html What kind of sparks will arise between the 185-year-old widowed mother and the 65-year-old daughter?
My daughter has never married all her life. In addition to taking care of her elderly mother, she often volunteers. Her life is dull and boring.
The old mother is stubborn and "naughty" and always refuses to take medicine, but she secretly smokes and drinks behind her back.
There is little communication between mother and daughter. When the daughter calls her mother for dinner, just shake the bell; when the old mother climbs up to find a book, the daughter uses a note to remind her: "Climbing up to death."
However, the peaceful life of this couple of enemies and mother and daughter has completely changed after their daughter learned that they were sick.
My daughter suffers from Alzheimer's disease, referred to as Alzheimer's disease for short.
This is the video "Mom! The clip described at the beginning of 》 thus opened up a story about maternal love.
In the video, the 85-year-old mother has become the backbone of the family again in order to take care of her sick daughter.
She transformed from a willful old naughty boy to a superwoman who was the only one, bursting out amazing vitality in her later years.
"Mom! The exclamation mark in 》 not only symbolizes the child’s cry for his mother, but also awakens people’s exploration and thinking about maternal love.
Women are not necessarily mothers, but daughters.
There is an indelible relationship with our mother and an indelible bond.
And in our life, we have to experience at least three enlightenment before we understand the meaning of maternal love.
hate being controlled and nagged by mother
We always go through this stage: we feel that there is nothing to say to our mother, and we feel tired as soon as we say it.
Once on the Internet, I saw netizens leaving messages to complain about the way they get along with their mother:
I always quarrel with my mother, but I feel guilty after the quarrel; we can't communicate well, and she doesn't understand me at all; my mother always hit me and said that I can't do anything.
Yuchen in adolescence was completely unable to communicate with his mother. As soon as his mother spoke, he would avoid it.
When eating, Yuchen never served the table; most of the time, he locked himself in a small and dirty room and never communicated with his mother.
The more his mother nagged him, the more he became. For this reason, the mother was very upset and the mother-son relationship fell to freezing point.
For most people, mother's love is always implicit and strong.
Perhaps, mothers are not good at pleasing their children, and they say "for your own good" as soon as they open their mouths, and their control over their children is also suffocating.
However, in places you can't see, mom must be able to hype how excellent you are.
However, it was the first time they transformed from daughters to mothers, and they didn't know how to get along with their children.
Have we observed my mother’s life and emotions in turn when we complain that she doesn’t understand herself?
Many mothers said that they had tended to have depression and anxiety.
Studies have shown that women over 60 years old are at a high risk of depression, with an incidence rate of up to 8%.
Because they don’t want their children to worry, they always silently endure inner depression and pain.
Some people say that true maternal love is a decent exit.
However, in the eyes of mothers, children are always the ones they need to protect regardless of whether they grow up or not.
Others only care about how high you fly, but she only cares about how tired you fly.
Perhaps, everyone will have a barrier with their mother at a specific stage and experience a day when they dislike each other and have nothing to say.
However, behind the heavy maternal love is a mother's unsuccessful concern.
Children and mothers, one is growing up and the other is getting older.
In the process of growing up, we always try our best to break free from our mother's wings, and before mothers can learn to let go, their relationship has gone far.
One day, we will let go of the hand that we held for the rest of our lives at a certain intersection and squander the time we have maternal love.
Mother is the root of the child. The weight of maternal love allows us to fly no matter how high or far, we have a force to return to our roots, leading us to find our way home.
When the child is in a downturn, the mother must be
The mother's love for the child may not be reflected when the years are quiet, but it will definitely be reflected in carrying the burden.
in the movie "Mom! In 》, seeing his daughter in her 60s suffer from Alzheimer's disease, the 85-year-old mother decisively stepped forward and took on the responsibility of taking care of her daughter.
In the later years of life when they were born to death, the mother regards taking care of her daughter as her "second life" and rekindles her fighting spirit for life.
The motivation for all this comes from "I am the mother of the child" . The daughter in the video gradually became unable to take care of herself as her condition worsened.
Once, she was walking with her mother on the way home, and she suddenly became anxious.
When she arrived at the door of her house, her mother found that she forgot to bring the key. She didn't care about her elderly body, broke the glass, and climbed into the window.
However, my daughter was incontinent as soon as she stepped into the house.
