Introduction: How do you view "life" ? You may have heard this countless times: personality determines destiny. But do you know that its true meaning is: innate personality determines your initial thoughts and behaviors, and the repeated acquired behaviors allow you to cultivate "solidified cognition of things."
For example, if a stranger is also stretching out a hand to you, some people will think it is a helping hand, while others will think it is to push yourself into a trap. This is the different ways of thinking caused by solidifying cognition, forming different reactions, and achieving two completely different results. The fixed thoughts and behaviors of
create your exclusive aura and exclusive magnetic field, (that is, "Future and Potential" ). The two will continue to attract specific people and things to you according to your inherent aura and magnetic field.
You will find that people with the same values will always support you. You think this is a "noble person". People with the opposite values will occasionally jump out and oppose you. You think this is a "villain". Since then, "destiny" has arrived, and life has been defined .
Cancer wants to improve "fortune" and "momentum", change the current situation, and leap to the higher level of life. It not only needs to borrow power from external objects, such as the things that enhance the energy field.
You also need to completely change your mindset to truly increase your aura. Only then can your life be full of flowers, cross the phoenix and ride the phoenix and climb up to the sky!
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Cancer's talented personality: Cancer's water sign , as the fourth house of the zodiac, " Tianzang Palace ", represents inner emotions and family harmony, showing a person's family prosperity, deep subconsciousness, and life in his twilight years. The solar term represented by Cancer is the summer solstice.
Summer solstice, early summer comes quietly, this season is warm and comfortable, quiet and clear; it symbolizes the gentle and lazy personality of Cancer. Cancer born at this time looks friendly on the outside and gentle on the inside, which always makes people feel like spring breeze. The innocent and gentle temperament of early summer is perfectly reflected in this constellation.
Because the natal sign is influenced by Tianzhai Palace, Cancer's talent and personality tags are: value family, like to stay at home, be gentle, like a harmonious and harmonious atmosphere, and have empathy and empathy for others. Cancer’s purpose is to make themselves and those around them happy. Warm, kindness and humility are about Cancer.
So, they always try their best to achieve their ideals, and at the same time they sincerely help others realize their wishes. Because of his natural altruistic heart, Cancers often have a very good reputation, especially the luck of noble people. This is the potential success factor in Cancer’s personality.
Reasons for Cancer's unsuccessfulness (personal weakness): As the saying goes, success is Xiao He and failure is Xiao He. It is precisely because Cancer is particularly altruistic. So when they communicate with others, they will be too cautious and always think in their hearts: Will she misunderstand if I say this? Isn't it good for me to do that?
This is not because Cancer attaches great importance to the other person, but because of its natural ability to sympathize, Cancer can always be sensitive to the other person's emotional changes, so it involuntarily pays special attention to its words and deeds.
For a long time, Cancers become more and more concerned about other people's emotions, do not know how to refuse, are used to giving in, and are used to giving. He would even rather harm his own interests than hurt others, and eventually became the image of a "good old man" who did not know how to refuse in the eyes of others.
But even if Cancer does not like this tag, they have accumulated too much grievance in their hearts and feel very tired, but they still have no choice but to continue to deal with others in the inertial pattern and maintain the image of "being kind to others".
It is precisely because of Cancer's personality that he is unwilling to argue with others when encountering problems and unwilling to compete with others when encountering opportunities. Therefore, he has lost many important opportunities that could have changed his life trajectory.
A harmonious atmosphere is important, but in order to "harmony" suppress your inner emotions and affect your own rise and growth, is it not worth the loss? According to the changes in astrological orientation, 2-2024, the keywords of Cancer's "fortune" and "potential" in three years are vitality, change, growth, and aura .
In other words, only by changing the inertial pattern and changing thinking can Cancers gain self-growth and vitality, change the aura and magnetic field, and improve the "fortune and momentum" of for three years! If you want to see more detailed analysis of "3-year comprehensive fortune of Cancer from 2022 to 2024" , please click in the upper right corner of this article, and click to follow the author of .
In fact, Cancers have never lacked good popularity, and there are many "friends" around them, but you must remember that friends value quality but not weight. is not as good as good peaches in a basket. No matter how many people you know, it is useless. People who can truly compete with you and use resources with each other are called true friends and "effective connections".
