As a class teacher, we often say "lie". If the child is not disciplined well, we have to say "You are good in other aspects. If the discipline is better, it will be perfect"; if the child does not write his homework well, we have to say "Is this question too difficult? You are so serious, it shouldn't be true"; if the child is distracted in class, we have to say "It is not easy to follow my eyes throughout the whole process, but you have good concentration, you can work harder"...
These "lie" are called educational skills, but all the skills follow one word: true.
Adolescent children are not fools. In fact, even first-grade kindergarten children can understand the good words. They may not be able to tell the reasons for the truth or falsehood, but they will definitely understand the difference. So from beginning to end, we all follow one principle - to make children better.
But maybe this is good, the children can't understand it, and some parents can't understand it either. This is the difficulty of work. Despite this, every teacher with conscience still "coaxes" the children as always. Grades are an important reason, but by no means the only reason.
There is an effect in psychology called Pygmalion effect , which means that teachers' eager hope for students can achieve good results dramatically. Why is it called dramatic? Because in the experiment, the so-called eugenics they chose were actually ordinary students, and it was precisely because they were given a new "lie" that they followed this lie dramatically. And each of our students is actually in the teacher's Pygmalion effect. Wherever the rules reach, they become what kind of people.
Moreover, our lies are not all false. Some children are indeed focused, some children do have special circumstances, and teachers do wait in the office for students to ask questions.
hope that all our lies can make children successful, and we also become better selves while "coaxing" children.
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