text / Mo Ran
believes that many people have loved such a person in their hearts. Even if they are separated, they still occupy an important position in their hearts.
Some people may not be together anymore, but the good things in the past cannot be erased. It is precisely because of those experiences that we have become who we are now.
But for relationships, it is naturally impossible to accept that there is another person in one's heart.
Especially for the current incumbent, this is very unfair, but you can't care about emotional matters, and you can't stop a person's thoughts.
For someone you love deeply, even if there is someone else in your heart, you will probably choose to be tolerant, but the knot in your heart will always be there.
I really care about it, but I can't leave the other person, so I should learn to treat feelings like this.
Face your problems and face each other's feelings honestly
For a man, if he chooses to be with you, it is usually because he loves you.
As for his ex, that is his past relationship, the story before he met you, and he cannot erase it.
may sometimes think of it in his heart, but that is all in the past.
If you still mind, you can talk about each other's ideas openly and honestly, don't just sulk yourself there.
When there are conflicts and problems between two people, the best way is to face them, face them, and solve them.
blindly doubts and cares about it, which will only push the other party further and further away.
Since you love someone, you should choose to be tolerant and accept the other person's past. Don't just hold on to each other's past. This will hurt each other's feelings.
You must know that everyone has a past, but the past is always the past, and blindly worrying about it will not solve any problems.
If you really can't accept it, leave each other; if you still love each other, don't care too much and face your true inner thoughts honestly.
Give the other person some space and respect his choice
As for relationships, no one can truly keep their hearts free of distracting thoughts.
Everyone has a past in their heart. They may not mention it easily, but they will keep it silently in their hearts.
When you find that the other person still has the past in their heart, but you don’t want to end your relationship, the best way is to give the other person space to digest it on his own.
In fact, no one can guarantee that there is only one person in his heart. As long as the other person does not do anything to hurt you and treats you sincerely, there is really no need to worry about some things too much.
If you can't accept it, there is no need to be together.
If you think about it from another perspective, you may have your own past. If you keep holding on to it, what's the point? What's hurting is your current feelings.
Treat past relationships as a good memory and give the other person some space. If he loves you, he will naturally handle these relationships properly.
Show your attitude to the other person and manage your current relationship with your heart
Some things may be better if you talk them out.
For things that you are taboo about or care about, you should openly express your thoughts and then look at the other person's attitude.
If the other person knows your thoughts, but is still obsessed with it, and the feelings between you are still disconnected, then you have to make a choice.
But if the other party maintains the attitude they should have, there is no need to continue to pester. Just manage your current life with your heart.
A man will know how to weigh the pros and cons and know how to choose. As long as you treat him sincerely, he can feel your feelings and treat you with heart.
Therefore, when encountering a problem, the best way is to solve it, to adapt to it, to tolerate it, rather than just care about it.
In this world, there are no two people who are truly a perfect match, but there are some who are tolerant of each other.
Summary:
For a man, it doesn’t matter whether he can forget his ex or not. What matters is his choice.
He chooses to be with you, which is his affirmation of you. At this time, just manage each other well, and let go of other things. Don't be too clear-headed and rational, you will only be hurt.