If Cancer can improve the personality weakness of "not knowing how to reject others and not daring to offend others", no longer being a good person, he will become more aura and can also filter out true friends and noble people. After the change of
, Cancer who has gained the strength to grow will be transformed and full of vitality. In addition, the good popularity accumulated in daily life will be supported by "noble people" , and life will undergo a huge change and usher in a qualitative leap! So, how can Cancer improve its weaknesses and win a more brilliant future?
Let’s take a look at a classic case first. Cancer Mu Rou is gentle and kind, and is kind to others. On weekdays, as long as her friends have something to do, she is always the first to go over to help. If her friends have any emotional troubles, they are always the first to call her to complain. Every time she always listens to the other party’s conspiracy and then gently comforts and enlightens her. Her friends like Mu Rou very much.
However, although Murou is happy on the surface every day, she does not act so happy and worry-free in her heart. In life, friends are used to her care and always ask her for help when they have something to do, but some friends obviously don’t give her enough, but they always get a lot.
For example, Mu Rou's best friend Liu Xuan, looking for a job, moving, borrowing money, and the elderly are sick. Every time Liu Xuan encounters such troubles, she is the first to complain to Mu Rou. Mu Rou also contributes money and helps her friends with all her heart.
However, on Mu Rou's birthday, Liu Xuan never gave a gift. When she was short of money, Liu Xuan pretended to be deaf and dumb, and even Mu Rou was sick and never took the initiative to show her concern.
After this, Mu Rou felt very disappointed and felt that such a friend was not worthy of deep friendship. But every time Liu Xuan complains again or asks Mu Rou for help, Mu Rou still can't erase her face in , and does not know how to reject , and chooses to continue to help the other party.
And every time Liu Xuan finds her, she will start a long-term complaint mode. Sometimes Mu Rou is working overtime or dating her boyfriend, and she has to listen to her talk about her troubles for an hour. Even though Mu Rou saw her boss frowning because of a phone call, her boyfriend got angry and said that she had something to do with her, Liu Xuan turned a blind eye to her and continued to talk.
Mu Rou was helpless, but she always felt that it was inappropriate to interrupt the other party like this, so she could only take up her precious time and continue to listen to her crying. Over time, Mu Rou felt frustrated in her heart that "I know it's not worth it, but I just can't say no to refuse" , but she couldn't solve the problem.
In the workplace, Mu Rou also encountered the same problem. Mu Rou, who has outstanding work ability, works efficiently every day and can quickly complete the work tasks in her hands.
Kind and kind-hearted, she is in the altruistic mentality of "being kind to others". Seeing that colleagues in the same group work too hard, she often takes the initiative to help them share some work so that their colleagues will not have to work overtime late at night.
At the beginning, my colleagues were extremely grateful. I thanked Mu Rou for saying a lot of words and gave Mu Rou some small gifts. Mu Rou is the best member of the group with popularity and reputation.
But over time, this kind of thing has become a habit of . When colleagues are used to the endless work, they will ask Mu Rou for help. Even if Mu Rou still has not finished her work, she is embarrassed to refuse directly. So after completing her work, she often works overtime to help others write PPT.
When the boss asked Mu Rou to do extra work, his tone seemed natural, and even acted arrogantly. Mu Rou felt that she was not respected and wanted to get angry. Then she thought that she would look up and not see each other every day. If it was too embarrassing to get along after arguing, it would be difficult to advance the work that needed the other party to cooperate in her hands, so she had to endure it.
Just like that, Mu Rou, who worked in the company for two years, worked diligently and busy every day, and did a lot of work outside the job, but the boss was not sure, and the boss pretended to be blind. At an important internal promotion competition, the boss used some small means to give his "confidant" Xiao Xia the opportunity to get a promotion, but his original qualifications and abilities far exceeded the other Mu Rou, but he was not promoted.
Mu Rou felt very wronged. What puzzled her was that her colleagues who had a very good relationship on weekdays and who had helped each other countless times actually voted for Xiaoxia at the hint of her boss in order to please her boss.
Mu Rou, who gave her sincerity and worked tirelessly to help others, not only lost the opportunity to be promoted and was not valued, but also had deep doubts about her usual "being kind to others" way of dealing with things. Mu Rou felt that she was really a failure.
Seeing this, have you gritted your teeth and griefed your misfortune and angered your unconfrontation? Or, Have you seen your own shadow , and you feel very sad inside, want to hug Mu Rou and comfort her?
Yes, gentle and kind Cancer, it's time to change! Your kindness must be a little sharp, and your abilities and brilliance must not be blocked by obstacles!
