The most difficult thing in the world is to find a person you like, and what is even rarer is that the person you like also happens to love you.
Human beings naturally long for love, long for love to return, and are extremely picky about love.
On the one hand, it is a desperate desire to belong to the object of love; on the other hand, as the writer Alain de Botton said:
Love is unwilling to admit the inherent mediocrity of the beloved, thus showing its unreasonableness.
If the person they love cannot satisfy their perfect imagination, they will become slack, criticize, complain, or even fall in love with someone else, longing for new passion and belonging.
The most despicable "love" is that you can't get what you want, and you can't cherish it when you get it.
Obsession is sexual attraction, which is more influenced by the natural curiosity between the opposite sex. It can make people have deep desire.
However, Valery said:
It is impossible to "love" someone or something you are absolutely familiar with. Love always leads to places where secrets are hidden.
What is rare is that after lifting the mysterious veil, he still does not forget his original intention.
The most painful thing about love is when one person suffers from lovesickness and cannot get what he wants.
In the movie "Vanity Fair", Dobbin is the only character without human flaws in the movie, and he is also the only man who loves with heart and virtue.
He fell in love with Amelia, who had his own heart. Although George did not love Amelia very much, he still helped Amelia realize her dream marriage wish.
Unfortunately, Amelia's marriage ended early when George died in the war. Dobbin spent almost half his life guarding Amelia and even her children.
The only thing he longs for is Amelia's love, but when the brilliance of love fades and cools down with the passage of time, until he is disheartened and leaves decisively...
The ending predicts without any suspense that his happiness has already However, this kind of simple plot and hasty happy ending does not seem to make people feel happy.
If Amelia had let go of the past earlier and cherished the people in front of her, they would not have missed too many years that could have been tender and beautiful.
There are always people who firmly believe that there is such deep love and loyalty in the world, and practice it personally.
Let me ask you, if you spend half your life loving a woman who doesn’t love you, how can you endure it if you don’t have an extraordinary mind and belief?
The ordinary love of ordinary people comes and goes. But affectionate people are dedicated and persistent for a long time.
Some people are locked in asymmetrical feelings. Even if they have never been responded to positively, they are still addicted to fantasy for a long time and cannot extricate themselves.
The cruel thing is, no matter whether you are in the same family or the gap is huge, if you don't love, you don't love. No matter what, you won't get any emotional feedback. You will either end up as a good person, or you will be eliminated as a loser.
Bernard Shaw said:
Love is not charity, so we cannot give generously.
In love, being loved out of the instinct of men and women toward the opposite sex can comfort the soul, while charity love will only make people humble.
Sometimes, love is like gambling. You are not sure it is true. How can you be willing to do it without taking a gamble?
The more you gamble, the more you lose. The more you lose, the more you want to win. The behavior and psychology of gamblers can easily be distorted.
Love is overwhelming, knowing that emotional marriage cannot be forced, but still does not hit the wall and never looks back.
Love can never turn the wrong person into the right person just because of how much it can endure and endure. When encountering a "heart of stone", it will either set you back a lifetime or be a complete failure.
The one-way journey is a hard and lonely road, and it is always accompanied by sadness and pain. Even if you get a hint of sweetness, it is weak and insignificant.
Everyone has his own limit to the sadness and pain he can bear. Love to the point of despair is like a sponge that has absorbed enough water. Even if it is put into the sea, it will not be able to absorb the weight of a drop of water.
Rather than being swallowed up by the pain of not being able to love, some people even choose to end their lives to gain relief.
It is undeniable that the only love is for the purpose of having each other. Even if the love is to the point of paranoia, it is selfless. The only selfish desire is to possess this person, but there is not much calculation of interests.
Selfish and despicable people have neither love nor conscience in their hearts, only calculations of interests. Love should look like love.
Shakespeare said:
If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, then it is not true love.
The more selfish and greedy love is, the more it breeds sin and changes beyond recognition. On the contrary, the closer love is to pure selflessness, the more elegant and noble it is, and it can even surpass love.
Love that transcends gender is a kind of open-mindedness that makes easy progress and retreat. As the saying goes, deep love does not last long, and it is not advisable to persist in love for a long time.
After all, love is a matter of two people.
An important principle in life is to save feelings, and when it comes to love, don't dwell on the wrong, let alone fruitless feelings, and waste your time.
There is a kind of love that is destined to be viewed only from a distance. Getting closer will damage the nobility and holiness.
But from a practical and rational perspective, the love between men and women is usually difficult to surpass their cherishment and love for themselves.
In fact, people have known to love themselves from the beginning, but after experiencing too much, they discovered that the way to love yourself starts with loving yourself.
is not achieved by loving others. In other words, even if you loved others, it was to love yourself, and loving yourself by loving yourself is the most reliable and practical way.
The more you pay, the more painful it becomes, just because this kind of effort has the expectation of reward in your heart, and the expectation is uncontrollable.
It is difficult for people to recognize their own hearts clearly from the beginning, and it is also difficult to examine the love in the world from a relatively high perspective, so it is inevitable to suffer from confusion, confusion and attachment.
Love is not complicated, what is complicated is the human heart and human nature.
Only when the heart is clear and the mind is clear, people will not be easily bound by external emotions, and thus have true peace.
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