her.
Because she is ostentatious, my mother is always quiet. Such quietness and movement are also a good combination.
My mother-in-law didn't continue to go to school after graduating from junior high school, and my mother went to a technical secondary school. At that time, it was very good and her job was good after graduation.
My mother is a grateful person. She always remembers the kindness she had given to her back then, so she always treats her very well.
When I grew up, I actually looked down on my mother-in-law and thought that she knew how to dress up all day long, and she would eat and drink without hesitation when she came to my house.
I really don’t understand how my mother played with her.
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Although my mother-in-law is flamboyant, her son, that is, my husband, has been very well-behaved and sensible since she was a child.
My husband is 3 years older than me, and he has taken good care of me since he was a child.
Sometimes I'm even very glad that he didn't look as crooked as his mother-in-law. The most important thing is that my husband looks like his father, he is quite handsome, has a good temper, and has very good academic performance.
My husband and I got married, and my dad was not willing to do so because he also saw that my mother-in-law was not very polite. He even advised my mother to stay away from my mother-in-law, but how could my mother listen to us?
Because my mother-in-law protected her back then, she was deeply convinced, so even though she sometimes felt that my mother-in-law was a little too much, she endured it.
I am quite sober when I married my husband. I think I fell in love with him, and as for the rest, we strive for ourselves.
My husband is a top student. After graduating from graduate school, he really worked very hard. He also relied on his own efforts to pay a down payment in the provincial capital. This house also made my dad think that this young man is pretty good. In addition, I insisted, my dad finally agreed to let me marry.
In theory, my husband is the only son in the family. When he buys a house, his mother-in-law should support him. But my mother-in-law is like a man who can never save money. Her father-in-law is an honest person and has been suppressed by her mother-in-law and has no say.
The money earned by my father-in-law was used by my mother-in-law to eat, drink and have fun. My mother-in-law often said that she would enjoy her timely life, otherwise I would be sorry for herself.
She is quite happy, but she has caused trouble for her son and husband.
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When I was in high school, my parents bought a house in the provincial capital.
Mother-in-law kept complaining about her father-in-law, saying that he was not motivated, but she didn't think about how she spent money herself.
Later, my husband relied on his own efforts to buy a house in the provincial capital. After we got married, my mother-in-law often came to live there. My mother-in-law doesn’t have a serious job, and the only thing she is proud of is that her son can make money.
Every time she comes over, I will go back to my parents' home to live. Of course, before leaving, I had to lock all my cosmetics into the bedroom, otherwise when I came back, I would definitely be used by my mother-in-law, or she would be left alone.
I really don’t like my mother-in-law.
After I got pregnant, my mother-in-law was very happy and said she was here to take care of me. In fact, she lived in the mahjong hall every day.
At that time, my husband was promoted and saved some money. I took the initiative to discuss with my husband and gave our wedding house and the little two-bedroom apartment to my mother-in-law, and he and I would go to buy a school district house. For this reason, my parents also quietly supported us 200,000 yuan.
Apart from showing off to others, her son is capable and can do nothing.
When I got married, my mother also knew about my mother-in-law's situation, so I only had a 20,000 yuan gift, and my dowry was 100,000 yuan.However, what my mother asked me to tell my mother-in-law was that she only gave her dowry 30,000, so that my mother-in-law would not be too arrogant.
In my dad's words, my mom has become a little more conscientious this time.
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After my daughter was born, the confinement center was paid for by my parents. My mother-in-law just went to play a meeting and still went back to play mahjong and dance in the square at night.
After a full month, my mother-in-law came over with the smell of a mahjong hall. Her husband was so angry that she said there were so many bacteria and asked her to go back and change her clothes. For this reason, the mother and son had a big fight.
My mother-in-law also made an excuse. She doesn’t know how to take care of her children and loves to play mahjong. She has many bacteria and is afraid of affecting my daughter.
So, my mother helped me take care of my daughter. After my father retired, a unit in the provincial capital hired him to work.
And my mother-in-law occasionally came to my house and said politely: In-law, thank you for your hard work, and you also know that I am a carefree person and will not take care of children. Fortunately, you are careful.