How Cancer changes his personality weaknesses and wins the future: In fact, Cancer never lacks ability, but lacks the courage to change himself. So why do Cancers become good people who "do not know how to refuse others"? There are four reasons below.
1. Sensitive and fragile heart
always worry that if you directly refuse, it will make others unhappy, that is, you are overly sensitive to other people's emotions and care too much, so in order to avoid others being angry, you can't help but feel cater to others. The formation of subconscious mind such as
is because of being too concerned about others' views of themselves, and from the bottom of my heart, "If I can't make others happy, I will not get so much love and like."
2. Don't know how to effectively reject
From a psychological perspective, Mu Rou's inherent thinking pattern is called "pleasant personality", and she will unconsciously ignore her own feelings in order to cater to the needs of others.
For example, in the example in the article, friends are used to asking Mu Rou to vent their emotions, and colleagues are used to asking Mu Rou to help with non-professional jobs. Although Mu Rou feels painful, she never clearly refuses. She chooses to ignore her feelings and grits and respects each time, but she does not exchange for the other party’s due gratitude and respect.
In fact, learning to reject is a very important psychological defense. For example, when we encounter something difficult, really doesn't want to help. We can sincerely express that we have more important things to do, and then propose a time period that the other party can't wait for , and drag it down.For example: "I have a PPT that the boss is particularly anxious to write. It will take about 5 days to complete. If you don't have to hurry, wait until I finish the work before helping you."
or hint to the other party, this is your own business. I can help you within my ability, but this is not my obligation. If the other party pretends to be confused and keeps asking for help, you can say politely but directly, "I'm sorry, I don't have time."
Once there was an experience of being rejected, the other party will understand that you will not ask for help anytime and anywhere, and you will agree. Next time he will no longer think that your efforts are "taken for granted".
3. Don’t understand the importance of the “high and low psychological position” of interpersonal relationships
Learning to reject unreasonable demands from others will not destroy interpersonal relationships, but is a positive manifestation of balancing oneself and others’ psychological position and relationships.
If you always don’t know how to reject others, regardless of whether it affects your own interests, will respond immediately as long as the other party makes a request. This model will not only not allow you to win the same reward from others, but will also allow you to always be in the lower psychological position in interpersonal relationships. The unequal positional relationship of
will create a bad cycle. Not only will it not obtain truly effective interpersonal relationships that help each other, but it is regarded as a useful silly white sweetness. is subconsciously considered that you "have no equal value" . When you need help, the other party will think that you are slight and unwilling to lend a helping hand.
This also explains very well why many Cancers have such doubts in interpersonal relationships: "I helped this person so many times, why did he pretend to be confused when I need help?"
Because Cancer does not understand the relationship in psychology, people in psychological "high positions" often choose to turn a blind eye to people in "low positions" because in the past, as long as they put forward their needs, you will respond immediately, 3 unconditionally meet, your help is too easy to obtain, so it is "worthless".
Subconsciously, he will think that you are a "low position" and that your efforts are too easy, so you are not worthy of his efforts. is like a girl who is too easy to get, and men don’t know how to cherish it. It is a similar principle in psychology. The theory of
sounds very "eyed". Most people's first reaction is to refuse to admit it because they do not have such thoughts in their imaging consciousness, but the inertial thinking of the subconscious always exists.
Give an example: Wang Qiang encountered a big problem in his life. Friend A is always enthusiastic about helping him solve various small problems. This time, he still helps Wang Qiang to help him without hesitation.
Friend B has a cold and arrogant personality, always arrogant, and never helps others casually. This time, he helped Wang Qiang at a critical moment. Who do you think Wang Qiang will be more grateful for?
Another example: Tingting was in high school, and her classmate A has always been very friendly to her. Once, Tingting was bullied by a gangster outside the school. A saw it and rushed out of the other party, and said that he would continue to help when he encountered any trouble.
Same situation, classmate B is a school bully. He usually teases and even bullies Tingting in the class, and is also cold to her. However, when he saw the gangsters outside the school bullying Tingting, he came over to drive away the gangster and told Tingting, "He will cause trouble for you in the future, tell me, I will solve it." After saying that, he was still cold and left.
These two people, Do you think Tingting will feel deeper gratitude to whom, and who will look up to you or even feel good about it?
You may feel uncomfortable in your heart at this moment, but you must also admit that this is a gene engraved in human bones. You don’t need to be angry, you just need to figure out the cause and effect relationship and then understand what to do in the future.
