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Text: Shili

Illustrations: Sourced from the Internet

"I have been married for eleven years and I want a divorce. I am working hard to make money and have not let her work for a day, but she has no understanding of me. She only complains every day and is fine. Looking for trouble, this makes me particularly upset. tml1

I have not treated her badly over the years. I send money home on time every month. She just does housework, takes care of the children, and takes care of the elderly. What else is she dissatisfied with? What right does a yellow-faced woman like her have to complain about me? ? She is far worse than the wife of my friend. Now I have no tolerance for her. I want to know how to get her to leave the house. " A netizen sent such a private message yesterday.

The author was very sad after seeing this private letter.

After seeing the content of this letter, many people may find it shocking, but in reality, such things abound.

After a man becomes successful and has a little capital, he despises his wife who is a loser and wants her to clean up and leave the house. This is the reality.

These men are often selfish and do not respect women's efforts. They always complain that their women are not as good as other women, but they do not know that they are even worse than other men.

They never know that their wives will become like this, all by themselves.

all say: "First there is a good husband, then there is a good wife."

deeply agrees with this.

In fact, whether a wife is good or not depends on her husband.

A sloppy and unsentimental woman often has a husband who does nothing.

In reality, men often complain that their wives are slovenly, strong, and unkempt. Some even say that they resist and don’t want to get close to her when they look at her.

But in fact, women in the world all love beauty. They have a sloppy image and don't pay attention to their image, almost all because of the pressure of life.

If a person's life is a problem, they will naturally not care about other things.

Life is not only about poetry and distance, but also about the present.

Sometimes it’s not that a woman doesn’t want to be sentimental and beautiful as before, but that she simply doesn’t have the choice of .

is like the love between Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhao and .

Perhaps everyone knows about the talented Shen Congwen who "I have crossed bridges in many places and seen clouds many times, but I have only loved one person."

But Zhang Zhaohe, who Ye Shengtao said, "Whoever marries the four talented girls of the Zhang family in Jiuru Lane will be happy for a lifetime" is rarely known to anyone.

At that time, the marriage between Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe was not favored by others.

Because of the wrong family background and wrong household, Shen Congwen was just a teacher at that time, while Zhang Zhaohe came from a famous family and had many suitors.

But even so, Zhang Zhaohe still chose to marry Shen Congwen, who had nothing.

Zhang Zhaohe was originally a rich young lady who had no fingers in the spring water. She was used to living a life of fine clothing and fine food. After marrying Shen Congwen, she had to "change from luxury to frugality" and took on the role of taking care of the family.

After giving birth to her child, the heavy housework left her no time to take care of her image, so she cut off her long hair.

In this regard, Shen Congwen blamed her. He blindly asked Zhang Zhaohe to grow his hair long again, wear high heels, and dress himself up, but he could not sympathize with her pain of not being able to do all the work, and it did not help her in any way.

At that time, Zhang Zhaohe wrote to Shen Congwen very angrily:

"You are not allowed to force me to wear high heels or perm my hair. You are not allowed to refuse to ask me to wash things, do things, and eat just because you are afraid that I will roughen my hands." It doesn't matter whether things are good or bad, and it doesn't matter whether you wear them or not. Being able to survive is a blessing. "

It was also because of these trivial matters that Shen Congwen became more and more disgusted with Zhang Zhaohe, so he chose to cheat.

In fact, for Shen Congwen, he never really loved Zhang Zhaohe at all. He only loved the Miss Zhang family who fit his ideal fantasy object. When the Miss Zhang family became his wife, he also lost those things. The basis of his fantasy.

When his wife became different from his expectations, he always disliked her change, but he did not know that all the changes in his wife were caused by himself.

If he had done something for his family and could help his wife share the pain of life, her wife would not have become like this.

Because everyone wants to live a happy and easy life. If there is a choice, who would want to live a hard life.

A woman who loves to complain often has a husband who neglects her.

Some people say, "The saddest thing in marriage is not not being loved, but mistaking neglect and neglect for love."

I deeply agree with this.

In reality, men often complain that their wives are just resentful wives who make unreasonable troubles every day.

But in fact, most of the resentful women are caused by their husbands.

Because of her husband’s long-term neglect and neglect, because of the man’s constant disrespect, this has led to a huge change in the woman.

These men tend to focus on their careers and spend all their time outside. They don’t care about their wives at all. They think that their wives are just nannies who take care of the family. If they take the money home, they have fulfilled their greatest obligation, so they can Enjoy everything with peace of mind.

But in fact, family has never been the obligation and responsibility of a woman alone. The family belongs to both parties.

It is not an easy task for women to take care of the family. They not only need to do housework and cook, but also take care of the elderly and children at home. All these things added up are much more difficult than making money outside.

They choose to be housewives not because they are afraid of hardship, but because they just want to share the burden with the family and make the family live a better life.

When they give everything but do not receive understanding and reward from men, they will explode with their emotions.

Then they will start to complain to men, or even lose their temper. What they do is actually the inner child expressing: "I feel very uncomfortable and helpless now, please hug me."

And when their emotions If their needs are not seen by men, and if men do not comfort them but treat them indifferently, they will become more and more resentful, and even be riddled with negative emotions.

They all say: "Real love is not about supporting each other, but about fulfilling each other."

In a relationship, if only the woman is unilaterally fulfilling, then the relationship is bound to have big problems.

When a woman's needs are not seen by a man for a long time, the woman will be completely disappointed, completely lose her thoughts about the man, and then give up on herself to destroy the relationship.

Because the party that pays more will also demand a return of equal value. When this return is not available, they will feel aggrieved and worthless.

Because the essence of love is an exchange of "feelings", and the essence of marriage is an exchange of "value".

The basis for determining whether a marriage will be long-term is whether two people can continue to provide "value" to each other.

A woman’s sad face and complaints are not unreasonable, but she needs a man’s comfort and love, and a man needs to understand all this.

Women are not supermen, they also need the care and help of men.

When a man sees a woman complaining, he must love and care for that woman, because she really can’t bear it anymore.

When a man can see a woman’s needs and is willing to stand by her through thick and thin and face them together, then the woman will only get better and better.

Whether a woman is living well or not can actually be determined by looking at her husband, because the quality of her husband can often determine how good a woman is.

Men must learn to reflect on themselves. No one wants to be a resentful woman, and no one wants to become someone they hate.

For women, when you see your needs, you will have the energy to support you in expressing your emotions. You need to express your needs and be brave enough to say "no" to all unreasonable demands.

Only in this way can you see your true self and gain control over your marriage relationship.

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