Although the "double reduction new policy" has brought burden reduction to many parents and children, for other parents, anxiety still seems to be with them. They are still worried that their children will not be able to learn well; they are still more willing to believe that if their children want to win in the future, they must win at the starting line.
Under the influence of this anxious mentality, many parents are simply worried about their children's learning.
In the past, such scenes were performed almost every day:
- Learn with your child until late at night every night. After teaching simple homework questions several times, the child still couldn't learn them. As a result, adults got angry, children cried and messed up.
- signed up for the child n online and offline cram schools and online classes. There are a variety of courses, and the child is as busy as a gyroscope.
- ...
Investing such a lot of time, energy and financial resources often has little effect. Children's interest in learning is getting worse and worse, and their academic performance is far inferior to others.
Both parents and children feel very painful and depressed.
01 The real gap between children is whether there is "learning ability"
This summer vacation, two parents and friends in the same class with my daughter were chatting with me, and they once sighed: "I have enrolled my child in several cram school classes and bought various online classes. I have been attending four years, and my child seems to be disliked more and more. However, I think others do the same."
I asked: "The child has been in cram school for four years, and he is committed to improving his learning. Are the grades effective? "
Both mothers said helplessly: "It feels very uncomfortable when we mention this. Both of our children have been in cram school for four years, but their academic performance is not as good as those students who have never enrolled in cram school. Sometimes we also doubt ourselves. Is it meaningful to make up for it like this? I feel that the money is just to find psychological comfort..."
believes that there are many parents with the same worries.
In my opinion, before signing up for their children a few years ago, they did not seriously consider and solve the problem of whether their children want to learn and whether they have the internal motivation to learn. The reason is very simple. If the child cannot listen to the class carefully in school, he is likely not to listen to the class carefully in off-campus cram school. No matter how many such cram schools are applied for, it cannot fundamentally solve the problem of improving children's academic performance.
In fact, after all, the real gap between children of the same age is not how many cram schools they have signed up for, but whether they have the "learning ability"!
The first thing we parents solve is the problem of children's "learning ability", and "learning ability" is closely related to learning interest.
So, what is the learning ability? It is a way of learning and problem solving. Children with learning ability have unique insights in cognition, can think independently, have the awareness of active learning and the ability to solve problems. Its core point is to stimulate children's interest in learning.
02 Active learning and passive learning are a world of difference
It is undeniable that many children seem to be studying hard in reality, but if we observe and understand deeply, we will find that a considerable proportion of them are passive learning under various pressures, and only a very small proportion of children actively learn for reasons of interest.
The reason why children who study passively show us a seemingly learning look is often because they are under various external pressures, such as parents staring at each other, rather than being inspired by internal motivation because of their inner interest in learning. This makes it destined that it is difficult for children who study passively to persist for a long time.
I am also a parent of a child, and I can feel the anxiety of many parents about their children's education at a close distance.
What many parents cannot understand is that they have used their whole family to sign up for their children to various online and offline cram schools, but why do they still don’t want to learn, and they have not seen their children have made significant improvements in their studies.
The fundamental reason is that children lack interest in learning and do not have interest in learning, so how can they talk about "learning ability"?
When learning becomes a burden, it is pressed on the child for a long time; or if the child deals with learning, just to avoid being scolded by his parents, then the child will not be able to maintain a happy mood for learning. In this case, how could they have the awareness of active learning? As this continues, children will become more and more tired of studying.
As parents, we must let our children understand the principle of "why do we need to learn". Only by letting children understand this truth can they help them open up a smooth road to the "King of Learning".
On the other hand, if a child lacks a good learning motivation and does not have a clear learning purpose, it will be difficult to generate strong driving force and will eventually become a learning machine.
03 It is not enough to stimulate children's interest in learning. It also needs to use scientific methods to guide
's interest. It is the greatest motivation for learning. It can indeed encourage children to move to the highest level of "entering the classroom" in the field of learning.
But to truly help children achieve the state of "entering the house", parents also need to give their children scientific methods guidance on the basis of stimulating their interests.
- First, help children completely change their negative state of learning;
- second, help children scientifically formulate their own learning goals;
- third, guide children to formulate executable learning plans based on their learning goals.
- Fourth, guide children to make reasonable time plans based on their learning plans.
03 Only by improving children's learning ability can we truly reduce the burden on parents and children
Many parents complain that their children do not like to study, which makes their children become more and more tired and lose their original confidence and interest in learning. The children will think: they are studying hard, and their mothers have signed up for so many cram schools for themselves, but I still can't break through myself. Am I too stupid...
These unsatisfactory problems are essentially because the children lack "learning ability" and cannot experience the value and sense of accomplishment of learning.
If we just keep our thinking of reducing the burden on children to do less homework, read less, and play more, we will obviously not be able to cope with various future school challenges.
In my opinion, the real burden reduction is to help children develop "learning ability". Children with "learning ability" will naturally not regard learning as a "chore", but will enter a state of enjoying learning. This will not be a problem such as excessive learning burden.
Learning is not blindly working hard, but has learning methods and educational rules to follow. Parents should use a relaxed and pleasant way to arouse their children's desire to learn. Even if children encounter setbacks and failures, parents should constantly motivate their children, so that they can experience happiness from learning and gain a sense of accomplishment. This is what learning should be like. Instead of letting learning become a painful memory for children, this learning method cannot go long.
A friend adjusted and changed his educational strategy in time, so that his children no longer regarded learning as a burden, but instead took the initiative to face various learning challenges and began to become more and more confident in their studies.
shows that once parents have a correct view of education, they can play a role in promoting their children's progress, helping their children get out of their learning difficulties, and truly reducing their burden. Children who are light-fitting will have a smaller gap with those top students who are already running to the lead.
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