4. Self-confidence is too weak., facing requirements that go against one's own feelings, without bottom line is not a manifestation of lack of self-esteem (Cancer's self-esteem is still very high), but , lacks the confidence to "not be afraid of offending others". To put it bluntly, because I am not confident enough, I lack security.
A person with real confidence and a truly strong heart cares more about observing 's own feelings and respecting his true intentions. People like
have very strong principles, although they will not refuse the person who makes demands rashly. But on the issue of principle, they will not give in at all. Their inner thoughts are: So what if you offend me? I can afford to offend and I am not afraid of any consequences.
Cancers lack the confidence to "not be afraid of offending others". In their concept, would rather be "with the light" in the crowd than be a rebellious lone wolf. Only "sociable" will make them feel safe.
To sum up, we analyzed the causes of Cancer 's pleasing personality "does not know how to reject others and dares not offend others." In fact, as long as you know the reason, your heart knot will be half untied. So how should you adjust it next?
First of all, changes the inherent thinking pattern of "if I can't get love and respect if I can't do what others ask."
In fact, you may have tried it before. In the past, you have told yourself over and over again: Even if I meet these unreasonable requirements of them, they have never given me equal care and respect. Why am I doing this?
But you just can't stop your inertial behavior and you can't speak out and refuse other people's requests. Dear, don’t be discouraged, knowing is easy to do but doing . This idea is an inertia that has been created over the years and is deeply rooted and difficult to overturn overnight. Please first train yourself from the simple "repeat" method.
First, instill a truth in yourself and repeatedly instill : No one wants others to make friends with you because they are valuable. Then, if the person who asks you really cares about you, he will not abandon you just because you say a very reasonable reason for rejection.
and don’t care about you and just want to use your people. Why do you care about the other person’s feelings? Losing such a person is your blessing, not your loss.
So whenever someone asks you, you obviously don’t want to do it but are embarrassed to refuse, you can “Recently think about it” : If I don’t do this, he will lose his favor for me and stay away from me, then what he values is just my value of use, not me, so why should I cater to him?
If I reject the other party with a particularly reasonable reason and he still treats me as before, then I will not lose anything, so why bother myself to do it?
Use this brand new thinking mode to train yourself repeatedly, silently practice in your mind, and form a fixed thinking mode at the subconscious level through multiple practices. Over time, your aura will become confident and firm!
solves the problem of subconsciousness. then needs to train yourself, how to stick to principles and how to learn to say "no". For Cancers, it takes great courage to refuse others. They are always worried that directly rejecting others will hurt others.
At this time, please recognize one thing. If you always force yourself to do things that go against your true intentions, you are destroying your self-confidence in disguise and gradually weakening your inner strength. You should know that only those who regard their feelings as their core needs in their hearts can develop real and strong self-confidence.
Therefore, once you realize that the request made by the other party seriously goes against your inner feelings, you must immediately firmly reject . The best way is to use a frank and sincere tone to firmly say the reason for rejection, and let the other party feel your "resolutely say no".
Remember: Your decision is to follow your inner feelings, you don’t need to have any guilty . So your attitude and tone should be sincere enough, but should not show excessive apology , because you must let the other party understand that helping him is friendship, not helping is duty, and refusing is your right.
only needs to be effective rejected 3 times, and your aura and confidence will naturally be established. You will be surprised to find that as long as you say you refuse, the other party will be angry or unhappy, resulting in disharmonious consequences of interpersonal relationships. There is a high probability that none of them will appear, and they are all fantasized by yourself. Fear is like a paper tiger. As long as you are firm enough, it will be self-defeating.
Finally, when you complete the "effective rejection" every time you complete the "effective rejection", reward yourself in time. Even if it is a small thing, you finally successfully reject others, and you can celebrate and invite yourself to have a delicious meal or watch a movie. This is called the "positive reward mechanism" of , which can prompt your brain to form a positive cycle of , and you will do better next time.
Over time, if you develop the habit of , you will not be like a big enemy in "rejecting others", but you will be very free and can speak naturally and easily without any psychological burden.
The magical thing is that you will find that when you really dare to say no to others and dare to offend others, you will no longer be neglected and despised by anyone. At least when friends and colleagues make requests to you again, they will no longer be so natural and will pay attention to your attitude and your reactions.
And the fantasy revenge or irony will most likely not appear. After all, everyone is very busy, and few people will try their best to take revenge on others because of little things without help. That is just a subjective conjecture that you are not confident enough.