The shameful and desperate daughter slowly walked to her mother and cried loudly. My daughter in her 60s is in her mother's arms, like a little girl from childhood, confused and helpless.
The mother did not blame her daughter. She gently stroked her daughter's hair and comforted her, "Don't be afraid, there is a mother here."
She took her daughter into the bathroom, took a shower and wiped her body, and also played with bubbles together.
This scene is like a mother taking care of a newborn baby in every detail.
Once heard a saying:
"Mom has to give for her children and regard it as a sense of mission, but ultimately accepting the separation of each other."
agrees deeply.
Even though children have ten thousand shortcomings, once they face danger and difficulties, the mother will immediately inspire a strong spirit of "protecting the cub".
Really understand this kind of mood of mothers after they have children.
My daughter was withdrawn when she was 2 years old and was often bullied by other children. Once, she was playing in the sand pool and was splashed with sand by the older children beside me. I was anxious all of a sudden and didn't care about my image. I rushed forward and taught the children a lesson, and poured them back with sand.
Afterwards, I was complained by the other party’s parents. Although I understand that I am impulsive, I just can't stand my child being wronged.
Whenever I see my daughter hiding in the corner without saying a word, my heart is like being stabbed by a needle.
Later, I quit my job and focused on accompanying her through the difficulties. It was not until she was no longer afraid of the outside world and gradually showed a cheerful smile that I put down the big stone in my heart.
For a mother, she can accept everything and never leave her child.
Life with maternal love, we have embraces that can act coquettishly, and we will live with confidence in our lives.
Maternal love is the bottom line that supports children's life, without asking for anything in return, without regrets.
The end of maternal love is mutual fulfillment and redemption
There is an issue in " My daughter ", Jiao Junyan was urged to get married by her parents, and she questioned: "Why do people have to get married?"
Gao Yalin replied: "Parents are a wall between us and the god of death."
The parents are alive, and there is a layer of cushion between you and the god of death; when your parents leave, you sit directly on death.
"Mom! In the last scene of 》, the mother pushed her daughter's wheelchair and slowly walked towards the beach.
They dressed in their grand dresses, played in the vast sea and sky, laughing and singing.
A confident and quiet smile was on her mother's face. She hugged her daughter tightly in her arms, allowing the waves to slap her thin body, standing fearlessly in the surging waves.
This moment is the climax of the film and the culmination of the heroic blooming of motherly power.
Maternal love can carry the fragments of life and break through the magnificent wave.
When we reach the end of life, how should we view life and death?
Xi Meijuan once wrote in her creative notes:
Life is the interweaving of all kinds of ups and downs, sadness, joy and joy, and all the collisions of sufferings form the entire gorgeous life.
Writer Liu Yu said: "Parents should thank their children. It is the children who give their void a place and let them experience the mystery and joy of opening up every layer of life."
The role of mother bears not only maternal love, but also the fulfillment of each other's lives, and the power to fight against the blows of life.
Just like the 85-year-old mother in the film, she completes the transmission and return of maternal love in the mutual salvation of family affection.
And she used patience and love to evoke her daughter's memories of family affection, allowing her daughter to constantly release her guilt towards her father in her heart, and finally complete self-salvation.
This is the sublimation of maternal love. It is not only a self-sacrifice-like touch, but also a transmission of each other's spiritual energy.
Finally, We will understand that the end of maternal love is the two lives that fulfill each other and reflect each other in the process.
written at the end
"Mom! There is a scene in 》, in which a group of patients sit together to communicate at the Alzheimer's Disease Mutual Aid Center.
Almost everyone has forgotten their past, but they have not forgotten one person: Mom.
Everyone sang a familiar melody together: Only mothers are good in the world, and children with mothers are like treasures...
Whether I remember you or not, I still love you, my mother.
Lao She once wrote in " My Mother ":
"Even if a person lives to the age of eighty or ninety, he can be a little childish with a mother. Losing a loving mother is like a flower in a bottle. Although she still has color and fragrance, she loses her roots. People with mothers have a stable heart."
Thanks to her mother for giving us a unique life and taking us to appreciate the beautiful world.
I would like to dedicate this article to our dear mothers.
text丨Bai Xiaojing
pictures are from the Internet: movie "Mom! 》 Stills
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