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As the saying goes, "Personality is destiny, and tone is luck." A person's character and destiny are reflected in his mouth: speaking reflects his personality, his tone, and reveals his heart. In your life, good or bad luck is hidden in your tone.
How much misunderstanding comes from the inappropriate tone
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "A good word warms three times in winter, and a bad word hurts people in June." How much relationship does it have between people die from the inappropriate tone. Therefore, people who cannot control their tone are likely to have misunderstandings with others, and their lives are also in a mess.
" Rites " records this thing:
During the Warring States Period, , , Qi State , and countless people were starved to death. So, a kind-hearted rich man, Qian Ao prepared a lot of food and distributed it to passing victims one by one.
At noon, Qian Ao saw someone walking staggeringly from afar. I found that the man was so hungry that he was skinny and slow. He barely raised his sleeves with one hand and covered his face, and kept moaning in his mouth, looking very distressed. Qian Ao didn't think too much, and raised his food and shouted, "Hey! Come here and give you something to eat!"
Unexpectedly, this man stopped and glared at him, "I starved to death! I won't accept your insulting charity like this!" Qian Ao found that his tone was inappropriate and hurriedly explained, but the man refused to accept it and eventually starved to death.
This is the source of "no food that comes from pity".
An inappropriate tone can make people complain at the least, and at worst, they can make people suffer severely.
all say: "The speaker is unintentional, and the listener is intentional."
obviously wants to express concern, but because of his stiff tone, he sounds domineering;
obviously wants to ask for help, but because of his rough tone, he sounds arrogant;
obviously wants to praise him from the bottom of his heart, but because of his stern tone, he sounds aggressive.
The misunderstanding between people is often not because the words are exhausted, but because the words are not fulfilling their meaning. Different tones often have very different results.
The classic says: "Speaking should be meaningful, meaningful and relevant, pleasing from greed and anger, and gentle and moderate."
The tone of speaking should be gentle.
When you learn to change "Can you do it?" to "Can you do it!"
Change "How did you come back?" to "Come back!"
is changing the tone and improving the feng shui around you.
As a human being, learn to change the question to sigh. It is definitely more than rhetorical questions, and you are talking well.
Your tone is what you look like in your heart
Xunzi said: "When speaking is right, you know; when you are silent, you know."
People with wisdom and wise things know how to speak more properly.
He told us that the tone is the thermometer with the most accurate language, reflecting the most real appearance in your heart.
The good tone comes from the kindness in the heart. It can make others comfortable and feel at ease.
When the Northern Song Dynasty , there was a great charity named Wang Sitong. Once, the house was robbed by a thief and was caught by Wang Sitong. He also recognized that this person was actually the son of his neighbor.
Wang Sitong not only did not scold him, but instead asked softly: "You have always been a sensible, how could you steal?"
The thief sighed, "It's not a force of life."
Wang Sitong took out ten stans of copper coins and said to him gently: "This money is for you. But it's getting late now. If you take it out like this, it's easy to be suspicious. You can take it and leave after dawn."
Wang Sitong's tone and behavior made the thief feel ashamed, repented in his heart, and finally turned to justice.
People often say that appearance is born from the heart. In fact, a person's tone is even more so.
Tone is a true portrayal of a person's inner world.
The proud person in his heart , the tone is less humble; those who are vulgar in their hearts are hard to show gentleness.
Those who are rich in hearts are mostly confident in their tone; those who are poor in their hearts are mostly resentful in their tone.
The tone is produced by the heart, and the voice is created by man.
Being a person, the heart is peaceful, and the tone will be soft.
The tone of your speaking It is your luck
Soong Ching Ling once said: "The better the tone of speaking, the better the luck in encountering things. "I agree deeply.
language is easy to wrap, but the tone is difficult to disguise.
You can tell whether your luck is good by looking at your tone.
In a black tea shop, a customer called a waiter to curse: "Look at your tea, pour some milk in and it will still be clumpy! Too bad quality! "The manager of
heard it and said softly to the customer: "I'm so sorry, please wait, I'll change you a drink right away. ”
After a while, the manager brought new black tea to the customer and said softly: “Can I suggest to you that if lemon is added to the tea and milk is added, it will easily be clumped. "
At this time, the customer realized that it was because he added lemon and milk into the tea, which caused the clump.
The customer was very ashamed, but because of the manager's attitude, he gave himself face. After that, he kept introducing friends to visit this teahouse, and the teahouse business was getting better and better.
Using a good tone can easily resolve the conflicts between people.
People often say: "It is easy to break if things are too tough. "
The tone is too tough, it is easy to make people feel disgusted, and it will also make you imprisoned and have a bad fate.
Have good thoughts in your heart Spit lotus
A person with a calm and tolerant heart will speak well.
A person with a soft tone can make all living beings happy.
A person with a gentle tone can make people dying.
A person with a gentle tone has a strong infectiousness, can inspire noble people and attract good luck.
A person with a soft tone, slower, more sincere, good luck will naturally be closer to you.
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