Many people sneered at the words that men forced women out, especially men. Don't rush to deny it, and don't take it for granted. Behind all phenomena, there must be corresponding psychological factors. Today, we will look at the psychological nature of this problem through phenomena.
Behind every family needs a person to come forward. As the pillar of the family, if the male character is not good, only the female will be on top.
The family is the smallest unit of this society. It needs a representative to generate more links with this society. If both people can have good social processing capabilities, Better, but in reality, there are often few such combinations. Marriage is weird. It always combines two complementary people. The two people are attracted by the difference, and they also have a huge contradiction.
If you observe carefully, you will find that there is basically a master outside and a master inside between the two parties in the marriage. It is not your initiative to allocate, but the ability to determine.
Tao’s mother is such a "forced" woman. My husband is an electrician. In terms of qualifications, he is definitely the master level of those around him, but in terms of being a man, he may not even be ranked in the generation of apprentices. When doing things, you either dislike the other party's slow hands and feet, or dislike the other party's slippery head, do more when the boss comes, and do less when the boss leaves.
In addition, I always feel that I am the first to enter the industry, and others must respect myself. If the other party does not behave to him as well as he wants, he would rather not go than he would accept it. Wimpy. If this is a bachelor, there is no problem. You have your nobility and dignity to protect, but when you get married, when you are in a good age, you are still raising your family in this way At that time, it would be a disaster for others.
He usually likes to drink, maybe it is to relieve the depression in his heart. Every time after drinking, he always talks a lot. He always dictates things at home, and then when he really asks him to do it, in addition to making things worse, leaving a bunch of mess for you , Nothing else. In some wine bureaus, others always like to persuade him to drink. He who is addicted to alcohol does not have a wife by his side, and he always refuses to come. After he gets drunk, he starts to give pointers in public, which hurts a lot of relationships. After every mistake, he would stop for a while, and then wait for the storm to pass before starting the next cycle.
Every person has a dark side in his personality. When the other person insists on showing it as a good person, then you may have to live out that part of the dark side on behalf of the other person, living out what he wants but cannot face Aggressiveness.
I have heard such a sentence, you can be a good person, but you can't be a good person. When a person likes to be a good person, some boundaries need to be demarcated with aggressiveness, such as mother-in-law relationship, such as Some damage from the outside world, at this time, the other party will evade, or directly deal with the mud, but the consequences of you dare not delineate the boundary, not that the boundary will not be destroyed, and often the subsequent development is the opponent's advancement.
I basically agree with one sentence, if a family has problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, generally speaking, this man does not delineate a clear boundary. Of course, the family is too much It is complicated, but in most cases, a man with his own opinion clearly knows that the boundary of the relationship is there. When a problem arises, he can balance the two sides of the relationship according to his inner boundary scale. Instead of blindly protecting your mother-in-law or blindly compromising your wife. Neither of these can achieve long-term peace.
A man with a good personality label will often make people around you feel that you are very happy, but only you know the bitterness. In many cases, the other party’s choice of extreme personality is destined to show him. The aggressiveness of that side. But because the other party can't face and self-integrate, they will reject you, but in many cases they will show a special dependence. This is also their own contradiction.
All fate is a subtle choice of personality, just like Jung said: the fate you talk about, we call it the subconscious. But many times, we can only see the surface of life.
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