Some people compare extramarital relationships to poppy flowers, but they know their harm, but they would rather stand up for the sake of that little temptation and stimulation.
Although extramarital relationships start with wonderful and exciting, they will still become as plain as husband and wife's relationship after the passion. So how long does an extramarital affair usually last? Different people will definitely have different time. Let’s see what the three men who have experienced it say.
Liu Qiang, 38 years old, cheated on female colleague for one month.
My wife and I have been married for ten years. To be honest, the passion at that time has long disappeared. I only say a few words every day when it comes to problems related to children. The two of them, who were once affectionate, became disliked by each other and couldn't understand how they got married at the beginning.
When I was drinking, my childhood friend Li Lei talked about the changes in the relationship with my wife. He actually told me a secret. It turned out that his relationship with his wife was as boring as we did. In order to make up for the loneliness and emptiness of his heart, he actually found a lover.
Looking at him now, he is proud of his every day. It turns out that this kid has betrayed his marriage and scored twice.
Later I also wanted to try this feeling. When we were on a business trip with our female colleague Wang Jing , we all drank some wine and had sex. Although I did something wrong after drinking, I was actually still sober. Because I was originally thinking about something happening, I took advantage of the effect of alcohol to indulge myself. That business trip could have ended in three days, but we delayed for seven days before we came back.
At that time, I was really excited and I always laughed out loud inadvertently, just like the young man who had just started to fall in love.
has lasted for a month. I feel increasingly uneasy. I carry my phone with me every day, and I don’t dare to look at my wife in front of me. I also have to deliberately keep a distance from my lover at work. Life is too tiring in this state. The passion I had at the beginning made me feel miserable. After thinking about it, I broke up with my lover.
Meng He, 42 years old, has been cheating for five years.
Meng He and Li Qian have been in a relationship with each other for five years. There have been good memories and tormented years in these five years.
The two were originally their first love, but because the elderly in the family had conflicts, they were implicated and broke up their relationship.
Meng He’s parents thought they had chosen a virtuous and kind woman as their wife for him, but only Meng He knew how unreasonable his wife was. Meng He has no status at home in recent years, and his pocket money in his pocket is no more than 200 yuan. When he goes home, he either does laundry, cooks or does housework. Once her wife is not satisfied, she will point at Meng He's head and curse for three days and three nights.
In order to calm down and not to worry the elderly, Meng He always reports good news but not bad news.
Until later, he met Li Qian by chance. He heard that she was not doing well now. The two people who were wronged comforted each other, and finally got married and became lovers.
Li Qian's existence really made Meng He ignite hope in life again, and only when he was with Li Qian did he feel like a man.
The two also had conflicts when they were together, and sometimes even had a quarrel, they would ignore each other, but the intermittent two lasted for more than five years.
Meng He said that he plans to break up with Li Qian in the near future because he doesn't want to continue like this anymore. Moreover, the children are getting older, so they still have to take into account the impact.
Xuzhou , 62 years old, has been cheating for 30 years.
Xuzhou is definitely a person with a story. He has been in a relationship with his lover for 30 years. The most incredible thing is that his wife knows the lover’s fault, but the relationship between them is quite good. No matter how you look at it, it looks like the life of a single wife and a concubine in the past.
Xuzhou and his wife are arranged by their parents, and they have no relationship. After getting married, Xuzhou went to work in the city, and his wife was at home taking care of the elderly and children.
Because they have been separated from each other for many years, their relationship is average, Xuzhou and his colleague Du Pan became lovers.
Du Pan's husband is bedridden all year round, and Xuzhou often takes care of Du Pan. After a while, the two of them get better.Xuzhou's salary is divided into two halves every time, half to the family and half to Du Pan. Later, Du Pan's husband passed away, and Xuzhou helped to deal with everything.
Later, my wife also came to live in the city and soon discovered the relationship between the two. I don’t know what magic Xuzhou used to make the two live in harmony for more than 20 years.
Now Xuzhou has become a grandfather, and the young grandson knows Du Pan's existence and even calls Du Pan the second grandmother.
Xuzhou said that he actually felt sorry for the two women. On one hand, he was a wife who had worked hard for him all his life, and on the other hand, he was a lover who had been following him for many years but had no status. He didn't want to leave anyone, so he could only maintain the status quo.
Conclusion: After listening to the narrative of three male colleagues, it is not difficult for us to find one thing in common, that is, a cheating man will regret such a thing. But some people are lucky enough to keep their feet on, while others are consciences to find the cliff and stop.
In fact, no matter how long the cheating is, it will harm the original wife. If you want a stable life, you still have to control your restless heart.
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