Remember, any consequences are not terrible. Just block the water and soil when the soldiers come. If you really encounter a villain who refuses to help, you will take revenge on you. At worst, you will fight.
is always better than because of too many concerns and fear, and talent in the workplace is buried, no light of day, and no reuse. In life, I have always been wronged by my relatives or friends, and I have a unhappy life every day.
Remember, Cancer, learn to reject other people’s unreasonable demands, which is more conducive to healthy interpersonal relationships. Please keep yourself in a state of physical and mental happiness at any time, and face everyone with an attitude of not being entangled or against your will.
Dear Cancer, the person you deserve to love the most must be yourself first. First learn to love yourself well in order to have enough energy to love this world .
Here we recommend the three must-read books for Cancer, "I want to let the person you love suffer", "Learn to say "no", and "A truly powerful person dares to offend people" .
read it carefully, then understand and implement it. Cancer will become fully open, gentle and firm, and have a significant increase in personality charm, thereby gaining a truly virtuous circle of contacts. will be favored by noble people from then on, and achieve a leap in life . The three books of , later there will be fan reading activity , , click , , , , , follow the author of .
In short, because Cancers are born with particularly strong empathy and empathy , they are often too good at thinking about others from the perspective of others and ignore their true feelings to help others. Therefore, the warmth and kindness of Cancer in will be controlled and even used by by those who are interested, which is a sigh.
I hope that those Cancers who are always troubled by their "not knowing to refuse" can learn to add some necessary edge to their kindness.I wish you can be gentle and polite, kind to others, and "have attitude when doing things, and have edges when being a person."
Summary of how Cancer adjusts the magnetic field from the inside out:
Internal force change: 3335
Must read Cancer's three must-read books, "I want to let the person you love suffer", "Learn to say "no", and "A truly powerful person dares to offend people".
Learn to "reject effectively", face the world with a free and confident attitude, become a person who "has an attitude when doing things and has edges in life", gain healthy and positive interpersonal relationships, remove the drought and retain the essence, and truly gain the appreciation of noble people.
External force changes: Cancer, who is guarded by the moon, will become particularly eager for wealth within 3 years due to family needs. However, although the motivation is great, it is difficult to balance the relationship between career and family. You need to change your mindset, change your weaknesses and become more confident in order to get the support of noble people and thus solve the problem.
However, when you encounter interpersonal problems and your fortune is sluggish, don’t worry or be afraid. As long as you improve your aura, change your magnetic field, and be blessed by the guardian planet, the darkness will leave soon. Cancer has a strong gravitational induction to the moonlight. If you want to use external forces to change the magnetic field, you can wear silver-gray moonstone as a guardian stone [Cancer Lucky Bracelet] as a portable item to enhance the energy field.
, especially 022 to 2024, Cancer's 3 years of "fortune and momentum" keywords: Change, growth, vitality, aura . Therefore, if Cancer wants to obtain positive energy, it needs the protective power of the exclusive energy gem - the silver-gray moonstone.
Silver-gray moonstone is also called glitter stone. It combines the romantic intuition of the moon and the bright vitality of the sun. It can help Cancer stimulate strength and inspire, and help increase Cancer's aura and confidence.
Cancer Lucky Bracelet means "through the other side of the world, holding the light in the palm of your hand", helping Cancer purify the magnetic field, dissolve bad emotions, strengthen their minds, and obtain healthy and positive interpersonal relationships. When wearing it, let the moonlight shine more, which will help you meet someone who can support yourself in a good opportunity.
Cancers have such characteristics throughout their lives. As long as the spiritual world is satisfied and relaxed, their fortunes in all aspects will naturally rise. Therefore, wearing the special Cancer lucky bracelet for a long time can help Cancers relieve stress, increase vitality, eliminate inferiority, and become more relaxed and comfortable. Observe the essence of things from a higher level point of view, help Cancers grow up quickly, and positively attract lovers and friends with the same frequency.
Cancer's ideal high-level life: Have an attitude when doing things, have edges and edges, elegant temperament, a calm aura but strong, sober and firm, always keep yourself confident and calm, and have abundant inner energy.
Both the spiritual world and material life can maintain abundance and abundance, no longer have low-key talents, and sharp kindness, allowing you to get flowers and applause that should belong to you!
This is the ideal state that Cancer should have. Remember, Cancer, you deserve a beautiful life with flowers and flowers!
