There is an old saying: In some cases, an older brother will take care of his younger siblings just like his father, but the same goes for older sisters in many families, especially those with a certain age gap. couple.
In today's families, many parents have to work hard to earn money in order to make a living, so the care of their children will fall on the older brothers or sisters. In this way, the relationship between brothers and sisters must be very deep.
When parents are old and can no longer support their children in life, the older brothers and sisters will take the place of "parents" and provide certain support to the younger siblings.
Some people may hate " supporting their younger brothers and devil " very much. They feel that this kind of abnormal emotion will lead to younger brothers and sisters having no sense of responsibility, thus putting the family into some difficulties. In fact, if you have not experienced it, you have no right to speak. It cannot be ruled out that there is a type of "supporting brother demons" who do not grasp the right attitude, but their hearts are more caring and loving. As long as they grasp the right attitude, family members will be happy and harmonious.
1. Sister helps brother get married
Xiaoli met Meimei, an employee in her store through her sister's help. In her sister's eyes, Meimei is a gentle, kind, well-behaved and sensible girl who happens to be about the same age as her brother, so she got the idea. Matchmaker thoughts.
After a period of dating, Xiaoli and Meili left a good impression on each other, and soon entered the stage of passionate love. Seeing this, her sister struck while the iron was hot, and the two quickly entered the palace of marriage.
Speaking of Xiaoli’s sister, she is more than ten years older than Xiaoli. Her family’s conditions were not good at the time, and her parents had to endure a lot of hardships in raising two children. In order to reduce the burden on her parents, her sister took the initiative to take on the family responsibilities. She took on the responsibility of taking care of her younger brother.
Xiaoli is also a grateful person. When he becomes an adult, he respects his sister very much. He will never go eastward when her sister asks him to go east. He is also very careful about the partners her sister introduces to him. Meilijian’s boss wants to match her up with Xiaoli. I happily agreed to the marriage.
Although Xiaoli is about to get married, he also has a headache because he has only worked for a short time and is somewhat financially strapped. Of course, his sister understands his brother's situation, so after working hard, he also contributes money, and the house and car are still intact. Xiaoli will take care of all the arrangements for his younger brother, and Xiaoli will just be responsible for being the groom's official in a graceful manner.
2, Greedy Sister-in-law
Soon after they got married, Meili said to Xiaoli, I drive this car a lot, why not transfer the car to my name, so that it is convenient for me to drive it. After hearing this, Xiaoli thought the car was My sister gave it to me, so I asked my sister for her opinion. After getting her consent, I transferred the car to Meili's name.
Unexpectedly, a few months later, Meili asked Xiaoli again, since we are husband and wife, why should my name be added to the real estate certificate? Now Xiaoli was unhappy, saying that although my sister gave the house to me, But the name on the certificate belongs to my sister. Adding your name is a bit unjustifiable. Besides, I am married now. I can't rely on my sister all the time. What I want is that we will save money to buy a house by ourselves and then return the house. To my sister.
The two of them were very unhappy because of this, and they also had a heated argument over this matter later.
After another quarrel, Xiaoli asked Meili, why did you have to add your name? We can't work hard to make money and buy a house that is truly our own.
Unexpectedly, Meili yelled: How much is my monthly salary, and how much is your monthly salary? The current housing prices, if we want to rely on ourselves, don’t you have any points? Besides, what's wrong with adding my name? Your sister has already given it to us. We have the right to dispose of it. I didn't say that I should just write my name. Is it so difficult?
Meili said that she had her own ideas. She felt that she had nothing in this city. This house was her home. Only by adding her name could she feel a sense of security.
3, double standard beauty
But is this really the true idea of beauty? What Xiao Li said next was jaw-dropping.
Xiaoli said, do you still think we are a family? Every time I go home and want to buy something for my parents, you say, why waste this money? But when I go to your house, I spend thousands in the supermarket every time. Let’s not talk about it far away, just say the past two days, my nephew We were shopping together and saw marshmallows and wanted to eat them, but you were afraid of spending money and refused to buy them. Tell us what you thought. After hearing this,
Meimei even said, "Isn't it just to save money?" Is this wrong? When Xiaoli heard this, he retorted, "Save me some money. That's nice. Where did the car you drive come from? Where did the house you live in come from? They were not all given by your sister. You actually gave them to your nephew." You are not willing to spend a few dollars, and you even said it was to save me money. Why didn't you think about saving money for me when you took the money for your family? When you took it back, it was tens of thousands. Meili said that it was lent to the elder brother, and it was not that he would not return it.
What do you want to say about such double-standard behavior as beauty?
4. My sister’s attitude
Later, when my sister heard about this incident, she said frankly that I really didn’t expect Meili’s changes before and after her marriage. At that time, I thought of marrying Meili and her brother because I found her character to be pretty good. I didn’t expect that after marriage, she would not only be lazy but also care about the family. , I thought I could leave my brother to her care, but I was so disappointed.
I originally gave my brother a garage and a house just to make them live a better life. Unexpectedly, my sister-in-law became greedy. She wanted to add her name to the real estate certificate, but she said it didn’t count. Fortunately, the house was still in my name. Originally, I only needed When my brother gets married, regardless of whether it is beautiful or not, I decided to give them a house to make his married life easier. But now it seems that I can let them live in the house first, but before transferring the ownership to my brother, I have to observe the sister-in-law's condition first. It takes character.
Conclusion:
In fact, on the road of life, many things do not have to be in your own hands. You are very happy if you have them. The same is true for love, and the same is true for marriage. As for wealth, it is what you have worked hard for, and others want to take it away. It cannot be taken away, but it is not yours. No matter how much you fight for it, it may not be in your hands.
When people get along with each other, mutual respect is very important. Don’t force things that are not your own, and don’t be greedy. Just like beauty, what if her name is added to the house certificate? If she really wants to Live a stable life, have a grateful heart, and treat every relative sincerely. Sooner or later, the house will pass to her and Xiaoli.
In fact, you should not do things too hastily. If you push too hard, problems will inevitably occur. Just like Xiaoyan in the article, since she is already married and has a house to live in, why does she have to ask for her name to be added to the real estate certificate? If she lives peacefully, is grateful to her husband's sister, and fulfills her filial piety to her parents-in-law, I believe her husband's sister will take the initiative to transfer the house to her younger brother and sister-in-law.
Whether it is love or marriage, if you only ask for it unilaterally, you will be abandoned sooner or later. What do you think?