Every time I hear her say this, I can only laugh. But my husband was my own choice, so I could only move forward. But my mother just said it according to my mother-in-law.
Sometimes my mother feels helpless, but she said that she knows my mother-in-law, but she is a little vain and not bad-minded.
Finally, I brought my daughter to over 3 years old. Last month, my daughter went to kindergarten and my mother was responsible for picking up and dropping off the child.
In recent years, my mother has helped take care of the children and has grown a lot older. On the contrary, my mother-in-law is good for high-end cosmetics and has also run a membership card for the beauty salon, and her skin condition is pretty good. If my father-in-law didn't give her money, she would ask my husband for it.
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In late September, my mother-in-law wore high heels and came back from the square dance. She didn't see the road clearly and broke her leg.
is injured for 100 days, and my mother-in-law will be hospitalized. My father-in-law took care of her. She disliked her father-in-law for being tedious and disliked her meals that were not in line with her appetite and was making noise every day.
A few days ago, my mother-in-law went to see her, and her mother-in-law actually made her think on my mother. She complained to my mother, saying that her father-in-law is a big man, clumsy, and she has had enough of it.
What mother-in-law means is that my daughter is also in school, so my mother is responsible for picking up and dropping off her. Can she go to the hospital to see her when she has time and make some delicious food for her? When she went to the bathroom, my mother was a woman, and it was convenient. She didn't look like her father-in-law, and could only stand outside the bathroom.
My mother is a kind-hearted person and almost agreed. Fortunately, she has not lost her mind yet and said she is coming back to discuss with us.
I was very angry when I found out.
The next day, I went to the hospital to see my mother-in-law and asked her why she asked my mother to take care of her. My mother-in-law said, "My mother didn't say anything, why do I have so many troubles?"
I asked her what she treats my mother as?
My mother-in-law said, "Didn't she just didn't give my mother money?" This is better. My mother takes care of her for a month and she gives her 2,000 yuan.
I was very angry at the time and said: My mother has a retirement salary. Does she lack the 2,000 yuan for you?
Mother-in-law said: I know you don’t like me, but your mother and I are friends. This is a matter between us, you care about us so much.
Hmph, for more than 3 years, my mother-in-law didn’t help me take care of my baby for a day. Now she is hospitalized and wants to rely on my mother. How can such a good thing be there?
I also told my husband straightforwardly, I don’t want my mother to take care of his mother, why? My mother is kind, but kindness is not used in this way. My husband also agreed.
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Actually, I know very well that my mother-in-law did not regard my mother as her real best friend, she just kept comparing with my mother. If she asked about this, she would definitely not admit it.
And my mother has been caring about the kindness my mother-in-law has treated her in the past. After I married my husband, my mother thought about making us harmonious again, so she became the one who was easy to talk to.
But this time it won't work. If my mother compromises, I feel even more uncomfortable. Besides, my mother has no obligation.
Later, I called my aunt. During that time, my grandma was in poor health and was close to my grandma. She usually took care of her. I told her about my mother's situation, asked my aunt to pretend to be sick, and asked my mother to go back and take care of my grandma.
With my aunt's assist, my mother happened to go back to her hometown under this excuse. I asked her to stay in her hometown for a while, accompany my grandma and take a rest.
My mother is worried that no one will answer my daughter, so I said that my husband and I will find a way for myself.
My mother-in-law scolded her father-in-law hard. I knew she was angry and took the opportunity to get angry. However, I don't bother with her.
Later, her husband paid for her mother-in-law to hire a nursing worker, but she still picked others and drove away three people. Her husband told her, the fourth one, if she drives away the person again, she will take care of herself. Anyway, my father-in-law was also angry with her and returned to her hometown.
This time my mother-in-law will not be a fool.
However, I plan to stay away from such a mother-in-law.
After this incident, I knew that my mother could see more clearly. Otherwise, with her temperament, she would not have returned to her hometown.
If you have such a mother-in-law and ask your mother to take care of her, what would you do?
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